So yesterday my FI got a bombshell dropped on him by his mother. Just some background...my FIs parents are divorced and remarried for over 20 years now.
My FI Stepmom we do not like ..long story
So...with that said... my FI and i havent gotten any RSVPs from his side of the family. (Amoscato side / fathers side) So we called and asked my FIs dad if everything was ok. which we were told yes...that no one knew why no one was RSVPing but that it was probably because we invited FIs sister. The issue with his sister is that when she was 25 she suffered really bad from PPDS (Post Partum) and left her 2 children and took off to california. She has since returned and is trying to work on herself and be a part of the kids lives but obviously there is some really ill feelings toward her from her father and stepmom. FI and i have worked hard to rebuild our relationships with her because of what she did...but at the end of the day, she will always be FI sister. We do not treat it like she did nothing wrong, because abandoning your kids is wrong any way you look at it....but 4 years later we have coped and dealt with it and we are moving on with our lives. Anyway, when FI step mom mentioned to us that if she showed up no one would come, i knew something was weird. So we spoke to FI sister and she was ok with not going and we told FI dad and step mom this and we left it at that .
Fast forward to A few months ago, FIs great uncle passed away unexpected without a will. We found out yesterday that FIs fathers wife (stepmom/FSMIL) ransacked the house and nothing was said to the family. when the rest of the family went to collect what belonged to them, like old family heirlooms etc., they were gone. The family is livid with FIs father for not stopping FI stepmom, grandfather for lying to everyone and stepmom (who is nothing but a money grubbing b-tch). So they refuse to come to the wedding because they do not want to see them.
However,..FI father and stepmom know why the family refuse to come to the wedding....because of what THEY did...yet they are blaming FI sister who has nothing to do with anything. My FIs aunt called to talk to FIs real mother about my shower and laid everything out....and that they are not mad and were never mad at FIs sister.....
Im livid that my own FFIL and FSMIL would lie to us like this...and that FIs family cant just deal with it for one day and come to our wedding. People are really self absorbed. My FI now has no one from his family coming...and they are all real old school italian so there is no doubt that this will go on forever...and i feel terrible. but i really cant stand FSMIL. I think its $hitty what she has done and that FFIL cant stand up to her at all. Not to mention that FIs grandfather is so concerned with my FI keeping the family name clean and has been absolutely cold to us both through all this. FI will call to talk to him and gets rushed off the phone.
Anyway sorry for the long vent but i cant believe im going through this $hit again! WTF. one month before our wedding.