Reception Venue Help

cherylanddan0706

Here you go Melissa....

Brad-try again wanker (i'm really loving this word I dont need to censor!)

brad1431

I edited nothing.  I said it differently than the definition, but it has the same meaning.  What do you think common held belief means? 

If there wasnt any truth to it the sterotype would disappear, so as long as a stereotype  exists, there HAS to be some truth to it or it wouldnt exist.  This is just simple logic folks, not sure what there is to not understand. 

JessicaLinick

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[QUOTE]Jessica do I fall into both? I gave advice and bytched you out... Brad...please leave again, you made this board a better place when you left, isn't it tax season aren't you in finance go do your job so you can pay for your wedding. Wanker.
Posted by cherylanddan0706[/QUOTE]

You get a thank you for the advice and a little evil eye for everything else.

uppereastgirl

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[QUOTE]I edited nothing.  I said it differently than the definition, but it has the same meaning.  What do you think common held belief means?  If there wasnt any truth to it the sterotype would disappear, so as long as a stereotype  exists, there HAS to be some truth to it or it wouldnt exist.  This is just simple logic folks, not sure what there is to not understand. 
Posted by brad1431[/QUOTE]

<div>Even if you were correct about stereotypes coming from somewhere (which I am not necessarily conceding), that doesn't mean that they were ever legitimate or that they weren't coming from a time where even deeper prejudices existed.  I'd guess that some (many?) stereotypes about African Americans persist from a time when they were slaves?  So you're saying we should hold onto these beliefs because they came from an ignorant society?  </div><div>
</div><div>Also, speaking of simple logic, "commonly held belief" =/= "hold[s] true in general."  </div>

brad1431

EFFF YOU!!! Just cause I am in finance doesnt mean I have a Tax season, so go eff yourself....you are stereotyping finance people, not all of us have a tax season so you can go to Hell...










Oh wait that is a stereotype, and it has some truth in it, so nevermind....

melissa82

You did change what you originally wrote. I used our handy dandy quote function and captured what you wrote. Now your post that I quoted says something different. That's called editing.

cherylanddan0706

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[QUOTE]I edited nothing.  I said it differently than the definition, but it has the same meaning.  What do you think common held belief means?  If there wasnt any truth to it the sterotype would disappear, so as long as a stereotype  exists, there HAS to be some truth to it or it wouldnt exist.  This is just simple logic folks, not sure what there is to not understand. 
Posted by brad1431[/QUOTE]

The word Sterotype is based on the work Prejudice...nice going Brad you are now a racist...

uppereastgirl

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[QUOTE]EFFF YOU!!! Just cause I am in finance doesnt mean I have a Tax season, so go eff yourself....you are stereotyping finance people, not all of us have a tax season so you can go to Hell... Oh wait that is a stereotype, and it has some truth in it, so nevermind....
Posted by brad1431[/QUOTE]

<div>Wow, that one stereotype has some truth in it MUST mean that other stereotypes are true in general!  Brilliant logic!</div>

JessicaLinick

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Reception Venue Help : Hahaha sorry I live in NYC and my Fiance's family is all in Bergen County so whenever I go to Red Bank it feels like  "southern Jersey" to me.  I know its considered "central" but for me it seems farther because I come from the city.  OK that aside. So I got out my NJ Bride magazine and flipped to back and went to the "Reception Sites" section.  (Have your Mom buy one at the grocery store or Barnes and Noble in NJ).  It breaks down the receptions sites by price and county etc...  It can be VERY off in terms of price but you can generally look at the lower number $80 and up to see that you will never get them below $80.  Many on here will criticize this but in my experience it helps you make a list of places to google and start calling.  So here it is, everything that is $80pp as the lower number (or less), by county NOT including tax/gratuity:   NORTHERN: Bergen: Biagio's Ristorante in Paramus* Landmark in E. Rutherford Michael's Riverside Restaurant in Lyndhurst The Royal Manor in Garfield* Essex: Mayfair Farms in West Orange* Manor in West Orange* Robert Treat Hotel in Newark Hudson: C-Side Restaurant in Jersey City Morris: Chrisandis at the Zeris Inn, Moutain Lakes Flanders Valley Caterers, Flanders Knoll Country Club East, Parsippany* Ravello, East Hanover* Villa at Mountain Lakes, Mountain Lakes* Zeris Inn, Mountain Lakes Passaic: Frank Pombo's Bethwood in Totowa* Grand Chalet, Wayne Tides, North Haledon* Farmstead Golf & Country Club, Lafayette* Skyview Golf Club, Sparta Union: Berkely Plaza, Berekely Heights Costa Del Sol, Union Gran Cenurions, Clark Kenilworth Inn, Kenilworth L'Affaire Fine Catering, Mountainside Westwood, Garwood* Warren: Architects Golf Club, Lopatcong Mallard House, Allamuchy CENTRAL: Hunterdon: Lambertville House, Lambertville* Stanton Ridge Golf and Country Club Ramada Flemington Mercer: Windsor Ballroom at Holiday Inn Middlesex: Forge Inn, Woodbridge Pierre's of South Brunswick Pines Manor, Edison Rosewood, Edison Sheraton, Edison Monmouth: Avenue in Long Branch Branches in W. Long Branch Crystal Ballroom at the Radison, Freehold* Grand Victorian, Spring Lake The Renaissance, Ocean Shadowbrook, Shrewsbury* Somerset: Bridgewater Manor, Bridgewater* Crowne Plaza, Somerset Hotel Sherwood Room at Forest Lodge The (*) indicates ones I've heard of and think you should consider googling. PS I secretly really want an IMBD page too! 
Posted by Lolyalyssa[/QUOTE]

Thank you for this list!  My friend is supposed to be sending me some NJ Bridal mags, but they haven't showed up yet.  I should tell her to get a move on!  I know some of those places are on my mother's list so I'll check them out.

P.S. IMDB pages are exciting when you first get them, but then you get over it (hence why mine's no up-to-date).  Just create a page for yourself and try adding a show for yourself!  Choose one with a big enough crew and maybe no one will notice you don't belong there <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />

Lolyalyssa

BTW my list was Northern and Central NOT Southern according to NJ Bride.

Also, I didn't like Molly Pitcher either. 

I went into this thinking I could do it for $100pp and now I'm spending $150pp.  Go figure.  I booked 22 mos in advance for a Sunday Night of Labor Day weekend but I went with the full cocktail, sit down, Viennese etc... I go to weddings to eat and so does my HUGE Italian family so I cut back on other things to puff up the food. 

It's really hard to do a classy elegant wedding for less than $30K  in Central/No NJ(in my opinion).  Keep that in mind.  It can be done but you will sacrifice on the food/quality of the venue because that is your biggest expense.  If food is not your number one priority you can do something nice with standard wedding food and bring the whole wedding in at around $20-$25K for 125ppl.

I SHOULD give myself an IMBD page!

jaimelody

Lolaalyssa - holy what a list!

Jessica - was FI laid off or does he work as a teacher? Bc you mentioned summer being a compromise since he was working but your OP said he was laid off.

Lola Minnie

I don't have much to add to help being that
1) My budget wasn't like yours so I didn't look at any of those places
2) I heart Caketime and think comments towards her helping were callous and unnecessary
3) Brad, I swore you were an accoutant? So now you are just in finance?

JessicaLinick

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[QUOTE]Lolaalyssa - holy what a list! Jessica - was FI laid off or does he work as a teacher? Bc you mentioned summer being a compromise since he was working but your OP said he was laid off.
Posted by jaimelody[/QUOTE]

He was working full time while going to school part-time.  He was recently laid off, so now we are trying to figure out if he should keep going to school part-time and work full-time or start going to school full-time and work part-time.  I think that will be partly dependent on the job he ends up getting.

Just Jen

I hate to even add this to this thread,because it's clearly morphed into something else...

But there's a restaurant that I LOVE that's totaly beautiful and awesome with amazing food -- FI considered this space briefly, but quickly learned it would not hold our guest list. I'm not sure how many weddings they've done (if any), but I really think they could do an awesome job. (And I'm not sure how many people the place holds officially...)

anway, here it is:

http://www.trinitykeyport.com/

moscatelloc

Staying out of the drama on this on but...

try courtyard on main in freehold.  It prob meets all your requirements.

JessicaLinick

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[QUOTE]I heart Caketime and think comments towards her helping were callous and unnecessary
Posted by Lola Minnie[/QUOTE]

As I have already stated multiple times I have no problem with someone having an opinion that is different than mine.  It's part of what makes this society wonderful.  What upset me was HOW she was responding to me and that was judging me and being rude to me.  THAT is completely callous and unnecessary and I do not take kindly to things like that.  You will see that other people on this thread suggested I change what I'm looking for, that I do research and start a budget and perhaps lower my expectations, etc.  However, most of it was said politely.  Also, she decided to focus on 1 statement that I made in my original post and use that to label me as an ungrateful B****, rather than to look at the question I asked and give the advice I was looking for. 

I can see that she has been on these boards for awhile so I definitely understand if people choose to pick a side (hers).  However, I think it's unnecessary for people to come to her rescue and start saying that I have been the one that is callous and unnecessary.  You'll see that I never told her to F off or called her names, as she did to me multiple times.

JessicaLinick

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[QUOTE]Staying out of the drama on this on but... try courtyard on main in freehold.  It prob meets all your requirements.
Posted by moscatelloc[/QUOTE]

I just scanned their pictures and it looks great!  Officially added to the list :-)

brad1431

Jessica, you will learn, that is how they are.  You cant have a different opinion on here.  Try posting something negative about a teacher, or a dress, or reception hall, or a photobooth, anything, and they go nuts.   They have their little knottie rules and if you dont fit into their mold and live in their pretty pick princess wedding world, they go nuts on you.  They live in this weird world of knottie get togethers and facebook groups and all have one collective group think, that they dont want you to deviate from.

melissa82

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[QUOTE]3) Brad, I swore you were an accoutant? So now you are just in finance?
Posted by Lola Minnie[/QUOTE]

He is an accountant.

uppereastgirl

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[QUOTE]3) Brad, I swore you were an accoutant? So now you are just in finance?
Posted by Lola Minnie[/QUOTE]

<div>I thought he was an accountant too. But either way, it could be major busy season for him because of issuance of financial statements.  My (accountant) husband does not do taxes (even our own ... that's my job ... grr), but he hasn't left the office before midnight in weeks.  I haven't even had a conversation with him since Monday.  So fair guess either way.</div>

uppereastgirl

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[QUOTE]Jessica, you will learn, that is how they are.  You cant have a different opinion on here.  Try posting something negative about a teacher, or a dress, or reception hall, or a photobooth, anything, and they go nuts.   They have their little knottie rules and if you dont fit into their mold and live in their pretty pick princess wedding world, they go nuts on you.  They live in this weird world of knottie get togethers and facebook groups and all have one collective group think, that they dont want you to deviate from.
Posted by brad1431[/QUOTE]

<div>Fair enough, but I'd love to see your reaction to a "Recommend a reception hall -- my per person budget is $250 a person" or "Recommend a photographer, money is no object" thread.  I think you're just as guilty as anyone else.</div>

JessicaLinick

All right folks...I was simply looking for venue suggestions, not intending to start a fight.  So for everyone's sanity, let's say we stop this thread unless it is about the original question...venues.  Agreed?

uppereastgirl

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[QUOTE]All right folks...I was simply looking for venue suggestions, not intending to start a fight.  So for everyone's sanity, let's say we stop this thread unless it is about the original question...venues.  Agreed?
Posted by JessicaLinick[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>You're new here so you don't know all about Brad.  He can turn even an extremely innocent thread into a 100+ post fight about something exceedingly inane and/or ignorant.  It is probably his best talent.</div><div>
</div><div>I'm sure he'll chime in soon with another precious thought.</div>

Lolyalyssa

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Reception Venue Help : You're new here so you don't know all about Brad.  He can turn even an extremely innocent thread into a 100+ post fight about something exceedingly inane and/or ignorant.  It is probably his best talent. I'm sure he'll chime in soon with another precious thought.
Posted by uppereastgirl[/QUOTE]

That's true about Brad but Brad didn't start this fight.  He started the fight over on the teacher board. 

JessicaLinick

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Reception Venue Help : You're new here so you don't know all about Brad.  He can turn even an extremely innocent thread into a 100+ post fight about something exceedingly inane and/or ignorant.  It is probably his best talent. I'm sure he'll chime in soon with another precious thought.
Posted by uppereastgirl[/QUOTE]

That was pointed toward everyone, myself included.

Lolyalyssa

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[QUOTE]Jessica, you will learn, that is how they are.  You cant have a different opinion on here.  Try posting something negative about a teacher, or a dress, or reception hall, or a photobooth, anything, and they go nuts.   They have their little knottie rules and if you dont fit into their mold and live in their pretty pick princess wedding world, they go nuts on you.  They live in this weird world of knottie get togethers and facebook groups and all have one collective group think, that they dont want you to deviate from.
Posted by brad1431[/QUOTE]

Brad is %100 right about this.  You just have to ignore the nonsense and try to get the Board back to its POINT which is to talk about WEDDINGS!

cherylanddan0706

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Reception Venue Help : Brad is %100 right about this.  You just have to ignore the nonsense and try to get the Board back to its POINT which is to talk about WEDDINGS!
Posted by Lolyalyssa[/QUOTE]

You have got to be kidding me, Lolya how long have you been on this board, how many times has brad given any type of recco or advice, NONE, don't stick up for someone who actually thinks that everyone on this board is a jerk, and he is perfect, you want to be a person people want to acknowledge on this board, be honest, not a fake person like Brad... I am I'm sorry if you want to believe that everyone should be nice and sweet and give bad advice but thats not the topic of this board...if you don't want the honesty watch what you say end of discussion...

mscutieri

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[QUOTE]Jessica, you will learn, that is how they are.  You cant have a different opinion on here.  Try posting something negative about a teacher, or a dress, or reception hall, or a photobooth, anything, and they go nuts.   They have their little knottie rules and if you dont fit into their mold and live in their <strong>pretty pick princess wedding world</strong>, they go nuts on you.  They live in this weird world of knottie get togethers and facebook groups and all have one collective group think, that they dont want you to deviate from.
Posted by brad1431[/QUOTE]

I am not someone who usually corrects spelling or grammar, but I read this and saw that brad meant ot say pink instead of pick -- but immediately in my head popped a picture of me and FI and the wedding party, standing in a coal mine, with lighted helmets on our heads and picks slung over our shoulders.......don't ask, it's been a LONG day!

Lolyalyssa

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Reception Venue Help : You have got to be kidding me, Lolya how long have you been on this board, how many times has brad given any type of recco or advice, NONE, don't stick up for someone who actually thinks that everyone on this board is a jerk, and he is perfect, you want to be a person people want to acknowledge on this board, be honest, not a fake person like Brad... I am I'm sorry if you want to believe that everyone should be nice and sweet and give bad advice but thats not the topic of this board...if you don't want the honesty watch what you say end of discussion...
Posted by cherylanddan0706[/QUOTE]

I think people on the board should give advice about WEDDING related stuff on the WEDDING RELATED POSTS.  This post was suppossed to be about helping Jessica with venues and it turned into nonsense.

DS0305

I think she's the one who turned it into nonsense herself.