Another Invite Wording Question

toshecky

My parents are hosting, but we would like to include his parents on the invite as well.  His parents are divorced, and both are remarried.  He is much closer with his mom and step-dad than with his dad and step-mom (also, his mom and step-dad are contributing some, his dad and step-mom are not), so I was thinking of listing his mom and step-dad first, but not sure if that is inappropriate or looks weird.

Here is my initial idea (names changed):

Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
request the pleasure of your company
at the marriage of their daughter
Jennifer Marie
to
Matthew Paul Jones
son of
Mr. and Mrs. Mark White [mom and step-dad]
Mr. and Mrs. Luke Jones [dad and step-mom]
Saturday, the twelfth of June
two thousand ten
at half after four o'clock in the afternoon
Golf Club
Anytown, California
Reception immediately following ceremony

I welcome your thoughts and suggestions.

(Sidenote: This will be a religious ceremony at a golf club.  I've read somewhere that "hono(u)r of your presence" is only if it takes place inside a house of worship, "pleasure of your company" is used in all other instances.  Is this correct?)

squirrly

Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
request the pleasure of your company
at the marriage of their daughter
Jennifer Marie
to
Matthew Paul Jones
son of
Mrs. Joan White
and
Mr. Luke Jones
Saturday, the twelfth of June
two thousand ten
at half after four o'clock in the afternoon
Golf Club
Anytown, California
Reception immediately following ceremony

Step parents don't go on the invite unless they raised you.  Ladies always go first .  Since your FIs parents are not married to each other they should be listed on separate lines.

The U in honour and favour are the British spelling.  Whether you use honor or honour it still connotes a house of worship, so pleasure of your company is correct for your situation. 

toshecky

More detailed background - FI's parents divorced when he was very young, so actually his step-dad helped his mom raise him for over half his life.  FI's step-dad has been a bigger part of his life than even his dad has been, hence why we were thinking of including him on the invitation.  FI's step-mom has been in his life about the same amount of time, but has not been nearly such a part of his life, as FI only sees his dad and step-mom a few times a year now (they were around a little more often when he was younger).

So I guess I'm just unclear where the line is as far as "step parents don't go on the invites unless they raised you" - the step parents weren't around when he was super duper little, yet they have been a part of his life since he was 12 or so, and his step-dad in particular he sees quite regularly even now.

I would be interested to hear whether or not you think the stepparents should be included (and how to do it properly if so!) given this extra background info.
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Also, if we should decide to not include stepparents, should it be:

Mrs. Joan White
and
Mr. Luke Jones

or

Mrs. Joan White
Mr. Luke Jones
(no and)

(And thanks for the honor/honour/presence clarification!)

squirrly

I think it's a lot of names.  And, if you're going to include one step-parent, you really have to include them all.  Also, don't forget - you have the programs where you can say more without it looking so crowded. 

That said, if you want the other names and are concerned with the "and":

Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
request the pleasure of your company
at the marriage of their daughter
Jennifer Marie
to
Matthew Paul Jones
son of
Mr. and Mrs. John White and
Mr. and Mrs. Luke Jones
Saturday, the twelfth of June
two thousand ten
at half after four o'clock in the afternoon
Golf Club
Anytown, California
Reception immediately following ceremony

toshecky

Thanks!  I guess we'll just see once the invite is actually designed how crowded it looks if we include everyone, or if it looks significantly better without the stepparents.  And thanks for the "and" clarification.