To catch up: http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2013-weddings_my-hellish-weekend-part-ii
The day FSIL left for her honeymoon, she sent my FI an email saying that he was being disrespectful to their parents and that he was forgetting his Indian roots blah blah blah. The day FSIL got back from her honeymoon, she sent my FI a text asking if he got the email. He responded that he got it but that in the future, his problems with his parents would not involve her- bascially, butt out!
FI talked to his mom about the fight and told her how much we have already compromised and she said that she understood we wouldn't be inviting more people and she had handled it with the dad. Then she left for a trip to India (she's still away). FI and his dad have talked a few times since she left and have never brought up the topic- everything seemed to have been forgiven and forgotten.
She's been really cool towards us the past couple weeks, which was fine. I was being a little bit evil and was dropping a sentance here and there about things that we're doing with our wedding that I know she didn't do. Yes, it gave me pleasure to do so.
But for every reaction, there is an equal and opposite reaction... Today FI and both received an email from her. It said that she had talked to their dad and he was "sad and confused" and didn't know that anything had been resolved. She chastised Dayal for not resolving anything in 3 weeks time. Then she said that we could have had plenty of money for everyone if we had accepted her parents offer for money (that came with more strings attached than I could count which is why we declined) and of course parents have expections and demands for weddings, that's to be expected. She guilted him that these are his parents and they've sacrificed so much so we should do this for them. Then she said that she's sure 6 people wil decline, so this isn't a big deal (duhhhhh I'm expecting 6 to decline! I want people to decline so I don't have to pay for everyone!) It was just one long huge rant...
I've had it. I sent her an email saying that she likes to be the family mediator, but that needs to stop. She's perpetuating a fight that was over and resolved. I told her everything I've sacrificed and how my family is going to be horrified with how big this wedding is and how over the top it is just so that his family can be happy. I said that I feel completely disrespected since my family's wishes and money haven't been respected. I said that my parents did give us money with no strings attached and no expectations even though we are throwing a wedding that they think is ridiculous with that money. I said that we declined her parents money so that we could say no to this continued bullsh*t. UGHHHHHHH I'm so frustrated!
My FI is super p-o-ed about his sister's email. He's going to talk to his dad again tonight to see what wasn't resolved. I told him that if they ask for one more person or one more thing to be added, I'm pulling the plug on the whole thing and we're eloping. We only had this wedding to make them happy, so if they're not going to be happy, forget it!
May 2013 February Siggy: Invitations