Baby fever

npott044

So I have baby fever! Every time I see a baby I think of how much I want one and I wish it was next year so I could be trying to have one. Funny thing is up until maybe a year ago I never wanted kids nor did I want to get married. Funny how things changes!

P.S. FI has had baby fever for the last year. He wanted to start having children last year and I was like no...call me traditional but I need a ring first!

junebug19

I could have written that! FI asked me this a.m., "when can we start having babies?" (but I rather traditional too)  This only started recently, after he told me how cute his friend's new baby is. I was kind of suprised, I always figured he would have a whole financial plan written out before he even thought of having a baby! But, now he's surrounded by construction workers with pregnant wives and he's telling me, "I've heard its very hard on a guy to have a pregnant wife, especially during the summer, it can be just miserable, we should time it properly" DORK- but I would love to hear what those guys say about their poor wives.

junebug19

I could have written that! FI asked me this a.m., "when can we start having babies?" (but I rather traditional too)  This only started recently, after he told me how cute his friend's new baby is. I was kind of suprised, I always figured he would have a whole financial plan written out before he even thought of having a baby! But, now he's surrounded by construction workers with pregnant wives and he's telling me, "I've heard its very hard on a guy to have a pregnant wife, especially during the summer, it can be just miserable, we should time it properly" DORK- but I would love to hear what those guys say about their poor wives.
and its not just him, I can't wait either.  

romamor4

We have total baby fever too!! It also doesn't help that a few of our friends just had cutie little ones. Not to mention the fact that three of my bridesmaids are pregnant! We cannot wait! )

junebug19

I could have written that! FI asked me this a.m., "when can we start having babies?" (but I rather traditional too)  This only started recently, after he told me how cute his friend's new baby is. I was kind of suprised, I always figured he would have a whole financial plan written out before he even thought of having a baby! But, now he's surrounded by construction workers with pregnant wives and he's telling me, "I've heard its very hard on a guy to have a pregnant wife, especially during the summer, it can be just miserable, we should time it properly" DORK- but I would love to hear what those guys say about their poor wives.
and its not just him, I can't wait either.  

kirab2

wait!!! haha sorry to be a debbie downer... but kids are SO FREAKING HARD.
this is my 21 month old having one of her fits (on valentines day)... they happen about every 10 minutes at this age.  she throws food on the floor, knocks about 3 full cups of liquid on the floor daily, wakes up 3-4 times a night, clings to me like glue.... just to name a few.  I havent slept since before I was pregnant (I had a miserable pregnancy).  its been almost 3 yrs.  Just wait. there is no rush. Roma I know you have already been through it so you know what you are in for... but Im sure there are going to be a lot of new brides that just cant wait to get prego. just wait. enjoy your married life without kids.  I love my daughter and FI's kids... but it is SO exhausting.

romamor4

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[QUOTE]wait!!! haha sorry to be a debbie downer... but kids are SO FREAKING HARD. this is my 21 month old having one of her fits (on valentines day)... they happen about every 10 minutes at this age.  she throws food on the floor, knocks about 3 full cups of liquid on the floor daily, wakes up 3-4 times a night, clings to me like glue.... just to name a few.  I havent slept since before I was pregnant (I had a miserable pregnancy).  its been almost 3 yrs.  Just wait. there is no rush. Roma I know you have already been through it so you know what you are in for... but Im sure there are going to be a lot of new brides that just cant wait to get prego. just wait. enjoy your married life without kids.  I love my daughter and FI's kids... but it is SO exhausting.
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LOL, you are so right! I've got that five year itch now though that most of the other girls don't since she's past the terrible stage!! ;o)

jacquiroxx

I was born to be a mom.  We are waiting a few more years, but I ALWAYS have that itch.  It doesn't help that I work at a preschool.  I take my breaks in the infant room.  Sometimes I get there early just to get my "fix."

Not joking.

I have spent hours with babies/kids from 6 months to 7 years.  I love them all.  I can't wait and can totally relate.

Ahhh   Another reason we HAVE to have a board on The Nest or something afterward- so we can keep track of each other and watch everyone have babies and stuff haha.

kirab2

jacqui..... I am very jealous of your love of little ones. I wasnt blessed with that gene!  I lack patience bigtime. ...... gotta run... baby is crying.... its 11:00 and shes already been up twice..... grrr

morenachica110

I have never had baby fever. Actually, as I get older, I want kids less. Whenever people hear this, they think I'm the worst woman ever. lol

DeadUtopia

I didn't want kids...so we have three of course. We're doing things a little backwards, but they're getting done. If I could have thought ahead and done something differently, I would have travelled with FI a little bit more and enjoyed each other for a little longer before we had children. They're a pain, but they're pretty cute and snuggly too.

This is me AW-ing our youngest son

romamor4

Dead utopia, your son is adorable!! I am not a huge fan of children either and never have been. Once i had my own, though, I learned it was only really that I don't like anyone else's kids as much as i love my own. Lol

SCogs18

Dead Utopia-  Your son is ADORABLE!

I second jacqui-We need to get a board on thenest or something for us post wedding!

FI and I aren't ready for kids yet, but we do plan to have a couple in the future.  Right now we have house-fever!  We started looking at homes online and now we are counting the days until we can afford one

mamameech

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[QUOTE]I have never had baby fever. Actually, as I get older, I want kids less. Whenever people hear this, they think I'm the worst woman ever. lol
Posted by morenachica110[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Don't feel that way! Everyone wants different things in life and there is nothing wrong with that. I can tell you that I NEVER wanted kids either. Then I got knocked up at 25 lol. Funny how I went from being so totally uncomfortable around kids to being the organizer of a Mom's Meetup Group and turning into "SuperMOM" and a single mother. Life takes some crazy turns.</div><div>
</div><div>I do find that the more time that goes by, the less I want another child. When my son was around 2, gosh I craved another child. It was really rough the first 12-18 months because I was on my own and he never slept and I barely had any money; it's amazing what you can do when you're faced with challenges like that. Then I met my FI and life started getting better. I saw myself having a real family and security and happiness. I also really wanted to share the experience with someone as opposed to alone; I feel like I missed out on a lot the first time around (the excitement of ultrasounds and hearing the heartbeat...that kind of stuff).</div><div>My son will be 6 in July and he is a piece of work; I wish I could bottle that energy and sell it legally :P  I lose my patience a lot and I worry about having another child. Of course, I have way too much on my plate at all times too so that doesn't help. Having a child is a HUGE shift in priorities; more than you could ever imagine. Not necessarily a bad thing, but it's a major change. I kinda like where I'm at right now; I'm doing really well with my career, I'm working away at getting my degree, I'm in the best shape of my life, and I get every second weekend "off" because my son visits "the other side". As much as my ovaries scream when I see a beautiful belly bump and hold a precious bundle, I'm just not sure I'm willing to give up on everything I've built up for myself. Plus, I'm getting older. I'll be 32 in December and we're building the house so we won't really want to be having kids until I'm 33ish, which makes FI 35 and my son will be 8. Do I want that big of a gap? Do I want to start all over at that age? </div><div>Just some thoughts going through my head these days...

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CowgirlK39

OP I am the exact same way. I HATED kids when I was younger, because i worked in a pet store and all I ever saw were annoying, unsupervised children who bugged the crap outta me to see if they could pet a hamster. Also, I am the youngest in my family and also the youngest of my cousins, so I never had a "baby" to interact with. I said no way, never, not me. My mom laughed and said "You will change your mind once you get married." Well, once I met my FI I knew thats who I wanted to have kids with. My FI LOVES kids, but he grew up helping raise his two younger brothers, so he's used to it. He whines from time to time that he cannot stand the fact we don't have them yet. I remind him every single time of what the mom's in this post have said. It's a ton of work, and money, and we don't have room for any of that right now.

A big factor for me also was actually meeting kids who were raised "right." The farmer I work for has 2 kids under 10 who are just wonderful. They are smart, polite, and very dedicated to their farm. His 9 year old son can drive a skid steer, a huge tracor with mix wagon attached, and all sorts of ATVs. We ask the farmer if we can take his kids out all the time because we enjoy them so much! We intend to ask him and a few other people we know who have great kids how they did it, just so we have a good idea when the time comes.

Sarah&Eric2012

Every once in awhile I'll get a slight case of "baby fever" and then someone in FI's family (usually FSIL) or one of my friends will ask how soon we'll have children after the wedding and the pressure takes the fever away.  FSIL has two kids already but they're 13 and 11 so she's itching for a baby to play with and so is FMIL.  FMIL lives right up the road and is retired so we have a built-in babysitter when the time comes.  It's just finding room in our house at this point.  We have 3 bedrooms but they've all been "given away" at this point lol.  Plus, I don't know how the dog will react to a baby coming along.  She's not great with the little kids that come over now so that kind of scares me.  I know that's kind of a lame reason to put it off but she's going to be 8 this year and she's already been passed from one home to another and I refuse to give up an animal once they've become part of my family.
I already know that Christmas this year will be interesting, we'll be bombarded with questions about when everyone can expect a baby and I'll want to strangle people but I do want to have at least one kid before I'm 30 so I guess we'll have to figure that out sooner rather than later.  FI is already 33, I don't want him to be that dad with a walker when his kid graduates college

agladhill

I have serious baby fever too!  Wedding planning is so annoying.  I can't wait until the wedding is over and we can get down to business.    I have a 10 year old, so I know what I'm getting into.  I will also be approaching 30 after the wedding and don't want to wait too long, because we would like to have at least 2 more kids and I want to be done by 35.  I actually already post on the getting pregnant board of the nest.  You should come check it out!  I'm part of the TTA (Trying To Avoid) group.  Everyone is really supportive and it's really fun to follow everyone on the TTC to journey. 

romamor4

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Baby fever : Don't feel that way! Everyone wants different things in life and there is nothing wrong with that. I can tell you that I NEVER wanted kids either. Then I got knocked up at 25 lol. Funny how I went from being so totally uncomfortable around kids to being the organizer of a Mom's Meetup Group and turning into "SuperMOM" and a single mother. Life takes some crazy turns. I do find that the more time that goes by, the less I want another child. When my son was around 2, gosh I craved another child. It was really rough the first 12-18 months because I was on my own and he never slept and I barely had any money; it's amazing what you can do when you're faced with challenges like that. Then I met my FI and life started getting better. I saw myself having a real family and security and happiness. I also really wanted to share the experience with someone as opposed to alone; I feel like I missed out on a lot the first time around (the excitement of ultrasounds and hearing the heartbeat...that kind of stuff). My son will be 6 in July and he is a piece of work; I wish I could bottle that energy and sell it legally :P  I lose my patience a lot and I worry about having another child. Of course, I have way too much on my plate at all times too so that doesn't help. Having a child is a HUGE shift in priorities; more than you could ever imagine. Not necessarily a bad thing, but it's a major change. I kinda like where I'm at right now; I'm doing really well with my career, I'm working away at getting my degree, I'm in the best shape of my life, and I get every second weekend "off" because my son visits "the other side". As much as my ovaries scream when I see a beautiful belly bump and hold a precious bundle, I'm just not sure I'm willing to give up on everything I've built up for myself. Plus, I'm getting older. I'll be 32 in December and we're building the house so we won't really want to be having kids until I'm 33ish, which makes FI 35 and my son will be 8. Do I want that big of a gap? Do I want to start all over at that age?  Just some thoughts going through my head these days...
Posted by mamameech[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Oh mama, even more reasons we are alike! And a few others where we are not! My daughter will be six in April. </div><div>
</div><div>It's been a huge change to my lifestyle and I was a single mom as well. During my pregnancy and after my x-husband just wasn't interested. His idea was that it's something for the woman to take care of! So he was never involved. The most he was involved was constantly worrying about how much weight I had gained! What a prick! You can guess why I divorced the b*s*t*r* lol</div><div>
</div><div>My biological clock is ticking moreso than anything for me. I have had many friends who have had a lot of difficulty getting pregnant. Though I really shouldn't worry because chances are slight the same will happen to me due to already having a baby, I'm still incredibly paranoid. Turning 33 in May, I am freaking out that I won't be able to have kids. That's a big part of why I have baby fever, even though I too would like more time without a baby. Gosh I feel old! 

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kellycatalo

I don't really plan on having kids anytime soon. Dan and i were pretty set on not having kids and just doing whatever we want. now, we've decided we will wait 10 years and then decide. i know that might be a bit old to have kids but whatever, i'll only be 32-33 at that point.

one of my college roomates got married in nov. of 2010 and they had a baby in nov. 2011, and gosh, i just can't imagine having a baby right now. i see hear about all the problems she has taking care of it, and i just know there's no way i could do that. she doesn't work so that's a big help, but I think both of us would need to work just to be able to afford it. i don't know what i'd do with it during the day, and day care is SO expensive.

i guess what i'm saying is, i just don't think it's practical for us to have a baby right now. which is nice, because we don't really want one either.

kissamary

I want a baby asap! FI...not so much   I have worked in an infant room for the past 5 years, and I still want a baby so badly.  I think it's because I know my days are numbered at the daycare because I might be teaching high school by the fall. No more baby fixes for me!  I told FI he can have a year after marriage, but then we need to get this ball rolling!

volleygurl0306

Only my FMIL has baby fever haha!  We are her only shot for grandbabies.  FI and I 100% want kids.  I'm so mixed up in my career but one thing I know I was called to do in this life was be a mom.  However, I am only 24 (FI is 27...he'll be 28 and I'll be 2 weeks shy of 25 when we wed) and I am a-ok with waiting a few years.  While I want to be a mom, I think everything has it's time and place and I know kids change everything.  And, I'm just not ready to give up my selfish time with FI yet.  We don't want to wait too long because FI's parents were older (36 and 38) when they had him and he wants to be a young parent and I respect that.  Plus, God forbid we have any trouble we don't want to wait too long.  But we are thinking of waiting 2-3 years after the wedding would be enough time just the two of us while still being young.  Fortunately, I am younger so while his youth is good to have as well, the youth of my uterus will be more important. 

cinderellasjc

You girls all have great heads on your shoulders!!!! It is the biggest life changer EVER, so making sure you are ready for the change is a great idea. 
No regrets but I wish I had waited. I had my daughter at 24 and was a single mom (which was really tough).  Ten years went by before I finally met "the one".  Together we have 4 children all over the age of 12.  We decided we were both too far in our careers (and too old) to have any more.   Now.... at almost 40, and not able to have anymore children.... I borrow others infants.... and send them home!!!!!  

beckyboo27

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[QUOTE]I have never had baby fever. Actually, as I get older, I want kids less. Whenever people hear this, they think I'm the worst woman ever. lol
Posted by morenachica110[/QUOTE]

<div>Same with me. I've never had the urge to have kids. It started when I was about 16-17. Everyone told me, "Oh, you'll change your mind when you get older." Uhmm...it's ten years later and I still don't want kids.  Whenever I tell people that, they look at me like I have three heads.</div>

romamor4

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Baby fever : Same with me. I've never had the urge to have kids. It started when I was about 16-17. Everyone told me, "Oh, you'll change your mind when you get older." Uhmm...it's ten years later and I still don't want kids.  Whenever I tell people that, they look at me like I have three heads.
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</div><div>I keep chiming in here... sorry!!!  I guess I just have a lot to say on the subject! lol</div><div>
</div><div>Having kids isn't for everyone. And no, you won't necessarily change your mind! It's possible, but people really can't expect that. I had a college roommate that insisted she never wanted kids. My brothers both never want kids. And they honestly will never have them. They are 39 and 45 years old. Neither are even married and said they would never marry. So, to each his own. Who am I to tell anyone they will change their minds?! I think some people do change but I've seen so many that don't, so I never assume so. 

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mamameech

Had I not gotten pregnant with my son by a fluke and lived through the joy of becoming a mother, I don't think I would have ever wanted to have kids either. Some days I still wonder if I'm cut out for it... but I no longer have the choice :P
I shouldn't say that because my son is actually the best thing that ever happened to me, but dealing with him some days can really drive me loco. He's too much like me haha

kmschuler

My FI has had baby fever for a year now.  We have been together 6 years and bought our first home Dec 2010.  A few months after moving in he tells me he is ready for a baby.  I said you better put a ring on the finger first lol.  Now that we are engaged with a wedding in Sept he is asking me if we can try now. HECK no buddy I have a dress I need to fit into.  Dont get me wrong I am ready for a baby as well, but we need to make it few these next few months before trying.  I am the youngest of 4 so I already have 7 nieces and nephews (#8 on the way) so we keep them over night every now and then just to give us out baby fix.  We are young, but both responsible and ready to take the next step in out life.  Working at a day care for 2 years and always being around babies I know how much work there is to put into it!

npott044

I have worked with kids most of my life. Right now I work with kids at a mental health unit so in some ways I feel like I have 15 of them. I guess I want kids by 30 so that gives me a little time after the wedding.

beckyboo27

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Baby fever : I keep chiming in here... sorry!!!  I guess I just have a lot to say on the subject! lol Having kids isn't for everyone. And no, you won't necessarily change your mind! It's possible, but people really can't expect that. I had a college roommate that insisted she never wanted kids. My brothers both never want kids. And they honestly will never have them. They are 39 and 45 years old. Neither are even married and said they would never marry. So, to each his own. Who am I to tell anyone they will change their minds?! I think some people do change but I've seen so many that don't, so I never assume so. 
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<div>My mom has accepted that I will never give her grandchildren. She's relying on my brother and his wife for that. Haha! What bugs the ever-loving s**t out of me is people who know me and my FI don't want kids, but still ask when we are going to start popping out babies. We started telling them, "When hell freezes over and monkeys take over the Earth." I still get the "you'll change your mind" comments, so I just tell them, "Okay, whatever you say. You must be psychic!" </div>

npott044

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[QUOTE]My FI has had baby fever for a year now.  We have been together 6 years and bought our first home Dec 2010.  A few months after moving in he tells me he is ready for a baby.  I said you better put a ring on the finger first lol.  <strong>Now that we are engaged with a wedding in Sept he is asking me if we can try now. HECK no buddy I have a dress I need to fit into.</strong>  Dont get me wrong I am ready for a baby as well, but we need to make it few these next few months before trying.  I am the youngest of 4 so I already have 7 nieces and nephews (#8 on the way) so we keep them over night every now and then just to give us out baby fix.  We are young, but both responsible and ready to take the next step in out life.  Working at a day care for 2 years and always being around babies I know how much work there is to put into it!
Posted by kmschuler[/QUOTE]

This happened for me as well. Once the ring was on the finger he was like lets have kids now. No...I have a dress that makes me look so dang hot and my butt looks wonderful I am not going to mess that up. Is that selfish?

CowgirlK39

Im glad to see there are other girls here who have eager FIs. My FMIL was a very hands off mom so my FI is very domesticated because he did so much himself (cook, take care of kids, etc). I worry a lot that once we do have kids, I am constantly going to get lectured by him because he has tons of experience with kids and I have none. It already happens with cooking because my mom cooked like a maniac when I was a kid, and I had no time to make big meals in college. My FI cooks like a pro and constantly butts in and bosses me around in the kitchen whenever I try to cook. I can see it happening with a baby too. So in a few ways I think we can wait a little while longer for kids.

FMIL goes out and buys baby clothes now. Then lectures us and FSIL about how she doesn't want to be an old grandma. Ugh.

beckyboo27

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Baby fever : This happened for me as well. Once the ring was on the finger he was like lets have kids now. <strong>No...I have a dress that makes me look so dang hot and my butt looks wonderful I am not going to mess that up. Is that selfish?</strong>
Posted by npott044[/QUOTE]

<div>I don't think you're being selfish at all. You have plenty of time once you are married to start having kids. </div>