sticky family situation - need help with wording!

holly aaron

My parents are actually in the process of getting divorce.  His parents have given us some money to use on whatever (rings, honeymoon, etc) and they are paying for the rehearsal.  My parents were supposed to pay for all the wedding day stuff, but now their bank accounts are frozen for the divorce.  However, my parents both say they still plan to pay their part somehow.  So we don't know exactly how this will all be covered.  I don't want to draw attention to the pending divorce in the invitations as this is a very new thing.  Thoughts?  I would love suggestions!   Thank you so much!

SaraAndrew2010

Since your parents are in the process of a divorce, it would be weird to list them as Mr. and Mrs. Bride's parents.  But since the divorce isn't finalized, it would be weird to list them on separate lines.

I would use the catch all "Together with their parents..." wording.

squirrly

How long do you have
1) before the invites need to go out?
2) before the next step in the divorce proceedings?

It would seem to me that you have two issues - what to put on the invites, and how to pay the wedding bills.  The first one is much easier than the second to work out.  As much as I'm a fan of not asking about money - I think this is a situation where you need to ask - if they can't give it to you now, I wouldn't count on getting it before the wedding. 

Given that their INTENT is to not be married, I'd go with that, rather than the legality of when the divorce is finalized, when writing your invites.

Bride Middle Last
and
Groom Middle Last

together with their parents
Mrs. Bride Mom
Mr. Bride Dad
Mr. and Mrs. Groom Dad
request the pleasure of your company
at their wedding

Saturday, the eighth of May
two thousand ten
at half after four o'clock in the afternoon

Venue
Address
City, State

kelle017

Together with their parents sounds good to me. 

holly aaron

Thanks for the advice!  I'll show this to my fiance, who is designing the invitations, and see if we can make something work. 

My mom is being very supportive, saying she will pay for everything if needed when the time comes.  My dad is trying to get out of contributing financially b/c he is carrying the bulk of the current bills (b/c he is living in the house they own).  However, as I've tried to explain to him, my wedding should not be part of what they "argue" over in this.  I think they should both contribute equally.  

We need to send the invitations out around March 1st.  We are now 3 months from our wedding.  I'm not sure how long a divorce takes.  Anyone know?  I think it would be best to keep the situation inconspicuous on the invitations so that everyone feels comfortable.  I haven't asked my mom what she would prefer b/c I don't want to upset her.  But I will. 

Thanks again for all the help!  I appreciate any suggetions that you guys have!