QOTD 8/13

SSaltzman87

They say that weddings bring out peoples' true colors. Have any of your friends/relatives done things you'd never expect them to do during your planning so far?

PJBHL5

only Patrick. I didn't expect him to be SO excited/involved in the planning process.

SSaltzman87

Other than FI's cousin setting his wedding date the same day as ours, not really lol. It sadly wasn't that shocking because of how they are anyway. I don't understand that side of the fam at all.

His other cousin for a while kept sending me FB messages telling me how FI was such an arse and I'd respond back that I wasn't going to get involved and that if he had to issue to take it up with FI. He'd then message FI saying that I was a gigantic B and called me his 'mom'. Of course I defriended and blocked him.

Thankfully we don't see them much even though they live super close, lol.

Danny&Mel2003

Honestly only one person apparently people think they are entitled I nixed that in the ass ASAP. For the most part I listen to every ones ideas but in the end Fi and I make final decisions together.

Carson386

Yes! FMIL has surprised me. When we were dating she was always fine but now that we are getting married, she wants everything her way. Unfortunately, I have to have a little chat with my FI about this because I can't stand phone calls and texts at least five times a day telling me what I need to do.

PJBHL5

Actually, I take that back. My aunt turned out to be a bigger B than I realized. I knew she was difficult, dramatic and self-centered, but serously? She lived (when I got engaged) abot 2.5 minutes from me, but hadn't been me in over 2.5 years. We invited her to all holidays, etc, and she always says yes then cancels b/c she's 'sick' (read: wants to sit at home with her 37 chihuahuas and her crazy husband).
When I got engaged, I told my parents, we skyped his parents, we called his siblings and my bio brother (not my half brother and half sister), and my grandmother.. plus i called my best friend (MOH) who lives in FL. I told like 4 of my closest friends her ein person, then we announced on FB. FB has been where we've announced almost everything b/c that's where our lives are. I was born in South CA, grew up in FL, VA, CA, Iceland, PA, then moved to TX, back to north CA, then back to Texas. He's from Louisiana but is in the airforce so his friends are scattered world wide too plus his sister lives in London. Facebook is a good, easy way for us to keep everyone informed.
We announced on there and she promptly unfriended me. LOL. Guess she didn't like finding out with the masses. Whatever.
One less invitation to send

shano06

Well, my mom, and my whole family and the whole FI's best man thing REALLY surprised me. Then the 'friends' that get mad cuz they're not in the bridal party.

Swazzle

We've been really fortunate (so far). Everyone has been nothing but supportive the whole time. Hopefully it stays that way for the next 8.5 months!

MamaBear904

I am cautiously optimistic. So far everything has gone great. FMIL has been a little "snooty" with comments she's making here and there. I ignore them for what they are, stupid little comments from a small brain. FI is taking those comments hard though. He's just overly disappointed in her. FI has been super involved (in a mostly good way) and that has been exciting. I didn't have that the first wedding.

And since this is my second time around, nothing crazy happened the first time. Everything went really well. However, one thing I was very sure about was that no one was involved in my planning besides me. I did often turn to Knotties for help, but other than that, I was pretty much the only one making decisions. XH could care less when it came to the details.

turtleslove

I was surprised about how much Nate wants to be involved and how much he has taken charge of getting certain things done
My 2nd MOH didn't surprise me when she missed my engagment party for no good reason, but it still hurts.
FMIL kind of surprised me with how little she wants to be involved, but then again, i should have known...
All in all things are on track!

[Deleted User]

FI's side have been very supportive. On my side, just my friend's boyfriend being a complete jerk and my mom wanting to invite the whole world (which I still haven't talked to her about!).

deviousmuse

Definitely my FI. He has been much more involved and excited with the decisions than I thought. Then again, it is leading to a few disagreements, as we are both creative types who picture things a certain way in our minds.

But I'd rather he be involved than a NID Groom.

RebCappon

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2013-weddings_qotd-813?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:ea657a87-d1dc-4588-999f-31c9deeef720Discussion:caee8672-71ff-4075-9597-f3c36cfef3bfPost:c5c2d7b7-715a-4c64-8362-be8939ff27bd">Re: QOTD 8/13</a>:
[QUOTE]We've been really fortunate (so far). Everyone has been nothing but supportive the whole time. Hopefully it stays that way for the next 8.5 months!
Posted by rdr716[/QUOTE]

Same here. At first FI's mom was awful about us getting married but she is coming around to it.

TogetherPerfect

We haven't had much drama... everyone is pretty supportive. I think my only complaint is my best friend, who I asked to be my MOH, does not seem excited for me at all. She likes my FI... and her, her FI, my FI and I all hang out and get along, but when we discuss wedding stuff, she seems less than interested. When she saw our e-pics, she didn't say anything except criticize the photographer, she doesn't have any interest in seeing our venue, and seems a little upset that I am not having her do my make up for the wedding, when she has never done wedding make up before. I know she's happy for me, but I feel like I can't really gush about wedding stuff to her cause she kinda blows it off. I just deal with it to avoid drama though, lol.

lalans

My mom surprised me when we went dress shopping and she got SUPER into it/turned into a dress pusher, which is very unlike her.  But, she was pretty good with dealing with me saying I just wasn't ready to buy yet/sticking to what I wanted.  My dad has been more laid back then I expected.  He is paying for a bigish chunk of the wedding and I was prepared for him to have more opinions then he has had.  So overall that has been good!

tandrosoff

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2013-weddings_qotd-813?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:ea657a87-d1dc-4588-999f-31c9deeef720Discussion:caee8672-71ff-4075-9597-f3c36cfef3bfPost:570f64da-7891-497d-81c8-4c2b4602f571">QOTD 8/13</a>:
[QUOTE]They say that weddings bring out peoples' true colors. Have any of your friends/relatives done things you'd never expect them to do during your planning so far?
Posted by SSaltzman87[/QUOTE]

I lost a bridemsaid b/c she wasn't interested in just being my friend.. nevermind being a bridesmaid. 3-4 months I tried getting together, making non wedding related plans & she never, ever got back to me..

pittpoint1119

Friends upset for not being in the wedding has been drama. One esp. since I was in her wedding 2 years ago. She have lost touched and have become closer to others.

melb2013

FI's parents and sister definitely showed their true colors.  But I think it was good for me to see that before we got married and for my FI to learn to handle it.  It's made us much stronger as a couple.  I guess this is why people have weddings- if they can make it through the craziness with their families, then they can learn from it!

lgoin1

FI is SUPER excited.  More excited than I thought he would ever be. Mom has become more b****y. Other than that, things have been going swimmingly (thank goodness).

monikaedwards

FMIL has family drama on her side and it's all coming out now when FI and her talk about his side's guest list.