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Announcing your scheduled C-section on facebook
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A friend of FI just posted on facebook that she's going in for her c-section today to have her baby. She had this planned for months. I just disagree with this on so many levels. I'm a strong believer in natural births (unless there are outlying complications). You should not be scheduling your baby's birth. And to top it off- announcing it on facebook. UGH!
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Re: Announcing your scheduled C-section on facebook
I've had a few friends post things like "The baby will be here by Friday!" and then on that Friday "Today's the day!" because they knew ahead of time that they would be induced no later than a certain date, because that's what was safe for baby and mom. I think most family and friends are interested in knowing when the baby is going to come, so I see facebook as a good way to spread the word to everyone.
I think announcing that it is a c-section may border on oversharing, but on the other hand it is something that seems like a pretty common detail to share with friends, family, etc. I also wonder sometimes why someone about to give birth has the time to be on facebook, but then again, I got an email from my sister about something random/casually mentioning that the birth was imminent about 20 minutes before I got an email from her saying "Baby arrived!" with all the relevant statistics. Which, ew, but I think people are just really wired nowadays, and some people can't put down their Blackberries.
I've actually seen much worse on facebook! Some people get a little too personal.
But this just reminds me of someone at work. I didn't work with her, but she worked with the woman who sat next to me. She was in the delivery room and kept calling in to work to make sure certain stuff was getting done. I'm just sitting there like OMG just go have your baby and quit worrying about work.
[QUOTE]There was a post on I think Money Matters on the Nest a few weeks ago that I think is much clearer oversharing. MMer's friend had a blog about her pregnancy and then her birth. Not only were pictures of the water birth shared, but the blogger also wrote that the midwife recommended sex after birth for some reason or another, so she and her husband had sex right after. *THAT* is oversharing. And there was an update a few days later that she *somehow* got an infection down there shortly thereafter. Awesome.
Posted by uppereastgirl[/QUOTE]
eww.
I have my own opinions on birth and motherhood here in the states (we DO have the highest rate of non-medically dictated C-sections in the world, I believe), but since I am not planning on having kids any time soon, I don't spread them around.
On the other hand, a very dear friend of mine had to go through so much more medical intervention than she wanted, because she very nearly lost the baby twice, and to save both of them, they pulled Baby at 29 weeks. Said Baby is now nearly 2 and quite the cutie. So, yeah, each situation is different.
today FIs little sister announced she and her 18 year old hubby are trying to get pregnant. he must have some good swimmers since he's stationed in california and she's living with her parents in maryland!
She just had the baby recently. Posted when her water broke and they were headed to the hospital. Posted from the bed as to how many centimeters she was dialated. Posted when she was about to start pushing. Posted after the baby arrived with multiple photos. Posted the next day about how he passed his exams and that he'd been circumsized.
Yeah.
[QUOTE] Posted when her water broke and they were headed to the hospital. Posted from the bed as to how many centimeters she was dialated. Posted when she was about to start pushing. Posted after the baby arrived with multiple photos. Posted the next day about how he passed his exams and that he'd been circumsized. Yeah.
Posted by mbcdefg[/QUOTE]
This is when the "hide" feature works wonders.
[QUOTE]Alot of people have C-Sections for many reasons and can't have a natural childbirth. Their OB is not going to give them a C-Section just for the heck of it, so obviously there is a reason why is she is getting one .
Posted by connor24[/QUOTE]
umm, you might want to do a little research about that. plenty of people get c-sections that do NOT need them.
C-sectiosns are MASSIVE operations that can permanently damage your body, not to mention most women are told to avoid natural birth after a C-section, as the healed tissue can't take the strain. C-sections are also hugely traumatic to baby AND mother in so many ways.
It can certainly save lives (as I posted above with my friend), but when people start scheduling C-sections from the moment they get pregnant, just because they want the baby to fit into a schedule (which is terribly common)... yeah. Not so good.
I'm just going off of what I've been told... I'm sure there's lots of info out there about it.
It sounds to me like she is just excited to finally be done being pregnant and meet her little baby.
So answer this the day you get married are you going to write on facebook today is the day! or something to imply you are getting married on that day?
I am sure you will, and while you think her stating about her c-section is over sharing, other people may feel the same about you. Since it is not one of your friends and it is FI's how do you know it's not medically necessary? Aren't you passing judgement?
THANK YOU Julephenia! A C-Section is MAJOR surgery with MAJOR drugs to numb you. After having a child the natural way, you can get up, use the bathroom normally, hold your baby... but a c-section requires a significant amount of recovery!
I don't get how you can be scared of labor and not be scared of having your entire stomach cut open.
Once again, when medically necessary there is definitely a place for it, but women are designed in such a way that we do not need to have our babies cut out of us because it fits better in our "plans".
I SOOOO don't understand elective c-sections and why any drs think this is a good idea, except for selfish reasons (Gotta make that Tee Time!!)