Let the drama begin...

[Deleted User]

When FI and I decided on a DW, we sat down and made a guest list (like any other couple). We agreed to stick to this list no matter what. Well, my mom decided to invite her BFF plus her hubby. Ok, fine, they take an annual trip every year around the same time as my wedding. I just crossed another couple off my list to accommodate them. Well, my mom informed me she invited my aunt and uncle (and I'm guessing their 2 kids). Umm, with?!
Not only am I worried about costs but it's not fair for her to invite all these people and FMIL can't do the same. FI says it's ok, we'll manage but I feel if we make an exception then all hell will break loose. Should I let it go or talk to my mom?

jmozul01

hmm I would say to talk to your mom because who knows who else she'll invite.

melb2013

If you invite this aunt and uncle, does that mean you will soon need to invite all your aunts and uncles to be fair?  It's sounds like that's where this is going.

SSaltzman87

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[QUOTE]If you invite this aunt and uncle, does that mean you will soon need to invite all your aunts and uncles to be fair?  It's sounds like that's where this is going.
Posted by melb2013[/QUOTE]
This is something to consider. And I agree that's the direction it seems to be going.<div>
</div><div>I'd talk to her about it right away, especially if you guys are paying for your wedding yourselves.</div>

RebCappon

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[QUOTE]If you invite this aunt and uncle, does that mean you will soon need to invite all your aunts and uncles to be fair?  It's sounds like that's where this is going.
Posted by melb2013[/QUOTE]

Totally what I was thinking, talk to her asap.

FLGatorGal88

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[QUOTE]If you invite this aunt and uncle, does that mean you will soon need to invite all your aunts and uncles to be fair?  It's sounds like that's where this is going.
Posted by melb2013[/QUOTE]

I agree! Talk to her!!!

[Deleted User]

Yes, we are paying for it ourselves. I agree, there's no telling who else she'll invite. I know she's excited...I'm the oldest of her kids and the first to marry but she needs to reign it in a little. The whole point of having a DW was to cut all these extra people I couldn't talk to her when she told me because my aunt and uncle was there. I told my sister and she thinks inviting them is a bad idea (they're the moochers (sp?) of the family).

hisbabygirl76

I think you need to pull your mom aside and just explain that you and FI made up the list and thats who will there and thats who you are sticking too. Not to hurt anyones feelings but because you are paying and want it small.

WHY OH WHY cant parents understand that when you say how you want to have things that you arent saying "this is how I want it, except you know, if you want it some other way".

Meg&Austin

I agree very much with everyone else. Defiantly need to nip it in the butt before it gets out of control!

SRRL18

Firstly, are you and FI paying for your guests to attend the wedding? If yes, read on, if not, feel free to ignore. lol

I'm going to play devils advocate here. If you and FI aren't footing the bill for the extras your mom is inviting then I don't see a problem. However, if cutting your original guest list to accomodate them is what you are doing, I'd have a serious talk with her. 

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]Firstly, are you and FI paying for your guests to attend the wedding? If yes, read on, if not, feel free to ignore. lol I'm going to play devils advocate here. If you and FI aren't footing the bill for the extras your mom is inviting then I don't see a problem. However, if cutting your original guest list to accomodate them is what you are doing, I'd have a serious talk with her. 
Posted by SRRL18[/QUOTE]



No, we're not but just like anywhere else, we have venue limitations as far as size. Also the reception, meet and greets and extra activities we planned for our guests. Plus I just don't want them there lol :p

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]I think you need to pull your mom aside and just explain that you and FI made up the list and thats who will there and thats who you are sticking too. Not to hurt anyones feelings but because you are paying and want it small. WHY OH WHY cant parents understand that when you say how you want to have things that you arent saying "this is how I want it, except you know, if you want it some other way".
Posted by hisbabygirl76[/QUOTE]



Lol exactly!