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JsMama125

Hello. My name's Ali. I was previously on the bump. My SO and I have been together for a little over three years. We are not yet engaged, but have our wedding day set 12.13.14. We have one beautiful boy who is two years old. I Can't wait to marry my SO, and look foward to getting to know you guys.

Swazzle

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[QUOTE]Hello. My name's Ali. I was previously on the bump. My SO and I have been together for a little over three years. We are not yet engaged, but have our wedding day set 12.13.14. We have one beautiful boy who is two years old. I Can't wait to marry my SO, and look foward to getting to know you guys.
Posted by JsMama125[/QUOTE]

<div>Hi. If you're not engaged how (and why) did you plan your wedding date?</div>

LaSak87

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[QUOTE]In Response to Intro : Hi. If you're not engaged how (and why) did you plan your wedding date?
Posted by rdr716[/QUOTE]
This.  Does not compute.

JsMama125

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[QUOTE]In Response to Intro : Hi. If you're not engaged how (and why) did you plan your wedding date?
Posted by rdr716[/QUOTE]



We have been talking marriage for months now. We have been together since 12.09 so we decided 12.13.14 was perfect for us. We also plan on trying for LO#2 in 2015. In may we will start booking and planning. So we'll see when he officially pops the question. He wants it to be a surprise so I'm assuming he won't do it for awhile, but he is always telling me it will happen sooner then I think. He has to keep me on my toes since I'm hard to surprise.

LaSak87

Engagement is an agreement to get married.  You don't need a grand gesture proposal in order to be engaged.  If you're both on board and actively planning a wedding, it sounds like an engagement.

Swazzle

Please take a look at this since you're new to these parts:

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_new-read-this-first

JsMama125

Then I guess it's an engagement...

Swazzle

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[QUOTE]Then I guess it's an engagement...
Posted by JsMama125[/QUOTE]

<div>Ohok. </div><div>
</div><div>Well, welcome to NEY</div>

LaSak87

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[QUOTE]Then I guess it's an engagement...
Posted by JsMama125[/QUOTE]
I mean this to be helpful.  Many people have come on here without being engaged and tried to make wedding plans without their SO's knowledge.  It's just a clarification thing that you both are in agreement and are planning for the same thing.

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being engaged and getting married is super-exciting, and it seems like your SO is totally on board.  however, in order to preserve your (and his) sanity it's usually best to wait until you are actually engaged to start planning.  it sounds like you both consider his proposal the official start of your engagement.  based off of other's experiences, you might want to think about stalling on any wedding plans until he has proposed.

so tell me about your little boy...  what's he been up to lately?  is he a little trouble-maker, or mama's perfect angel?

JsMama125

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[QUOTE]being engaged and getting married is super-exciting, and it seems like your SO is totally on board.  however, in order to preserve your (and his) sanity it's usually best to wait until you are actually engaged to start planning.  it sounds like you both consider his proposal the official start of your engagement.  based off of other's experiences, you might want to think about stalling on any wedding plans until he has proposed. so tell me about your little boy...  what's he been up to lately?  is he a little trouble-maker, or mama's perfect angel?
Posted by CocoBellaF[/QUOTE]



Yes, he is totally on board with it. I wouldn't plan anything without him since it will mostly be coming out of his income. I'm a SAHM and only work PT which covers my car payment and our insurance. For that reason we want to plan early. We are very young (20) and understand we have to work 2x as hard since we have a LO. With the big wedding we want it's necessary to plan ahead.

As far as our little boy, he is being a trouble-maker. He just spilled his cup of milk on the floor trying to put his paci in his cup for whatever weird reason he had.

Swazzle

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Intro : Yes, he is totally on board with it. I wouldn't plan anything without him since it will mostly be coming out of his income. I'm a SAHM and only work PT which covers my car payment and our insurance.<strong> For that reason we want to plan early. We are very young (20) and understand we have to work 2x as hard since we have a LO. With the big wedding we want it's necessary to plan ahead. </strong> As far as our little boy, he is being a trouble-maker. He just spilled his cup of milk on the floor trying to put his paci in his cup for whatever weird reason he had.
Posted by JsMama125[/QUOTE]

<div>FWIW, it's never "necessary" to plan a wedding prior to getting engaged. It's always a good idea to have a savings account that you contribute to of course, but as far as looking at dresses, researching and booking vendors, that stuff really can wait until you're engaged and actually planning a wedding. </div>

JsMama125

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Intro : FWIW, it's never "necessary" to plan a wedding prior to getting engaged. It's always a good idea to have a savings account that you contribute to of course, but as far as looking at dresses, researching and booking vendors, that stuff really can wait until you're engaged and actually planning a wedding. 
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We will be putting money in a savings account also for my dress and ect...
As far as a venue we will be looking next month, booking, and making payments. I'm sure 12/13/14 is going to be a very popular date. We are certain we are getting married. We already been through the valley and have gotten through it all. With a two year old in toll early planing will make our life easier. Thanks for your advice though.

peekaboo2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Intro : FWIW, it's never "necessary" to plan a wedding prior to getting engaged. It's always a good idea to have a savings account that you contribute to of course, but as far as looking at dresses, researching and booking vendors, that stuff really can wait until you're engaged and actually planning a wedding. 
Posted by rdr716[/QUOTE]

<div>This.</div><div>
</div><div>You can also plan a wedding in 6 weeks.  Lots of people do it.  So, relax and enjoy your time as BF/GF.  You don't get to go back once you're engaged/married.</div>

JsMama125

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Intro : This. You can also plan a wedding in 6 weeks.  Lots of people do it.  So, relax and enjoy your time as BF/GF.  You don't get to go back once you're engaged/married.
Posted by peekaboo2011[/QUOTE]



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