What do I do??

mdoyle1217

So I have a slight dilemma...

My co-worker came to me today and said "You should probably just put my name on everything wedding related and not put my husbands name on anything." I asked why and she proceeds to tell me that she might be bringing someone else...another MAN!! A man that I hae never met, mind you and someone that she is more than likely sleeping with (she has that kind of reputation). After stewing on this all day I feel like it was VERY rude of her to assume that she could just substitute her husband for someone else and expect me to be ok with it. I have met her husband before and the two of them were invited together...not her + 1.

The real kicker is.....my boss came to me later in the day asking me to be a witness when she FIRES this co-worker!! So I had to sit in this office as this girl got fired today. Part of me is kind of just hoping that she'll find it too awkward to come to the wedding and not show up since both bosses and many other co-workers will be there....the other part of me feels like she WILL show up and try to make a big spectacle in front of everyone. Either way it really bothers me.....I don't care what you do behind your husband's back...just don't bring it to my wedding, ya know? I feel like it kind of makes a joke about what the whole thing represents. Do I tell her not to come? Or just tell her that if she isn't bringing her husband, that she can't bring anyone else? Help!

robinandtimmy

Wow that is hard, I'm not sure what i would do.  I prob would try and not have any contact with her until after the wedding hopping she doesn't come as doesn't want to see everyone she worked with.  As for her "guest" I would prob keep everything her and her husband hope she doesn't come or contact you, lol

mandi921vh

Honestly, I don't know if I am feeling extra b!tchy today or what, but I think I would let this woman know that she is only allowed to bring her husband as the invite was for her and him, not her and her mistress. Explain that she is still welcome to come alone. I would definitely want to find out what she is up to as far is if she is coming or not because I just couldn't take the anxiety of wondering if she is coming and may make a scene or if she won't show up at all.

kimberlykh

I would tell her that the wedding invite is for her and her husband only.  If her husband can't make it (i.e. she doesn't want to bring him) she'll have to come alone. 
That is SO tacky and rude of her.  I agree, it is making a mockery of marriage for her to pull that. 

caitlinc09

Uhhh WHAT!?

Who is this person and where did you find her? Who does that? Wow. 

I would tell her that the invitation was addressed to her and her husband and that is who you expect to come if she would still like to attend. Hopefully she doesn't...

court115

I don't know what is more awkward: that she made you have that crazy conversation with her or that you then had to watch her get fired! For your sake, I hope she tells you that, in light of the recent events at work, she won't be attending.

FutureMrsW9

Holy awkward!  I agree with all the PPs - I think you have to just tell her that the invitation was addressed to her and her husband, and she's more than welcome to come stag, but it would make you as the bride uncomfortable if she brough someone who was not invited.  Hopefully she won't show up but uuuugh.  I would also tell you DOC/MD who she is and have them make sure that she doesn't show up with someone else.  You should def not be worryinga bout something so petty on your day.

littleshrink

There are really no words for this.      ?????????????????

I think I would tell her that if she isn't comfortable bringing her HUSBAND to your wedding and committment to your new HUSBAND than she can take a flying leap.  You don't want nor need to be involved in her torrid life. 

Just when I think I've heard it all........ <<shaking head />>

KissaC18

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_what-do-i-do?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:f0ca0bc1-9255-4120-8042-b40e7f3e99c5Discussion:0e042afe-52b6-4da1-83f6-f290672f73ffPost:ac55841d-dbef-42b5-a84d-59df8990479a">Re: What do I do??</a>:
[QUOTE]Honestly, I don't know if I am feeling extra b!tchy today or what, but <strong>I think I would let this woman know that she is only allowed to bring her husband as the invite was for her and him, not her and her mistress. Explain that she is still welcome to come alone. I would definitely want to find out what she is up to as far is if she is coming or not because I just couldn't take the anxiety of wondering if she is coming and may make a scene or if she won't show up at all.
</strong>Posted by mandi921vh[/QUOTE]

I agree with this. Make it clear that she can only bring her husband or come alone. :) HTH