RSVP via email, phone? And registry, ugh...

kevinnbrenna2013

So, to save on postage and headaches, my fiancé and I are looking at having our guests RSVP via email to our wedding email or via phone (my cellphone#)...how tacky is this?  Too tacky?

Our invites will be 10x7, folded over to 5x7., with the invitation wording on one half and the RSVP info on the other.  Which should be on top, and which on bottom?  How do we word the RSVP?  We want something along the lines of "Please RSVP to <email /> or <phone> with number attending, plus a song you would dedicate to the bride and groom" (we are going to make CDs with all the songs from our guests on them as the wedding favors). 

We are getting married in July, when should we ask to have RSVPs by?

Lastly, the registry.  Do we add a small line to the RSVP side? ie, "RSVP via..." then the line below "We are registered at xyz"...again, too tacky?  If so, how to communicate?  We are having a small wedding, and many of our guests are also middle class, but we know they will want to give small gifts...

Please advise!!!

rsanna

Well, first and foremost, since these are your wedding invitations, you should have no mention about a registry on them. Or gifts, or money or anything even remotely similar. Let the registry information spread word of mouth. So if Aunt Sally asks about a registry, you can just tell her where. But including it on the invitation itself comes across as gift-grabby, and almost like your guests HAVE to give you gifts. Which, I'm sure is not your intention. (Registry information is fine on shower invitations, if you are having one, though.)

I also think it is fine if you have guests RSVP by phone or email. Just include the stuff you will need (meal, attending, names, song, whatever) and make sure you get that information. Just be warned that you may have to track down more guests this way.

When you will need your RSVPs in, should be determined by when your venue or caterer needs the final headcount. I would go with a week to a week and a half before that date, so you can track people down if need be. So if you are getting married July 20th, and you need your final headcount by July 12th, I would set it for July1st-July 5th.

I'm not very much help for the second part of your question, though. I don't really understand what you intend. Will the invitation and RSVP be on the inside, or on the outside (if so then what will be on the inside?). Basically, I would just recommend making sure the invitation is the first thing your guests see, then the RSVP card. But that is just me.

OliveOilsMom

Can you just print out the invite on a 5x7 invite and then on the back you can put the RSVP information?  Or can you create a small insert to go in with the 5x7 invite giving all of the RSVP information?  Vistaprint frequently has 250 free business cards.  These could be personalized to your RSVP information and you would only have to pay for shipping.

Jessie42613

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[QUOTE]<strong>So, to save on postage and headaches, my fiancé and I are looking at having our guests RSVP via email to our wedding email or via phone (my cellphone#)...how tacky is this?  Too tacky?</strong> Our invites will be 10x7, folded over to 5x7., with the invitation wording on one half and the RSVP info on the other.  Which should be on top, and which on bottom?  How do we word the RSVP?  We want something along the lines of "Please RSVP to <email /> or <phone> with number attending, plus a song you would dedicate to the bride and groom" (we are going to make CDs with all the songs from our guests on them as the wedding favors).  We are getting married in July, when should we ask to have RSVPs by? Lastly, the registry.  Do we add a small line to the RSVP side? ie, "RSVP via..." then the line below "We are registered at xyz"...again, too tacky?  If so, how to communicate?  We are having a small wedding, and many of our guests are also middle class, but we know they will want to give small gifts... Please advise!!!
Posted by kevinnbrenna2013[/QUOTE]

I don't think it's tacky but I really don't like it. I think this is more appropriate for a backyard BBQ or birthday party. It just seems like your wedding deserves better.