My fiance lost his mother to cancer last year so I was considering having him dance with my mom for the mother/son dance. Any ideas for a song choice is greatly appreciated! Thanks! I know this is going to be a tough one for him...
Ditto pp. My dad died prior to our wedding (3.5 years before) and there's no way I'd want to replace him with anyone. But, if he does want to do it, my husband danced with his mom to "I hope you dance" by Leanne Womack?
Thanks for the thoughts guys...you're probably right. The intention wasn't to "replace" his mom in any way...just include him I guess, but maybe that's a bad idea. His father also died about 15 years ago in a farming accident. I just feel so sad for him that they aren't here. I'm planning on having a candle on display with some kind of quote on it in memory of them.
YOU are planning to do the memorial candle and poem or you FI WANTS those things? If my DH would've put out a memorial to my dad at our wedding without asking me, I would have been so sad and upset.
Ditto everyone else - ask FI. It's thoughtful of you to try and find ways to make the process less sad for him, but in all honesty, it might make it worse. You are fine to broach the subject with him, but if he seems uninterested in it, don't push it.
Definitely let him decide if he wants to memorialize them with candles or plaques or whatever. And don't make him dance with anyone. Please. A lot of people don't do mother/son dances even if the mother is still living, even if they did a father/daughter dance. If he does want to dance and feels left out, he could dance with another female relative of his that he is close to such as a sister, grandmother, or aunt.
As for song selections, if you have trouble coming up with songs you could always do a classical or instrumental song with no words. That way you don't have to worry about what it means. I have seen that done before and I think its really special. Its too hard to put how you feel into words sometimes.
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I'm planning on having a candle on display with some kind of quote on it in memory of them.
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As for song selections, if you have trouble coming up with songs you could always do a classical or instrumental song with no words. That way you don't have to worry about what it means. I have seen that done before and I think its really special. Its too hard to put how you feel into words sometimes.