So I live 12 hours from my family and my entire wedding party and only a mile from my future in-laws. So I don't have much help when it comes to the planning process. My future mother-in-law has not only been amazing and helped me with so much throughout the planning process but she has also helped with costs. However, while I really do appreciate he help sometimes I feel smoothered. She has invited herself to our cake tasting already which I have just accepted. But now she wants to go with my fiance and I when we register for gifts. She even suggested that just her and I go. I feel bad because she has helped so much but at the same time I really would like it to be just my fiance and I. She also invites her self to every meeting we have with our officiant and wants to be part in everything we do, including picking out our ceremony. What can I do to let her know that while I appreciate all that she is gdoing for us that there are some things that I woud like to me just my fiance and I.
Re: Mother-In-Law
If I were in your shoes, I would probably start by simply not TELLING her about all the wedding meetings that I have coming up. It will be impossible for her to "invite herself along" if she doesn't know that a meeting is even taking place. It's not about keeping secrets, necessarily.. but more about simply not TELLING her as much. ha!
Also.. Is there any special job that you can 'task' her with? Perhaps she is a really great sewer? Or maybe she has a close friend who owns a bakery and you can task her with arranging all the cupcakes/dessert? If you give her a JOB that is exclusively hers, she'll feel like she is important and 'part of the wedding'.
I've found with my wedding that so many people just want to HELP. I've been deligating as many jobs as I can part with to various people just to shut them up- haha! My in-laws are handling our bar... my sister-in-law managed my guest list for me... my mother is hand-sewing all of our bunting (and we're having like 800 ft of it!).
If she tries to push further, ask FI to intervene becuase it is his mother.