Need help with thank you gift ideas and timing

jennynicole7

Hi Brides!

I'm getting married May 19th and my Bach and Bridal shower are both this weekend!  I'm so excited but also so stressed because I have so much left to do for the wedding.  My biggest stress right now is what to get my BM's and my MOH.  So my MOH has gone above and beyond as I'm sure most of yours have as well, but she is in another wedding in June and was recently engaged and just happens to be carrying 70% of the load of all the work because my BM's have to many issues in their lives...so I really want to get my MOH something extra special but I'm having trouble coming up with ideas.  I can always get her a pretty necklace, but I want to get something unique and meaningful.  I already have a plan for a thank you gift to her for the bridal shower, I'm going to get her a spa gift certificate so she can relax! and a gift card for her and her fiance to go out to dinner at their fav. place.  I wanted to find a way to include him in the thank you because he's supported her through all her stress and I wanted him to know I was appreciative of both of them.  So my price range for her gift would be $600 or less all together including the bridal shower gift.  

So if anyone has ideas on a good meaningful gift I'd greatly appreciate it.  Also, since the bridal shower is this weekend and I likely won't see her until a few days before the wedding should I give her both gifts combined as one?  Should I mail a card and the 2 gift cards since I know we won't be able to see eachother sooner?  Also, does anyone have any good/original BM gift ideas?  I'd like to spend $100 or less and I have 4 girls to get gifts for.  Also, any suggestions on when to give them the gifts?  I didn't really want to do it in front of everyone at the rehersal dinner as my fiance and I have planned on giving them before then in a more private setting.

Lastly, who do I need to thank for the bridal shower?  My BM and FMIL have done almost all the work and are co-hosting.  When should I give my FMIL the thank you gift?

Thank you for your advice!

MelisMC

Has she made any of her own wedding plans yet? Since you want a little something special for both of them, how about toasting flutes? The swarovski toasting flutes are really nice and you'd still have extra in your budget for the extras you planned. If you know where she'll honeymoon, let her know you've pre-arranged a special dinner on the beach for them couples massage, excursion, etc (I would LOVE if someone did that for me). It sounds like you want this to be a special thank you so I would try to hand deliver. There isn't much time until the wedding so I think both gifts at once would be fine. Just make sure your thank you mentions the shower as well.

As far as BM gifts that are unique that is a little more difficult since jewelry is pretty typical. Depends what the girls are into - restaurant gc, spas, something for a particular hobby? I got my girls watches and am giving the gifts at the RD so I'm not much help there.

My mom organized and paid for my shower. I had flowers delivered to her with a thank you note the following day. Could you do something like that for FMIL?

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IMO, the most meaningful gifts you could give would be something suited to her personality and interests.  I love the ideas shared by the PP for something on their honeymoon.  Otherwise shop like it's her birthday and find the best TY gift you can afford.  I'm sure she isn't in your wedding for the gift, so anything you give her will be great. 

As far as when to give your gifts to the WP, all I can do is share when we are doing ours.  All of the ladies in my party are from out of town so I planned my Bridesmaids Tea for the morning of the wedding.  I plan to give them the gifts and thank them then.  I don't know your day-of schedule, but would this be a possibility or is it still not private enough?

jennynicole7

Thank you both for the great ideas!  Very helpful!