Another anniversary dance question...

peaches85

I may be overthinking this, but there have been quite a few deaths on my side of the family within the past three years or so.

Would it be insensitive to do an anniversary dance despite the fact that several guests have a recently deceased husband/wife or that several guests recently lost both of their parents who would otherwise have probably "won" the anniversary dance?

My first instinct is to say that death is part of life and you can't constantly be worried about everyone else, but just the fact that many of the deaths have been in the past several years is what causes me to hesitate a bit.

What do you think?

USER876

I would trust your first instinct.  If some of these people were close family to you, you could alternatively work something into the wedding to reflect.

felicia220

I understand your concern but I would still do it.  Unless it was our parents (which H father passed away a few years ago) then I wouldn't do it (which we didn't) but ultimately, life does go on.  And there will still be many people at your wedding who have worked hard at their marriage, that it would still be an honor to those people, if that makes sense.  

On a side note Peaches; I think my bunny likes you, because every time I respond to one of your posts he jumps in my lap......hahaha

kwilkinson14

I agree with Felicia. If the people who passed away are immediate family you may want to rethink it. Not trying to diminish anyone's loses but if it is other extended family and friends, I would still hold it. Everyone is there to celebrate marriage especially yours so I don't think it would make others look down upon it.

You know your situation best and should do what is right for you.

peaches85

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_another-anniversary-dance-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:c23ac282-74fa-43a7-9579-b4dc9ecd2282Post:dee73044-18a7-482e-98a0-12657db458d6">Re: Another anniversary dance question...</a>:
[QUOTE]On a side note Peaches; I think my bunny likes you, because every time I respond to one of your posts he jumps in my lap......hahaha
Posted by felicia220[/QUOTE]
I was going to respond by saying something like: I have that effect on animals.  And then I realized how totally skeevy and creepy that sounds, hahaha.

felicia220

**falls out of seat laughing**  Thats awesome!

uppereastgirl

I don't think it is insensitive necessarily, but it could make those people sad and that's one of the reasons why I don't see how it is an improvement over the bouquet toss.  Also, what about divorced people?  Those who never found the right person and didn't marry?  Those who really wish that their significant other had put a ring on their finger by now?  And as you noted on your other post, you have lots of guests from your fiance's side who are in very long-term relationships but never married.  Those people may not be overjoyed by having to watch officially married people dance while you don't deem them worthy because they aren't married.  (Things like that drove me crazy before we got married -- I hated when people would act like their two-year relationships were far more serious than our six-year relationship because they had gotten engaged quickly.)