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  • AdeleDazeemAdeleDazeem member
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    What was wrong with the MOH thread?  I'm so confused.

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  • AdeleDazeemAdeleDazeem member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_knot-irene-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:5374f97c-4a93-4100-bdc4-a054e1281de5Post:067fa39d-5bad-4a75-9609-1c4d7277ee55">Re: *Knot Irene*</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: *Knot Irene* : Bullying and disrespect.  HTH.
    Posted by LingerLonger1[/QUOTE]

    It's bullying and disprespectful to point out that the OP was only seeing the situation from one perspective (her own) and completely disregarding the feelings and emotional well-being of her friend?

    Fascinating.




    I get that the Knot Gods want a "nice" situation around here, but sometimes people are behaving badly and are being hard headed.  What else are we supposed to do?  Say "Oh, yes... you're right, dear.  Go on acting this way - it's good for your friendship!"

    Sensitive feelers on ALL sides right now.  I can't handle it.

    EDITed: for clarity

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    [QUOTE]So do you think that would be everyone's feeling about FFF?  You have more personal contact with them than I do.
    Posted by Knot Irene[/QUOTE]


    Not at all, I think the sheer numbers participating would point to otherwise.  It's not what it used to be, but people still have fun with it.
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  • J&K10910J&K10910 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_knot-irene-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:5374f97c-4a93-4100-bdc4-a054e1281de5Post:59c1eee7-253d-403c-939f-67f3dca89016">Re: *Knot Irene*</a>:
    [QUOTE]Linger, I never said anything goes.  <strong>I said for the FFF flame the idea not the person.</strong> I cannot be everywhere at once no matter now hard I try.  I'll go look for that naming flaming (hey that sounds kindof interesting) and deal with it. Newbies are not fair game either.  I'm overwhelmed dealing with this unclarity.  I've been on the boards since 5:30 this morning tracking down vendors, responding to posts and PMs, etc so that's 7 hours and the day still has lots of time left. I appreciate your sharing what you feel needs clarification and I'm making a list of all of it. I'm really trying to do the right thing, but I don't always succeed.
    Posted by Knot Irene[/QUOTE]
    So if people had been flaming Kristan's IDEAS, not her as a person, it would have been ok?  But how do we separate her "idea" of what is and isn't ok for people getting married from HER?  How could it have been done appropriately?  Or is it just not ok because she saw it and was upset?

    Because frankly, I think telling people stuff to their faces (like yesterday's thread) is far better than tittering at them behind their backs (like FFF).  Yet it sounds like you guys think the opposite.

    You know what would be helpful, so you wouldn't have to be everywhere?  A mod.

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_knot-irene-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:5374f97c-4a93-4100-bdc4-a054e1281de5Post:11d4b86c-d14d-4515-b0ce-310eaaa3ee1f">Re:Knot Irene</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re:Knot Irene: Agreed. If you want to get some sort of idea, you might post this question on E and see how everyone responds. I think you'll get a ton of conflicting responses, but it might help you get a better idea of what everyone is thinking.
    Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]
    That's what I was thinking--I just wanted to ask you guys first since you were here.
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  • MuppetFanMuppetFan member
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    [QUOTE]Exactly, Daria!  "I Judge" almost has better bite to it as of late.    I guess I don't care if it goes or stays. The important thing to me is that I still be allowed to "flame" people in their original thread if I think their plan or thought process sucks. I don't want to suddenly not be allowed to say, "I think you're being ridiculous" or "I think you're being a selfish brat" b/c it's suddenly considering hateful under new TOS. 
    Posted by AddieL73[/QUOTE]

    I agree with Addie on several points.

    FFF was way funnier when it was a free for all. I personally appreciated as a recap of horrible posts and discussion about it. It was very entertaining.  I don't take issue with people flaming in a post about the original thread and I don't think the recap is any different.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_knot-irene-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:5374f97c-4a93-4100-bdc4-a054e1281de5Post:573719ba-f85e-4634-839e-cb9cfaf36042">Re:Knot Irene</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re:Knot Irene: Joy, I don't think Linger is trying to create a "nice" situation, nor did she get her feelers hurt. She is, I presume, simply saying what is good for the goose is good for the gander, and the stuff in that thread is the same thing SOME of us have been getting our chops busted for for weeks now under those titles of "bullying" and "disrespect".
    Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]


    No!!  Haha.  I'm sorry - poor wording on my part.

    I meant "you" as in Knot Irene, Knot Jackie, and the Knot God people, not Linger.   I edited my original post to have it make more sense.

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  • MuppetFanMuppetFan member
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: *Knot Irene* : So if people had been flaming Kristan's IDEAS, not her as a person, it would have been ok?  But how do we separate her "idea" of what is and isn't ok for people getting married from HER?  How could it have been done appropriately?  Or is it just not ok because she saw it and was upset? Because frankly, I think telling people stuff to their faces (like yesterday's thread) is far better than tittering at them behind their backs (like FFF).  Yet it sounds like you guys think the opposite. You know what would be helpful, so you wouldn't have to be everywhere?  A mod.
    Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

    I normally would say that in some cases, people are just dumb for opening their mouth and what they said opens up a whole can of worms.

    Kristan posted in disagreement with the article as others posted. She provided a few anecdotes to demonstrate that despite her religous feelings, she does not support what happened and was attacked for her beliIefs.

    It would've been different if she said she was glad for what happened and thinks everyone that thought otherwise sucked. I believe that would've invited it. She did the opposite.

    It would've been different if a separate thread was created discussing why the religious argument doesn't work. If she chose to participate in that, she might've invited it based on what she said.

    I disagree with her position wholeheartedly, but I don't feel she opened herself up to being attacked because she participated in the conversation respectfully to the OP and others reading it.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: *Knot Irene* : I normally would say that in some cases, people are just dumb for opening their mouth and what they said opens up a whole can of worms. Kristan posted in disagreement with the article as others posted. She provided a few anecdotes to demonstrate that despite her religous feelings, she does not support what happened and was attacked for her beliIefs. It would've been different if she said she was glad for what happened and thinks everyone that thought otherwise sucked. I believe that would've invited it. She did the opposite. It would've been different if a separate thread was created discussing why the religious argument doesn't work. If she chose to participate in that, she might've invited it based on what she said. I disagree with her position wholeheartedly, but I don't feel she opened herself up to being attacked because she participated in the conversation respectfully to the OP and others reading it.
    Posted by MuppetFan[/QUOTE]

    I'm completely scratching my head here.

    So people who say stupid stuff open themselves up for attack?  But people who have opinions that the majority of people disagree with, and they say those ideas, knowing that the majority ofp eople disagree, are NOT opening themselves up for attack?

    I'm trying to work out your train of thought, because this just isn't making sense to me.

    Then again, I believe that if you put something on the internet, especially on a public forum, you open yourself up to people responding to you, disagreeing with you, and potentially being not nice to you.  I firmly believe if you're not willing to accept that responsibility and you're not able to draw your own line and know when you need to step away, that internet forums are not the place you should be hanging out.

    But, also, I don't think she was attacked.  So I guess I'm biased there too.

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    [QUOTE]One thing that hasn't been addressed (that I saw anyway) is that getting called out for your BS is not the end of the world. People just act like it is because it happens so rarely in real life- which is exactly why these boards are useful.  The main function of the Etiquette board is to get opinions (not validation) from other brides, MOBs or BMs who you don't know. The opinions on these boards (even/especially harsh ones) have been more useful to me than advice from my own family and friends a lot of the time. Because your friends and family will sugar coat things, anonymous people on the internet will tell you the truth. I understand that outright calling someone a selfish moron probably doesn't foster the community you want here, but over censoring these boards will defeat the point of them. If someone comes here with a really selfish or rude idea, they should be called out. And if the idea is particularly terrible or they dig their feet in when confronted then they should be called out harshly. Because maybe they need to hear it. 
    Posted by HoorayForSoup[/QUOTE]

    I think we respond very differently to the way the OP wrote their first post. With the one earlier today, she was very negative and attacked her bridesmaid through the post. People gave her courteous responses and she started being nasty to the board and it took off. She totally deserved that and invited it.

    Other people come in and very innocently ask a question about their honeymoon registry and I'll say that most people will tell them it's rude but are very civil about it. From there, the OP either thinks that because people don't agree with them, we are all rude. Other people think....crap, I had no idea!

    In the beginning for me, I had 2 things I was dumbfounded about. One was HM registry. I asked a few questions after I was told it was rude and got some agressive responses but nothing nasty. I now understand the rude perspective of it.  Also, favors....I thought my idea for favors was the coolest ever and then everyone told me  no one wanted them and while I didn't believe them at first, I did think "30 people can't be wrong" and checked into it and it turns out, no one wanted my damn favor.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_knot-irene-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:5374f97c-4a93-4100-bdc4-a054e1281de5Post:29765241-405a-4f2d-be23-919095a344d8">Re: *Knot Irene*</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: *Knot Irene* : KI asked that we not continue this particular discussion but you just can't seem to let it drop.  I feel bullied.  KI please close this thread.  My sensitive feelers can't handle it.
    Posted by LingerLonger1[/QUOTE]

    If you can't stand the heat, get out of my thread.

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: *Knot Irene* : I think we respond very differently to the way the OP wrote their first post. With the one earlier today, she was very negative and attacked her bridesmaid through the post. People gave her courteous responses and she started being nasty to the board and it took off. She totally deserved that and invited it. Other people come in and very innocently ask a question about their honeymoon registry and I'll say that most people will tell them it's rude but are very civil about it. From there, the OP either thinks that because people don't agree with them, we are all rude. Other people think....crap, I had no idea! In the beginning for me, I had 2 things I was dumbfounded about. One was HM registry. I asked a few questions after I was told it was rude and got some agressive responses but nothing nasty. I now understand the rude perspective of it.  Also, favors....I thought my idea for favors was the coolest ever and then everyone told me  no one wanted them and while I didn't believe them at first, I did think "30 people can't be wrong" and checked into it and it turns out, no one wanted my damn favor.
    Posted by MuppetFan[/QUOTE]

    OH MY GOD STOP IT.


    Your "ideas" irritate the crap out of me.

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: *Knot Irene* : KI asked that we not continue this particular discussion but you just can't seem to let it drop.  I feel bullied.  KI please close this thread.  My sensitive feelers can't handle it.
    Posted by LingerLonger1[/QUOTE]

    I was responding to the comment a few posts up from K&J. My intent is not to re-hash the topic of morality from yesterday, but to show distinction for what is appropriate.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: *Knot Irene* : I was responding to the comment a few posts up from K&J. My intent is not to re-hash the topic of morality from yesterday, but to show distinction for what is appropriate.
    Posted by MuppetFan[/QUOTE]

    What are your qualifications for making the distinction of what is appropriate and what isn't?

    In other words, who died and made you queen of the interwebs?

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    I think if anyone here should get to make the distinction on what's appropriate, it should go by seniority.

    J&K for president, bitches!

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    And by seniority, I mean post count, because Stage has outlived me here.

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: *Knot Irene* : What are your qualifications for making the distinction of what is appropriate and what isn't? In other words, who died and made you queen of the interwebs?
    Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

    It's a discussion full of opinions. That is mine.
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    I'm going to step away for a while.  I've been on these boards for 9 hours straight today and my brain isn't working right.  I don't want to answer stupidly (although I'm sure you may think most of my answers are stupid) when I can't get my head clear.  
    I will respond, but not tit for tat as I've been trying to do. I will answer.  I hope you understand.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_knot-irene-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:5374f97c-4a93-4100-bdc4-a054e1281de5Post:66aa73b3-fde3-48a3-a5ba-f28187ae59a4">Re: *Knot Irene*</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: *Knot Irene* : Your intent doesn't much matter because what you did was rehash the topic from yesterday.
    Posted by LingerLonger1[/QUOTE]

    I actually didn't. It was done previously in this thread. I am not mentioning it again.

    Edited to fix a typo.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_knot-irene-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:5374f97c-4a93-4100-bdc4-a054e1281de5Post:6479cdaa-4a62-481a-ac88-cad7bfc2706d">Re: *Knot Irene*</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: *Knot Irene* : It's a discussion full of opinions. That is mine.
    Posted by MuppetFan[/QUOTE]

    And my opinion is that your opinion is illogical and wrong.

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    [QUOTE]I'm going to step away for a while.  I've been on these boards for 9 hours straight today and my brain isn't working right.  I don't want to answer stupidly (although I'm sure you may think most of my answers are stupid) when I can't get my head clear.   I will respond, but not tit for tat as I've been trying to do. I will answer.  I hope you understand.
    Posted by Knot Irene[/QUOTE]

    Thank you for letting us know you're not ignoring us.  I understand, and appreciate it.

    In the meantime, I will take full advantage of knowing Jackie is gone today, you are taking a break, and there is no acting mod. 
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: *Knot Irene* : You have more posts than me? Da fuq did that happen?
    Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

    When you took your TK vacation that was like a whole year long?

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    I've got two that accept my rule. I think that's enough.

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    Boom, boom, firepower!

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    She's taking a break, bully.

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: *Knot Irene* : I normally would say that in some cases, people are just dumb for opening their mouth and what they said opens up a whole can of worms. Kristan posted in disagreement with the article as others posted. She provided a few anecdotes to demonstrate that despite her religous feelings,<strong> <u>she does not support what happened and was attacked for her beliIefs</u></strong><u>.</u> It would've been different if she said she was glad for what happened and thinks everyone that thought otherwise sucked. I believe that would've invited it. She did the opposite. It would've been different if a separate thread was created discussing why the religious argument doesn't work. If she chose to participate in that, she might've invited it based on what she said. I disagree with her position wholeheartedly, but I don't feel she opened herself up to being attacked because she participated in the conversation respectfully to the OP and others reading it.
    Posted by MuppetFan[/QUOTE]


    She was NOT attacked for her beliefs. She was CHALLENGED on those beliefs.  She posted what turned out to be an unpopular opinion and she was asked to explain herself.

    Attacking =  OMG, you are SUCH an idiot !!  how could you POSSIBLY believe what you believe and still have a brain in your head !!?  Dumbassssssss

    what happend in that thread was not the same. She was told that her opinion was unpopular, she was challenged to answer various questions about her beliefs.  that is not the same as being attacked.

    This is not about Kristan and I'm not rehashing the thread.  But, I am trying to make people understand the significant difference between being attacked/bullied and being called out on something you say.

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    Websites/blogs where our wedding has been featured:

    http://www.dapperq.com/2013/11/a-very-dapper-wedding/

    http://www.onabicyclebuiltfortwo.com/2013/10/wedding-christina-g.html

    http://4realequalityweddings.com/2014/05/16/g-christina/

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  • J&K10910J&K10910 member
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    edited April 2013
    Please to be taking your logic elsewhere. You were not invited here with a plus 1

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  • s-aries8990s-aries8990 member
    Fifth Anniversary 500 Love Its 1000 Comments Name Dropper
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_knot-irene-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:5374f97c-4a93-4100-bdc4-a054e1281de5Post:707fc3a6-fe5e-41eb-9343-a933fe5c94ad">Re: *Knot Irene*</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: *Knot Irene* : S <strong>But, I am trying to make people understand the significant difference between being attacked/bullied and being called out on something you say.</strong>
    Posted by cmgilpin[/QUOTE]

    This. Being told you have an upopular idea or are factually incorrect =/= being told you, as a person, are a dinkus

    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_knot-irene-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:5374f97c-4a93-4100-bdc4-a054e1281de5Post:7c7c530e-b668-4fe2-98c4-f5a72b03de38">Re: *Knot Irene*</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: *Knot Irene* : <strong> If you can't stand the heat, get out of my thread.</strong>
    Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

    And I've not chimed in on threads because I certainly can't stand the heat sometimes. J&K is right.
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  • QueerFemmeQueerFemme member
    5000 Comments Fifth Anniversary 500 Love Its 5 Answers
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_knot-irene-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:5374f97c-4a93-4100-bdc4-a054e1281de5Post:fc2d1a00-49e9-4ecd-99f5-45a372fb61eb">Re:Knot Irene</a>:
    [QUOTE]Please to be taking your logic elsewhere. You were not invited here with a plus 1
    Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

    I didn't bring a plus 1.  Unless you are counting my butt as a seperate person. 

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    Websites/blogs where our wedding has been featured:

    http://www.dapperq.com/2013/11/a-very-dapper-wedding/

    http://www.onabicyclebuiltfortwo.com/2013/10/wedding-christina-g.html

    http://4realequalityweddings.com/2014/05/16/g-christina/

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