PLUS ONE!?

Heavens7thstar

We are only allowing the wedding party and a few very close friends/ family members to bring a plus one. However we aren't sure how to address this so they know they can bring a plus one and to let us know who their plus one is. We are not having a reply card, just having people use our website to reply. Any ideas? Thank you!

banana468

The way you'd convey this is by addressing the envelopes.   Those in relationships will be addressed by name.   For example, if the couple is not married but living together.

Ms. Jane Smith
Mr. John Doe

If the couple is not living together then you would indicate the SO's name on the inner envelopoe.   Many people also opt to indicate the SO's name on the outer - then the person you know better would go on the outer with the SO's name under it.   This isn't great etiquette but many people relax the rule that those in relationships but not living together must receive separate invitations.

Now to your situation about letting people bring random dates:  You have two options
1) Address the envelope to the person 'and guest'.   This lets them bring a random guest of their choosing.

2) Write 'You are welcome to bring a guest.   Please write your guest's name on the website when you respond."

Two words of caution:
1) Any adult in a relationship needs to be invited with his/her SO.     If you're saying that only the WP and close friends/family are invited to bring even their SOs then your cutoff is flat out rude.

2) If your website is through The Knot, please reconsider using the reply function.   It is notoriously unreliable.