Things are never as nice as they seem

slm13

Anybody remember the wedding present that I got the week before Christmas?  It was a Harry and David tower from one of SILs, in-laws (her husband's bro and sil).  Well, I mentioned it to SIL and found out why we received it. 

Her SIL is pregnant and due in April.  She (SIL's-SIL) wanted to make sure that I would come to her baby shower in February and that we would be generous (her husband told his bro, my BIL, this, which my SIL then told me).  Of all the tackiness in the world....

Er/jer

Very tacky.  And, on top of it, men are so dumb to tell people this and think it won't get back to the person.

Sounds like something came up for that day and you won't be able to make it.

KimWard

Wow, that stoops to a whole new level of tacky!! Not only did she think she could bribe you into coming to her baby shower, but to "be generous"?! I'd love if you purposefully didn't go now!

KRMac

Um, WTH?  Who buys a gift in order to get someone else to buy them a gift?  And why would she even want you at her shower that much...I wouldn't want my SIL's SIL at mine!  That's too removed for me.  IMO it should just be your close family and friends.

marburs

oh wow. She seems like a real winner.  I would say don't go, but send an ever so nice Harry and David's tower... right before your birthday party.

elishanb

Or maybe your generosity level just dropped.

People are so ridiculous, why would someone even say that? Couldn't they just left it as a nice gift for the two of you and the be that? I agree with Er on this one, men just don't seem to understand that it will get back to us if it is said to one another.
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slm13

KR - I agree.  For whatever reason, we have been invited to every party that this couple has, as long as it is a "gift" party.  We were invited to their engagement party, their bridal shower, and their wedding.  However, we've never been invited to their home for a dinner party or a summer cookout.  Hmmmm, I wonder why they do that :P

marburs

you must give really good gifts!

slm13

BTW, I part of me wants to skip the shower, but part of me really wants to go.  This couple loves to spend money and to have really, really expensive affairs.  I know what they (well, her parent's actually) spent on their wedding and it would make most people on here gasp. 

She is planning the whole shower herself, so I kind of want to know what it's going to be like.  I think I may do the go for food, then have an emergency phone call from work so that I have to leave before the gifts are opened.

I told J that I am crocheting a blanket for her (total cost, less than $10 (bought yarn on sale) + time).  That's it.  We've spent plenty on this couple already.

marburs

thats actually a really cute gift.  And I dont blame you for going for the food- totally something I would do!  Need a date?

colleenmclaughlin1

WTH is wrong with people?  That's absolutely rediculous.  But I adore your plan. 

LaFemmeRousse

So tacky.  And how weird and sneaky, too, especially that they consciously talked about it and then word got around...

KRMac

That is really sweet of you. 

Er/jer

I love that!  I always really appreciate home-made gifts like that. 

dreamalotmp

Eww. That's terrible! What tackiness.

I think the blanket is nmore than generous enough. Maybe throw in a box of Good N Plentys? :P

KimWard

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[QUOTE]Eww. That's terrible! What tackiness. I think the blanket is nmore than generous enough. Maybe throw in a box of Good N Plentys? :P
Posted by dreamalotmp[/QUOTE]

Lol! S, I'd go for the food too. Please report back afterwards- I am curious!

king26

Good plan on the emergency phone call, HA!  That's really nice of you to make the blanket though, I don't think I'd be that generous.  (Sometimes the gift of time is better then money!)  But tacky, tacky, tacky on their part.

brivb10

Ugh.  Men are so stupid to repeat this stuff. 

BTW, I think a homeade blanket is far too generous.  Your time is super valuable, and the thought/effort behind it is more than this chick deserves.  I won't lie though, I'm stoked to hear about the food!