no inner envelope, where to write "and guest"?

amberr110

I'm doing pocket fold invites and do not have an inner envelope.  Can I write "and guest" on the outer envelope (for single people who are getting a true +1 - for those who are unmarried but have SOs, I will include the SO's name)?  I have also heard that you can include a note.  I have already printed the RSVP cards, so I cannot change the wording on them.

TIA.

cebrady89

I'd suggest writing a note on a small piece of cardstock and slipping it in their invites - just say "You are welcome to bring a guest." 

Otherwise, it would be okay to put "and guest" on the outer envelope, but try to find out names first, or just use a little note. 

If you click HERE, there's a sample pocketfold from envelopments - this couple used their names and date for the "seal" but others use that as an "inner envelope" and put their guests names on that square. Not sure how your invites are designed, but this is an option as well.

tenofcups4me

We put it on the outer. Sorry, but I think a personal note is weird. In no other scenario do you add a personal note to an invitation so it makes no sense to me that anyone would in this situation. It's just not necessary.

freebread03

Yeah, a personal note would be weird.  Just put in on the outter envelope I think.  Just make sure that you find out your guests SO's names--we got invited to a wedding last year, and I was slightly irritated that they couldn't write my name on the envelope (I was the "and guest") even though we'd had dinner with them just weeks before receiving the invite.

tenofcups4me

Meh, your girl Emily is totally making things up by the seat of her pants these days. I've not seen that advocated by any other etiquette source. I'll stick with my own common sense. If the standard is to write "and Guest" on the inner and you have no inner, common sense tells me you write it on the outer. To my  mind, a note makes it a "big deal" when it shoudn't be.

amberr110

Thanks ladies.  I appreciate the assurance that I had the right idea!

squishles10

We put a slash 2 on the rsvp so they knew they could bring someone.  I think and guest on the outer looks impersonal.  We also did a slash X if we thought people would bring more people than were invited (apparently this was a huge problem at his brothers wedding).  I think the note is odd.  Better to just call I would think.