Umm...thanks?

bel138

FMIL just kept me on the phone for 10 minutes detailing the type and number of cookies she and her friends are making for the wedding. I mean, I really appreciate this and all, but I just don't care. And it's four months until the wedding. I've tried to tell FI that this is the kind of stuff that is stressing me out and making me hate wedding planning. Last weekend, we went to get a baker and florist. And FIL's met my parents. It was like the most excrutiating weekend of my life. People asking 4378294732 questions about minutiae that I just don't care about. This is really why I wanted a small wedding with a reception at a restaurant that would take care of all the details. I don't care about what kinds of cookies there are. I don't care about what kind of flowers are in the bouquet. I don't care about the 50 different types of veils. I know it will be November and it's cold outside, but I've already prepared for that. You don't need to ask me about what happens if I get cold. I don't care about decorations on a cake as long as it shows up in one piece. I don't care about the fact that my invitations don't "match" my "wedding colors." I'm just beyond the point of wanting everything to be perfect. I've been planning this damn wedding for almost two years. There is only so much of it I can take. As long as we're married at the end of the day, that's all that matters to me. I'm so close to just cancelling everything since there has only been $400 in deposits so far and hauling FI off to church.I wish people would stop treating me like I need to go all bridezilla on everyone and have everthing perfect for my PRETTY PRINCESS DAY!! If one more person says, "But it's YOUR day, and you should have everything exactly how YOU want it," I'm going to flip out. My life does not revolve around this wedding. And oh yeah, there's a GROOM here that has an opinion too, believe it or not. There are bigger and better things in my life I want to accomplish aside from having my invitations, BM dresses, flowers, napkins, and icing on fricking cookies all match. I'm sorry. That turned very long and very bitter fast. I'm going to go get a haircut and go to Christina's (CC7373) wedding now. Hopefully it will remind me of how nice everything will eventually turn out.

elishanb

I love this post. I'm sorry your going through all of this, but chin up cause you are so close to being done. I feel the same way and I'm just getting started in my planning. even my MOH told me the other day that she "can't wait till I go crazy and get bridezilla on everyone" Your totally right there is a groom and it's his day too I wish people would realize this and see that it's not a pretty princess day for all of us, for some of us it reall is just a great day where we get married to the person we love and who cares what the flowers look like (no one will remember them anyway ) good luck! and I hope your weekend gets better!

jennybean2010

Whoa...makes me wonder what you think of those of us that do care about those things. I guess the point is that it is yours and your FI's day so if neither of you care about certain details then say so and be done with it. However you are hiring ppl whose sole job it is to care about those details and its their job to ask about your opinion and what you want at least once so you cant really get away from it. Take a deep breath, answer their question and move on. Why arent you guys going away to get married? There would be fewer minute details.

bel138

I just got home.It doesn't bother me that other people care about these things. That's their life and their wedding. We all have different things that are meaningful to us. I just don't care about the "typical" wedding details. It's not the vendors that are drilling me with questions. I walked into the florist, told her what I wanted. FI took longer to pick out his bout that I did for the rest of the ceremony flowers. The baker took even less time. I told them I want a plain white cake and I have a cake topper for them to shove in it. It's our parents and every other person we talk to. We didn't elope because it was important for FI to get married in his home church. I wanted a small wedding (50 people), and FI wanted a larger formal one. We compromised. It's also difficult to elope with a Catholic wedding. But really, if I knew then what I do know, I would have figured out a way to run far, far away.

pinksonya

Well said!  I can definitely relate. But you're almost there!  Everything is pretty much set.  Just nod and say yes to humor the parents, but try to tune them out.  Everything will be great!