Is anyone planning to have a....

Jumps52012

honeymoon baby?

I have noticed lately everyone asking us when we plan to have kids. I feel like that is our plan, and when it happen it happens, but I am curious to see what other May ladies are planning.

I guess so many friends being pregnant has brought out the baby fever in our friends and familities.

cpm1223

We aren't...we want to wait about 2 years before we have any children. I know a TON of people who either are pregnant or just gave birth so I have a minor case of baby fever....but then i think of all the work/$/ etc. that goes into bringing a child into this world and I guess its just a better idea, for us, to wait a little longer!

vineyard12

I wish. But, I made the decision to stay on depo so my "visitor" won't show up at the wedding or honeymoon. It is dicouraging though, to think that after my next shot (next week) wears off in late June, it could be a year before I can convieve. People have asked. Someone mentioned it to FI at Thanksgiving and he said "it takes 9 months to make a baby." No one has asked since, but I am sure they'll all be asking again. And quite frankly, it's no one's business. I think it is rude to ask someone when they're having a baby (not you asking, but family or friends). And you're right...it'll happen when it happens. Don't let people pressure you.

mandi921vh

I agree with vineyard it is rude when people ask! I think it's one thing to ask your close friends when they plan to have babies because my friends and I talk about this stuff, but it's more of a conversation not "when are you getting pregnant, Jane." 

Ugh I know once we gt married FI's family is going to be ALL over us about when we will have kids, which as of now won't be for a few years. I wold LOVE for it to be now, but I don't have a job, and although I feel ready to take care of a child, I don't want to yet, even if I had a job.

RivieraBound

ME!  We actually got pregnant back in October but unfortunately I had to have a D&C since it stopped growing at 6 weeks.  We want 4 or 5 kids and are 31 and 32 so we need to get busy.  I can't wait   We would be trying again now if it wasn't for the fact that I want to be able to drink during our honeymoon in New Orleans....priorities ya know?

FutureMrsSheeler

I definitely want kids, and would love a honeymoon baby, but FI and I are young, so we need to establish ourselves, save up money, and get a house before any babies come!

dland0201

I'd love to have a honeymoon baby, but I am using my b/c to skip my period for the honeymoon so that's not a possibility. We will most likely start trying more towards the end of the year or beginning of next year.

mancila60

WE ARE! Well sort of. There is no form of protection now except FI pulling out (TMI?) anyways we hope to have a honeymoon baby. If not we will try for a few months and then stop trying for a little while. My MOH is getting married Nov. 2013 and we have to travel for it so I wanted to make sure if I'm pregnant I'm not huge and can't travel. Or that we aren't pregnant yet so that we can. I know it sounds weird that I would plan around her but she is like my sister and this is not something I want to miss. 

deanabuonincontri

people that ask this (other than like parents/siblings/people that you would ask this to) are RUDE! Random people are constantly asking this. My fiance and I are pretty young (25 and 26) but we are also fairly established (both have MBAs, own a home, good jobs, etc) so to everyone else it seems like we are ready to have children right after the wedding.  This could not be further from the truth! ideally, my fiance and I are planning to have kids in our 30s...we want to enjoy each other and married life and make sure we are financially stable so that I can stay at home (I just could not put my little baby in day care!). We say 10 years would be ideal for us to have a baby...we know that may change and we may want them a little earlier but the decision is ours. good luck to you ladies at your weddings and with the babies! Just remember, enjoy the wedding and being married...and have kids when you want to and when you know youre ready!

PeteandJen

I love the way you put it Deana! So many people have been asking, and we too are established (good jobs, own our home, been together a long time)  and I am 25, FI will be 30, so people are making assumptions and asking. I just let it roll off of us, we will do it in time, once we feel we are ready.

mildlymailyn

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_is-anyone-planning-to-have-a?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f0ca0bc1-9255-4120-8042-b40e7f3e99c5Discussion:c3d56675-eb39-4936-a7a5-b2bbc0b1703bPost:1f6c9c11-b4fe-4612-9ba5-efc60bf8deb1">Re: Is anyone planning to have a....</a>:
[QUOTE]I'd love to have a honeymoon baby, but I am using my b/c to skip my period for the honeymoon so that's not a possibility. We will most likely start trying more towards the end of the year or beginning of next year.
Posted by dland0201[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>This! :) We would love to start but we live ina small 1 bedroom. No room for another anything :(</div>

Melissa51212

Nope and a few people asked but no one pushing.

court115

We're going to try! It makes me nervous when people ask though because what if we have problems?

LOMLBOAT

haha FI wants one and I said no!  I'd like to wait just a few months, get settled, change my name, get our house in order and just enjoy the summer before I have another headache on my hands!  We decided to have that convo 6 months after the wedding and talk about our finances, anything we want to 'accomplish' before having kids, etc.  He agreed to table it, but I think that's just because he has baby fever!  It'll subside!

comeongetdown

i think it's funny when people ask when we're going to have babies, but everyone that knows me knows that i want babies!!

we'll wait at least a year.  we want to be able to enjoy being married and being able to be spontaneous for a little while first.

while i'm looking forward to making babies with FI, i'm more looking forward to being his wifey  :-D

SunshineShades

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[QUOTE]WE ARE! Well sort of. There is no form of protection now except FI pulling out (TMI?)
Posted by mancila60[/QUOTE]

lol totally this I plan to actually start sorta trying next month

chansed

We are hoping!! I can't wait to be a mommy!

S0095042

that's a big 'no' for us...not sure if kids are in our future at all. but right now i don't want to share him, lol.

Killa2979

We are waiting until next year :-)

mandydc0509

Absolutely not lol. We're waiting 3-5 years.

max&lucy

No honeymoon baby here either! Even though I am 33 and FI is 30 (yes, I am a cougar - LOL), I am so not ready for baby yet. We are both pretty career-focused and I think we'll revisit the baby topic in a couple years.

caitlinc09

Since I am still a baby myself... (barely 21 for the wedding!) we will definitely be waiting a few years. Good luck to all of you trying soon, I hope it comes when you are hoping for! Children are such a blessing. 

LDW0225

Big NO here! We want to have kids, but we agreed to start trying after 3 years. We are only 25 want to enjoy being married get a little bit more established financially. I know both of our moms are dying for grandbabies, but they can wait a few years for US to be ready.

Soon2bStaff

We are waiting to "start" trying... probably around July 2013. That gives us a year of marriage and then a spring summer baby in 2014 if we are lucky to be parents =o) FI is a coach so heaven-for-bid if we have a baby during football season I would feel like a single parent =o)

AurorasEnvy

Helllllllllll no! haha  We're not even 100% sure we want to have kids.  We'd like to enjoy our marriage first, and we are traveling to Hawaii in May 2013 for my BM's destination wedding, so I need to be able to fly & drink like a fish =]

bpphoto785

Nope. I'm planning on starting a dual Master's degree program in the fall so no babies for at least two years! 

classykat22

No babies for us either.  I am not able to have any more kids, not to mention that I am already in my early 40's.  So we plan on just enjoying our grandchildren and travel a whole lot!!

tking1286

Yea, we are definitely not ready for any babies right now. I only just finished my masters in May and fiance will be done with his degree right before the wedding. We want a chance to enjoy be married and doing things we financially could not do while we were in school. We figured maybe 3 years. I said I at least would like to have a house, we only have a one bedroom apartment so no room for a baby. We are kind of getting pressure to have a baby, but our immediate family is not pushing. 

tking1286

Yea, we are definitely not ready for any babies right now. I only just finished my masters in May and fiance will be done with his degree right before the wedding. We want a chance to enjoy be married and doing things we financially could not do while we were in school. We figured maybe 3 years. I said I at least would like to have a house, we only have a one bedroom apartment so no room for a baby. We are kind of getting pressure to have a baby, but our immediate family is not pushing.