C & V Thursday!

Klyn1983

Confessions/Vents? Let's hear 'em! 

emilyb213

Confession (Klyn, I think you were in this position a few weeks ago...I feel your pain): I have zero desire to get up early and watch my fiance run the Pittsburgh half-marathon on Sunday. It's a huge hassle, because the race route means there are a bunch of street closures between our place and the finish line downtown. Which means that I will end up driving to the neighborhood where mile 7 falls (and parking is a mess, because all of the neighborhoods along the race route do these huge marathon parties, complete with bands, entertainment, etc), watch him run past, then hurry up and walk downtown to the finish line to catch him there. Oh, did I mention that this will all be happening around 7 a.m.?  The only good this is that he's pretty fast, so I won't have to be standing around the finish line for ages, waiting for him to finish.

Vent: Our dog is afraid of thunderstorms, and it stormed all night last night. So he was up, pacing around the bedroom, panting and whimpering, ALL. FREAKING. NIGHT. It's even worse if we kick him out of the bedroom, because then he starts scratching at the door and yelping. I'm exhausted from him keeping me awake. It's a good thing he's cute!!

cnf2013

Confession- I don't want to go out of town all weekend this weekend. My mom and I are going to Olean NY (bumfrick nowheresville) to have early mothers day with her mom then Sunday we're helping host and attending my cousin's FI's baby shower. I don't want to gooooo. And since I wont accrue any comp time at work this week or next week I won't be able to take any half days to relax. Bye weekend, see you in next week, maybe. 

Vent: I come from a very body conscious family. To the point where I struggled with an eating disorder for a few years, and still have relapses from time to time. Right now I'm much heavier than usual. I gained a lot of weight last year with a two and a half hour commute to a job I detested. And now I'm struggling to lose it without going into crazy mode. I've lost about eight pounds but I'm still way off from where I usually am. I'm usually around 120-125 and this morning I weighed 154 (and that's after the eight pound loss). So I have a ways to go. And my aunt who we're staying with this weekend has a hot tub and her and my mom LOVE to drink and get crazy when they're together. They want to drink in the hot tub Saturday night, and I'm really uncomfortable and almost scared to be in a bathing suit in front of my mom right now. I know she'll make comments about my weight. We're built almost identical and she's probably high 120's right now, so she'll make some snarky remarks about how we're going dress shopping in July and how I need to lose weight. 

Sorry that wasn't really a vent... I'm just really not looking forward to this weekend. 

ashlidie

cnf, thats horrible that your family gives you grief about your weight.  I recently lost weight and was as high as 155 maybe 1 year ago.  I lost a handful over time but knocked off a good bit in the last 2 months and am back down to 135.  I have big thighs, im very pear-shaped and Ive just accepted they aren't going anywhere.  Even at 155, I was noticeably bigger but I still would not have considered myself fat by any means.  Of course I was self concious but I don't think it is right for others to mention it when you clearly are already self concious about it.  Grrr, it makes me so mad, I have a close friend who suffers from bulemia and i hate watching her struggle when I think she is beautiful.  So I guess this turned into my Vent lol

Confession- 

I'm terrified of what is going on with FI's job.  He has a great job, but they are in the middle of transferring everyone out of the current garage to all sorts of other garages.  There are 20 possibilities, and 5 are in the state of MD :-(  So I am scared he will get moved to one really far and I don't know what we are supposed to do, I can't leave because of school and a scholarship service commitment, Im really locked down here for the next 7 years.  It's also a big boost in pay and it's a great company, so he really doesn't want to be unemployed either.

bar10521

cnf that's terrible! I've never been a thin girl but thankfully my family has been supportive. My cousin was recently put in an inpatient program for her eating disorder and other issues. I mostly blame my aunt & unlce for her problems because they are so overbearing about food and always have been. Unfortunately it took their daughter's suicide attempt for it to click that they were being unreasonable and not giving her enough support. She was never a big girl either, always averge to slightly below average weight. Not sure why I just put all that but don't let anyone else make you feel bad about yourself!

Confession: I've been reading the 50 Shades of Grey series and it's addicting. I don't have anything to do today other than a meeting at 1 and it's taking all of my will power not to pull the book out and start reading now.

Vent: The caterer I want to use was great about responding to e-mails and questions. Once we met with him he sent out the initial contract as promised but he didn't give us the discount on one of the entree options so he was supposed to redo it and resend it so we could set up a tasting. Well he was supposed to send it by April 20th. Then it took him a week and a half to e-mail me back saying he's been swamped and he'd have it to me by yesterday. Well here I am with still no e-mail. He's gotten really good reviews and is the favorite caterer of the coordinator at my venue. But I'm getting annoyed that he's taking so long to get back to me!

emilyb213

Cnf, it's awful that you're dealing with that. If I were you, I'd probably try and get out of the hot tubbing on Saturday night by saying that I didn't feel well or something. Weight is always a "thing" with my family too. Try not to let your mom get to you- everyone's weight goes up and down (I call them my "fat Elvis" stages), and you'll lose what you put on with your commute & job. Don't make yourself crazy trying to lose it; take pride in the hard work you've no doubt done to lose the 8 lbs you've already dropped. Your sanity is more important than any number on a scale!!

Oh, and Ash, for the record, you looked amazing in the engagement pics that you posted, and you shouldn't be self conscious at all!!

cnf2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2013-weddings_c-v-thursday-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f30b0bfc-508d-415c-bf59-ab83e327da37Discussion:51f9f059-58eb-455e-8007-f2a1b2bf2bc6Post:f3363815-7ab7-442c-b028-bd11d6a36ad2">Re: C & V Thursday!</a>:
[QUOTE]. Vent:  I don't think I have any vents today.  For once in my life.
Posted by mrskaiser22[/QUOTE]

<div>I wish TK had a like button just for this!</div><div>
</div><div>And thanks for the lovely words of encouragement ladies. Coming on here everyday is such a great thing. You're like my crazy wedding friends, haha!</div>

ashlidie

Emily, thanks!  I am basically back to what I call "normal" meaning back to the weight I was when I met FI.  

I have an additional vent (seeing "Pittsburgh" jogged my memory lol).  Terrel Suggs, you know, defensive player of the year this passed year, tore his flippin achilles heel and is OUT FOR THE SEASON!  Exteme sad face for this big Ravens fan...

bananas1309

My vent is kinda snowballing off Cnf's -- all the girls in my family are constantly judging each other. My sister and my female cousins are slender with long legs and blonde hair. Every year we get together for a family reunion and everyone is all tan and has cute designer clothes... I'm sort of the "black sheep" with the pale skin, freckles, and black hair. I'm also short and curvier and I definitely can't afford designer crap! I weight like 130 lbs compared to their 115-120. It's ridiculous because in the real world I have no issues with how I look, but when I'm with them I'm constantly being compared to them. My mom is the worst... She's always saying how I can't pull off clothes like the other girls can. She just had a breast reduction and she LOVES to tell me how my boobs are huge and how I'm going to hate them someday (I'm a damn C cup! She's insane!). Our reunion is at the end of June and now I feel like I have to buy expensive clothes and get tan and lose weight... Gahhhh... It sucks. I get so self conscious around them. =/

Klyn1983

Emily~I feel your pain! Hopefully it's not pouring outside for you, I was soaked by the time FI finished his race!

CNF~That is truly horrible. Don't let anyone talk you down or make you feel uncomfortable. Stay strong, girl! 

Confession: I'm nervous about telling our family and friends about being pregnant. I'm terrified that someone wrong will happen and I'll end up losing the baby. FI wants to tell them asap, he is just SO happy. Heck, he told a random stranger and our waitress this morning at breakfast. 

Confession #2: FI seems to think I need to be in a bubble at all times now. Won't let me touch raw meat, so he preps everything for dinner now. Read up on how I should sleep, what I should eat, what I need to avoid at all costs, etc. There are things that he is worried about, that wouldn't harm the baby or me in any way. 

I know this...yet I'm keeping my mouth shut and letting him take over more housework. 

Vent: I want a large coffee. I'm miserable without it in my life. 

cnf2013

Doctors are just coming out and saying that one small cup of coffee a day is okay while pregnant! Double check me, just to be safe, but I'm certain a read an article about it not too long ago while one of my friends was pregnant. I'm working on my second health degree, so I'm usually pretty current on most topics, but still double check with your doctor. 

ashlidie

klyn- i think I agree with you on the telling everyone front.  I know someone who told everyone and then they lost the baby, so they constantly had to keep going through the torture of telling everyone they lost it.  That's the worst feeling... Of course I will pray this does NOT happen anyway, it's still good to avoid the extra kicking while your down.

I think it's safe to wait until you hit the 2.5-3 month mark.  Just my $0.02

lodonnell616

@Klyn-stick to your guns and avoid everything for the first tri (yay for your FI for being so supportive...and doing the cleaning), and try to keep the news to yourself...all just in case.  How far along are you?

My first C&V post...

C-I have PMS, and just want to drown my sorrows in a bottle of wine...the highs and lows from month to month in my mood and how my body feels freak me out sometimes.

V-Dress shopping is frustrating.  This is my big 'to do' over the next four weeks and my trip last week freaked me out because I didn't get to try on what I'm interested in and I felt like the consultant really wasn't listening to my concerns (the fact that i wear an F cup and am 4'11), though I was pleasantly surprised at what was flattering, none of it was what I will ever wear and that I will NEVER find "THE DRESS"  GAAAH.

sparkles776

Confession: FI is going through a specialized training at work this week. He is a police officer and is going through training so that he can carry a rifle in addition to his handgun. He has not been doing well at the training he hasnt been passing his mock qualification tests. He has come home complaining every single day this week and down in the dumps. I have tried to be super supportive, but hes almost shutting me out and we were supposed to go out to a baseball game with friends tonight and he cancelled without even asking me. He has his qualification tomorrow afternoon, I thought it would be good for us to get out and get his mind off of it, instead of moping all night  This really isnt the type of test you can study for. I wasnt thrilled to be stuck with him and his horrible mood all night and that he cancelled on our friends without asking me, so I snapped at him when he came home.  I said I dont know how you think you are going to pass when you havent passed any of the trials this entire week. I feel so mean and horrible.

Vent: I think I might be so mean and horrible this week because I had 2 of my wisdom teeth pulled unexpectedly on Monday. The pain is horrible and I just want to lay down, I took Tuesday and Wednesday off work, but I went back to work today and really didnt get much done. 

emily- our dog is terrified of thunderstorms too. It is supposed to storm here tonight so I will probably get no sleep as well.

cnf- I am in the same exact boat as you. My whole family is so thin and I have struggled with my weight my whole life. I am 155, and I am trying to be around 120 in time for the wedding. My mom takes jabs at my weight whenever she gets a chance, it is incredibly hurtful coming from your mother. FI always makes me feel better about myself though.

mrskaiser- Dont feel bad about the money! I tend to be overly generous with my money also when I am trashed. 

klyn- I would be nervous too since its so early. I would wait until you are done with your first tri. That is too cute that your FI is being so protective of you and the baby.

Sorry for the novel ladies!

kellyeliz

cnf I frequently wish there was a like button. There are 100000s of times when I like something someone said but don't feel the need to post on it to say so!

Confession: I also have PMS and although I brought a lean cuisine to work for lunch I broke down and ordered a BLT. Then I came home and FI brought home a package of double stuffed oreos... so much for diet!

Vent: I really really want to be a stay at home mom someday. I just don't understand how people can go to work and complain all day and bring everyone else down. Honestly if you don't like your job then leave and get a new one! I know that sounds terrible in such a bad economy but the type of work I do has a large turnover rate and there are always other positions. I am the program director and now I get to spend Friday morning staff meeting laying into everyone (nicely) about being unprofessional. UGH! At least it will be Friday and I wont have to see anyone until Monday!

Vent #2 (sorry): on the same lines as Vent #1 the moral of my program has severely gone downhill because one staff member doesn't pull her weight and do her share. I have done numerous supervisions, verbal warnings, written warnings, etc but HR WONT LET ME FIRE this person! The other staff are frustrated because it seems like I'm not doing anything about the situation and obviously for confidentiality purposes I can't say that I've tried everything. The staff walks around like she is untouchable. So annoying!

I already feel better getting that out! haha thanks girls!

cnf2013

I'm going to be an a-hole and post another vent...

I was supposed to get together with my bridesmaids next weekend to go BM dress shopping. But now all but one of the five have dropped out on me. I know it's all for reasonable reasons (two can't get out of work, one doesn't have a car at the moment and her little brother isn't home from college yet to borrow his, and one is graduating grad school, she thought I said I different date). But I'm still bummed. I went with four of my five girls back in March and they found a dress they all liked. I got caught up in the excitement, but now I don't want to use that one because it's completely opposite of everything I wanted for them. I wanted a short, a-line dress with straps. They all love a strapless sheath dress. And of course the four of them are all pretty thin and fit, but my one BM who wasn't there just had a baby and has gained some baby weight and has expressed concerns about not being comfortable in a sheath dress. I gave them all a month's heads up, so I'm kind of frustrated that four of them have jumped ship. 

iloveu4ever

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2013-weddings_c-v-thursday-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:f30b0bfc-508d-415c-bf59-ab83e327da37Discussion:51f9f059-58eb-455e-8007-f2a1b2bf2bc6Post:f3363815-7ab7-442c-b028-bd11d6a36ad2">Re: C & V Thursday!</a>:
[QUOTE]Confession:  I babysat last night for about 5 hours, and the parents came home a litttttle tipsy.  And by a little, I mean sh!tfaced.  Well, they paid me for the 7 hours I've done over the past week, more than triple what I was expecting.  I took on this job to save extra money for the wedding, but that check they wrote me is enough to cover my Nicki Minaj ticket and meet and greet pass.... sooo I think that's what I'm going to pay for with it.  I know I should put it in the rest of my savings, but for 7 hours of work, I got paid more than my weekly salary at work.  Anyways I'm feeling really guilty and not sure what I should do. Vent:  I don't think I have any vents today.  For once in my life.
Posted by mrskaiser22[/QUOTE]



Haha

Confession: I have a jobs interview on monday, but glad I do.

iloveu4ever

Vent: One of our coworkers quit last.week. No call no show. Another has back problems. Working my ass off!

T&D0707

cnf- I am so sorry that you are dealing with this. Weddings are already so stressful and you don't need that from your family. Since it is your Mom and Aunt and they know your past struggles maybe they would understand if you asked them to lay off for a little bit. 

C: I don't really have one right now

V: I really needed to talk to my FI about everything we need to get ready for our e-pics this weekend. I need to make sure his clothes fit (he recently lost almost 50 lbs) and if I need to get anything before Saturday. So I rush home from work tonight and what is my FI doing....SLEEPING! Granted He is opening this week but he usually waits until after we talk before going to bed. I am going to be so mad if Saturday comes and we are getting ready to go and we find out that he doesn't have dress pants that fit or he forgot he ripped the shirt he was going to wear. (both have happened minutes before we had to leave for somewhere important) 

ktwed1

In Response to Re:C :[QUOTE]EmilyI feel your pain! Hopefully it's not pouring outside for you, I was soaked by the time FI finished his race!CNFThat is truly horrible. : Don't let anyone talk you down or make you feel uncomfortable. Stay strong, girl!nbsp;Confession: I'm nervous about telling our family and friends about being pregnant. I'm terrified that someone wrong will happen and I'll end up losing the baby. FI wants to tell them asap, he is just SO happy. Heck, he told a random stranger and our waitress this morning at breakfast.nbsp;Confession 2: FI seems to think I need to be in a bubble at all times now. Won't let me touch raw meat, so he preps everything for dinner now. Read up on how I should sleep, what I should eat, what I need to avoid at all costs, etc. There are things that he is worried about, that wouldn't harm the baby or me in any way.nbsp;I know this...yet I'm keeping my mouth shut and letting him take over more housework.nbsp;Vent: I want a large coffee. I'm miserable without it in my life.nbsp; Posted by Klyn1983[/QUOTE]
Aww that's really sweet he's wanting to take care of you. Absolutely let him. Take advantage of it while you can.

Klyn1983

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2013-weddings_c-v-thursday-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f30b0bfc-508d-415c-bf59-ab83e327da37Discussion:51f9f059-58eb-455e-8007-f2a1b2bf2bc6Post:e1d421f8-0dc3-4113-95d7-7d31d4afb22b">Re: C & V Thursday!</a>:
[QUOTE]@Klyn-stick to your guns and avoid everything for the first tri (yay for your FI for being so supportive...and doing the cleaning), and try to keep the news to yourself...all just in case.<strong>  How far along are you?</strong>[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I'm approx 6-7 weeks. I went to the doctor yesterday but I have to go back next week. Hopefully next week they will do an US and figure out how far along I am. =/ And hang in there, you *WILL* find your dress! </div><div>
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lodonnell616

Oooh exciting!  I'm sure it will seem so much more real once you see the lil' peanut on screen!

iloveu4ever

Also got Pms. . Grumpy f*****!

iloveu4ever

Also got my period april 1st through 10th. Then april 17th through 22nd. Again maybe 2nd. Going to dr wednesday.

chickadee52287

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[QUOTE]Confession-  I don't want to go out of town all weekend this weekend. My mom and<strong> I are going to Olean NY</strong> (bumfrick nowheresville) to have early mothers day with her mom then Sunday we're helping host and attending my cousin's FI's baby shower. I don't want to gooooo. And since I wont accrue any comp time at work this week or next week I won't be able to take any half days to relax. Bye weekend, see you in next week, maybe.  Vent: I come from a very body conscious family. To the point where I struggled with an eating disorder for a few years, and still have relapses from time to time. Right now I'm much heavier than usual. I gained a lot of weight last year with a two and a half hour commute to a job I detested. And now I'm struggling to lose it without going into crazy mode. I've lost about eight pounds but I'm still way off from where I usually am. I'm usually around 120-125 and this morning I weighed 154 (and that's after the eight pound loss). So I have a ways to go. And my aunt who we're staying with this weekend has a hot tub and her and my mom LOVE to drink and get crazy when they're together. They want to drink in the hot tub Saturday night, and I'm really uncomfortable and almost scared to be in a bathing suit in front of my mom right now. I know she'll make comments about my weight. We're built almost identical and she's probably high 120's right now, so she'll make some snarky remarks about how we're going dress shopping in July and how I need to lose weight.  Sorry that wasn't really a vent... I'm just really not looking forward to this weekend. 
Posted by cnf2013[/QUOTE]

My mom was born and lived in Olean, NY for a good portion of her childhood!

chickadee52287

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[QUOTE]klyn- i think I agree with you on the telling everyone front. <strong> I know someone who told everyone and then they lost the baby, so they constantly had to keep going through the torture of telling everyone they lost it</strong>.  That's the worst feeling... Of course I will pray this does NOT happen anyway, it's still good to avoid the extra kicking while your down. I think it's safe to wait until you hit the 2.5-3 month mark.  Just my $0.02
Posted by ashlidie[/QUOTE]


I also know someone who this just happened to.They had been trying for a while and it finally happened and then tragedy struck them. I just felt horrible for them. What was worse is the a couple days after they announced( well family announced on facebook) a friend who didn't know what happened congratulated them. My heart just sank for them! I think usually the rule of thumb is to wait until the 2.5-3 month mark like Ash said, but I don't know that I would be able to keep that big of a secret that long either!

cnf2013

Chickadee, there's a very good chance our parents (or my aunts or uncle and your mom) crossed paths! My mom went to high school there at Alleghany-Limestone. 

iloveu4ever

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[QUOTE]Emily~I feel your pain! Hopefully it's not pouring outside for you, I was soaked by the time FI finished his race! CNF~That is truly horrible. :( Don't let anyone talk you down or make you feel uncomfortable. Stay strong, girl!  Confession: I'm nervous about telling our family and friends about being pregnant. I'm terrified that someone wrong will happen and I'll end up losing the baby. FI wants to tell them asap, he is just SO happy. Heck, he told a random stranger and our waitress this morning at breakfast.  Confession #2: FI seems to think I need to be in a bubble at all times now. Won't let me touch raw meat, so he preps everything for dinner now. Read up on how I should sleep, what I should eat, what I need to avoid at all costs, etc. There are things that he is worried about, that wouldn't harm the baby or me in any way.  I know this...yet I'm keeping my mouth shut and letting him take over more housework.  Vent: I want a large coffee. I'm miserable without it in my life. 

You can have like 12 oz of coffee a day that is it. I can not live without my caffeine.
Posted by Klyn1983[/QUOTE]