Question-Please help!!

hlumbf2010

What is the approximate wait time you give a guest between sending out an invitation and your RSVP date?
Thanks!!

MyNameIsNot

Invites go out 6-8 weeks before the wedding.

For your RSVP date, figure out when you need your headcount (usually around 10 days out) and back up about a week.  A month out is about the earliest you can ask for an RSVP.

aerinpegadrak

Our wedding is April 23rd.  I'm aiming to send invitations out February 26th (8 weeks), and RSVPs are due April 2nd (3 weeks out).  Our headcount is due 8 days before the wedding. 

You want to leave yourself time to track down errant RSVPs, since it's the very rare bride who gets a 100% response rate.

kristinanddan

Our invites went out around 9/7 and our RSVP name was 10/9 or so. We didn't need the headcount until about a week before the wedding, but this gave us a few weeks of extra time in case we had to track people down.

hlumbf2010

Unfortunately we need to provide our headcount and pay the balance 30 days before the wedding, so I would like to have the invites back 6 weeks before. I know this is not ettiquette but, I don't know what else to do.

squirrly

Have you tried to negotiate that with your venue at all?  Telling them 30 days in advance seems absurd.  Can you tell them something at 30 days and then adjust a week later?  That way you could say "Minimum 80, Max 100", and then finalize once you hear from the last 20 people.

hlumbf2010

Good Idea! I meet with them in January, I will ask then. Thanks for your help!