FI just left to drive to NY to confront his family. I feel like he's walking into the lions den since it will be 4 against 1. I don't think they'll let him get off the topic of them just wanting to invite more people. He wants to bring up everything they've tried to control in our lives, not just the wedding. They need to understand what "compromise" means- right now they think they either get everything they want or they won't have anything they want. He also wants to discuss the idea that disagreeing with them does not mean we are being disrespectful. I honestly don't think they'll let him even say any of those things.
I'm also pretty sure someone will say they're not coming to the wedding and someone will say that he shouldn't marry me. He agrees that his dad will say he's not coming to the wedding if he doesn't get what he wants, but he disagrees that they think he shouldn't marry me. His sister would be over the moon if he didn't marry me, so I'm pretty sure she'll be the one to say it.
Overall, I don't think this meeting will solve any problems, but I think my FI needs to do it for himself. I think he needs to see their bottom line clearly.
I feel so badly for him walking into all this confrontation. My stomach is all in knots.
May 2013 February Siggy: Invitations
