OK, so I absolutely hate drama and try hard to stay out of any kind. I'm not always successful though.... Well, a few weeks ago I posted about an awkward conversation I had with my friend who assumed that she was invited to the RD, but she isn't. We are only inviting our WP and their SOs.
Well a few weeks ago this same friend says to me, "I wish I had known about your shower, I totally would have flown back to Atlanta for it" (she's in NYC). I apologized, explained that I only invited locals because I felt bad about inviting all my OOT friends to New Orleans in January, and then Atlanta in March and May. I told her of course, she is welcome to come, I would love to have her, I'm so excited she may possibly be able to join in. I promptly scanned an invite and emailed it to her, and added her to the evite for the B-party. She tells me that she is going to try to come.
Today she calls me, and tells me very matter-of-factly (read, coldly) she isn't coming to my shower/BParty because she is "embarrassed" she had to invite herself, she didn't like how I handled it, and that she doesn't feel welcome. WTF?!?!?!
I calmly apologized again and explained my reasoning behind it. Owned it that maybe I made a mistake and I should have invited all the OOT friends, but I didn't want to look gift grabby. I apologized several times and told her she is totally welcome, I would love for her to be there, etc. She just kept repeating the same stuff, trying to make me feel guilty. I feel bad honestly, but I am also really mad at her for dumping me on this one week before the shower. I understand her feelings, but not how she handled the situation.
- end vent!!