Is it ok?

Carson386

Here's the issue: We are not having any children at our wedding other than FI's nephews (our ring bearers). One of my mom's cousin's kids is 18, the other is 13, is it wrong to split them up (invite the 19 year old without the 13 year old)? Another question: Is it ok to invite my mom's cousins without their kids? (even if the kids are 17 or 18). This is my last question (for now): If I do need to invite a 13 year old, do I need to invite his girlfriend too? I know it's not right to split up SO's, but he's 13, I don't consider that a SO.

Krikin22

I think it would be weird to invite the 18 year old and not the 13 year old, but you don't need to invite his girlfriend. I'd say invite both or neither.

rswans

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[QUOTE]I think it would be weird to invite the 18 year old and not the 13 year old, but you don't need to invite his girlfriend. I'd say invite both or neither.
Posted by Krikin22[/QUOTE]

<div>I agree- both or neither and not the 13 yo SO. My parents have been invited to plenty of family weddings that I wasn't invited to pretty much from when I was little through to the most recent two months ago.</div>

MamaBear904

I think you need to invite both teens, but you are not obligated to invite the "girlfriend". I say "girlfriend" because they're 13, they'll probably be broken up by then! LOL

Cousins kids, yes. GF no.

Danny&Mel2003

We're having his little kid cousins there but none under age of 10 at that age they understand sit and be quiet. All the little cousins as in 4 and younger are not being invited. So yes to the 13 no to his girlfriend lol

jmozul01

Our cutoff is 21 because we have a similar situation and it just made it easier.

mss274

Find a cutoff age and stick to it. Ours is 20 years old. Def no to the girlfriend. I agree they prob won't be together then! lol

sbc2013

OP, IMHO, if you decide to go with a cutoff age, just make sure you don't split families. I think the PP who said they are inviting 10 year old cousins but not 4 year old cousins is fine because the 4 year old probably won't remember they didn't get to go after the fact, but if a 10 year old cousin has an 8 year old sibling, I think they are old enough to feel hurt and remember it. So to answer your original question, I would invite the 18/19 year old and the 13 year old. But no reason to invite his girlfriend--I'm surprised a 13 year old boy even thought to ask if his GF could come.