I need your advice....

VJones1981

Hi ladies! I was hoping you could give me some advice. My best friend and I are both getting married next spring. My wedding is planned for May 11th and hers is April 26th. The issue here is that I've had most of my vendors booked since february and she just booked her first vendor this week. My question is, when should I send out my save the dates? I'm afraid that if I wait too long and send them out after her everyone will think I planned mine right after hers on purpose and am being rude. We have a lot of overlap on our guest lists. What do you think?

Smashleyk

Typically you can send them out anytime under 1 year, I'm doing mine about 9 months out. I don't think anyone will think you planned yours right after hers on purpose...your probably just over thinking this.

hisbabygirl76

I think you are going to be fine as previous poster said. And welcome, Im a fellow May 11th bride as well

SSaltzman87

I'd understand the concern if she was your cousin or something, but if it's only a few friends I wouldn't worry about it-especially if your mutual friends already know what's going on. If things go as planned for 2 of my friends, they want to get married May 4th next year and there will only be 3 common people that would be invited to both.

I plan on sending mine out October-Novemberish, so about 7 months out.

FLGatorGal88

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[QUOTE]<strong>Typically you can send them out anytime under 1 year</strong>, I'm doing mine about 9 months out.<strong> I don't think anyone will think you planned yours right after hers on purpose...your probably just over thinking this.</strong>
Posted by Smashleyk[/QUOTE]

This.... We will be sending our STD's out in October or November.

VJones1981

If it was only a few people, I wouldn't be concerned, but it's around 25 of our guest list that will be invited to both. Her family and FI's family are very close. We consider them family and even spend Thanksgiving with them every year.

VJones1981

Should say 25 percent. The percent sign won't post from my phone for some reason. Lol

SSaltzman87

I guess I still wouldn't worry too much, if these people love and care for both of you- they'll make it to both and won't think one of you's trying to sabatoge the other.

FutureMrsG2013

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[QUOTE]I guess I still wouldn't worry too much, if these people love and care for both of you- they'll make it to both and won't think one of you's trying to sabatoge the other.
Posted by SSaltzman87[/QUOTE]

<strong>THIS</strong> =)

hisbabygirl76

I had two close friends get married within 2 weeks of eachother (and acutlly had another wedding smack dab between theirs), These friends had mutual friends also. There was no issue. It was just 3 straight weeks of wonderful celebrations full of love.

pittpoint1119

I have a friend who is getting married 2 weeks before me.. we are not in each others wedding and a fw of our friends will be at both so I wouldn't worry we are both sending STD in October!!

VJones1981

Thanks ladies! I'm sure everything will be great. I just want everone to be able to make both and have a wonderful time celebrating with us.