Stressed and only at stage one!

Aimeeeee

Hello there,
I am new to this site, what a fantastic idea!
I am hoping for some advice or to hear from someone who has dealt with this situation.
Who thought getting a wedding date would be so stressful.
Me and my fiance live in the UK and its our dream to get married in Las Vegas as we absolutely love the place and want something small but memorable.
We want to get married next year but whichever date we come up with there is a problem.
Myself, fiance, his parents and my mum can go at any time during the summer/autumn. His sister works in a school and wants to come with her eldest son (at high school) so can only come in the school holidays. My brother-in-laws work will not let him have any time off during the school holidays next year and friends are also struggling.
We thought we had come up with a perfect date that both his sister and my brother in law could attend the ceremony which would be a weekend in between holidays & school term at the end of august but yesterday I got an email from my dads partner saying she had already planned a suprise holiday for my dads 60th so can't do last week in august or the first week in september.
That then leaves us with July at which his parents already have a holiday booked, as this was before my fiance proposed so thats no good. And july/beginning of August possibly too hot and would still have the issue with my brother in law.
So that left us with June half term (which my dad is struggling with due to his job, and less time to save) and november (which my fiance doesn't want to do).
Really don't know what to do for the best, everyone is saying its our wedding just pick a date that we want, which I know is true but I get daily phone calls, texts, emails from everyone so excited. If we did just pick a date at least one person is going to be upset and I feel it would look like we are favouring others. Just don't want to upset anyone.
Help??x

bbuckner984

We too had a very difficult time choosing our date, for about the same reasons you listed. Eventually we had to decide who the MOST important people we wanted there were and get somewhat in line with their schedules. You are never going to please everyone, and you will be surprised what people will do to arrange to attend your wedding. Give them enough time to plan to attend and they can fit it in.

I know that isnt a "pick this date" kind of helpful post, but hope it helped in some way

mu55in

i am a UK bride too and I agree with the above unfortunately you will never please everybody and ultimately it's your day I've found that I was getting so stressed worrying about everyone else that my new motto is it's our day and if people want to be there they will if they can. We are having a a party at home for those who can't make it and that seems to have made people alot happier!

wiwicaty

I'm sorry I'm no help.... I kinda agree with the ones who tell you to just pick the date that works best for you. It sounds like you want to please everyone but that just might not be possible. You're giving people almost a year to figure out their plans, I think that's the best you can do. Whatever you decide things might change in the course of the planning so I wouldn't count 100% on anyone's presence until they have actually booked the flight. At least that was my experience. June is a great month for Las Vegas, our June 7th wedding was perfect, as was the weather. If you need more time to save up then it goes by itself that you should pick a date according to your budget but other than that I wouldn't pick one I'm not crazy about to please others. Just set it! It will be a great feeling for the two of you and it will all get really exciting from there ))

GL!

vegasgroom

Yep, I'd just pick a date and make the rest work around it; just avoid a huge convention week or a US holiday if possible as you'll either run into crowds or will probably pay a lot more for rooms, flights and everything else.  Here's the convention schedules:

http://www.lasvegastourism.com/conventions_apr.htm

sduran80

I agree with PPs, you need to pick a date that suits you and your FI.  You'll drive yourself crazy trying to please everyone else.  My FI and I both have HUGE families (he's Philipino, I'm Mexican), so we just picked a date and told our moms and my sister "we're getting married in Vegas on May 11, 2012".  Those were the 3 most important people in our lives, and we knew they'd do what was necessary to be there on our wedding day.  

I know it's tough and seems selfish, but this is the first of many stressful decisions you're going to have to make in wedding planning.  You have to pick a date and everything will work out around that.

jenjenaz

i would make a list of the 'absolutely, cannot get married without them at my side' people.  for me, that's my dad and stepmom.  for FI, that's his dad, mom and sisters.

we then tried to accomodate other schedules, but prioritized our dates based on the short list of must haves.  then we picked a date.  strangely enough, people that said they couldn't make it....they're making it.

work out the best solution for the people that HAVE to be there.  (includes you and your FI!)

smokeybailey

Avoid major sporting event weekends as well.  Rates and occupancy notoriously go up during Super Bowl, March Madness, the Derby, etc. 

We picked a date that would work for us and went from there.

EverlastingLove2012

Don't rule out July or August if it comes down to it. Sure, it's hot here, but if you do an outdoor evening wedding, temperatures really cool off, and if you do an indoor wedding, temperature won't matter. It's been very comfortable this summer. The lack of humidity will make it feel ten degrees cooler than it does in the UK.

average August temps:
http://www.weather.com/weather/monthly/USNV0049

smokeybailey

August is an awesome time to get married.

Just sayin'.

Aimeeeee

Thanks everybody! I'm amazed at the amount of replies!
We have decided to get married beginning of November after all. We were initially concerned the weather might not be so good (we want to go to san francisco then new york for honeymoon) but seems ok.

Haven't had the best of responses from mainly my side of the family eek but after the initial expression of frustration everyone has said go for it and they'll be there. 
Its mainly been to ensure his sister can come which was taken as a bit of favouritism but they understand it was not the case now, so as long as she doesn't back out last minute everything is good.
Thanks everyone x 

smokeybailey

SF in November is on the cold, ugly side.

LilMissScareAll

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_stressed-only-stage-one?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:91Discussion:4108e1bb-ef6c-449f-9045-9da33fbf7f28Post:ccd2f14a-c39c-4edb-9f3b-136d49332b4f">Re: Stressed and only at stage one!</a>:
[QUOTE]SF in November is on the cold, ugly side.
Posted by smokeybailey[/QUOTE]

Yeah, but so is July. We went there for my bday a few years ago. I only brought shorts, skirts and dresses. We had to find a Macy's so I could buy a pair of jeans and a hoodie. That was 4th of July weekend. NY sucks in the summer too. Hot & Humid. Ick

smokeybailey

The last two years (09/10) we ran the half marathon and it was AWESOME. 

At least in July you have a chance.  November.  Yuck.  All month long.