my friends commit ettiquete faux pas too :(
We just got an invitation that uses their married monogram and name (okay, I forgive you, no big deal) Sends RSVP's to their married name (alright, whatever.) then a big sparkly insert saying, "Your presence is present enough, HOWEVER, should you honor us with a gift, a monetary donation would be greatly appreciated at our honeyfund.com account under *their last name here*. Also, we are registered at Macy's. Please refer to our wedding website for more details!"
I made the mistake and did that:
Wedding website goes on to mention they have a beautiful home with beutiful things but want to go to hawaii so please help them. Directions to the ceremony and reception (because some people are not coming to the ceremony) and remember to bring cash for the bar!
Oh and RSVP card didn't have a stamp. 
Dang it!
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!! My friends did not do this! Whyyyyy!?
How many etiquette breaches have you seen simultaneously?
June 1, 2013 - finally making it official!
Re: my friends commit ettiquete faux pas too :(
Wedding has yet to occur, but will be Memorial Day weekend in Chicago. Still waiting on the invite, but received STD with wedding website listed.
Website indicates things start at 6 pm, lists "Dinner" and the fact that transport from site to downtown will be provided at conclusion of celebrations. Dinner will apparently be very hor devours heavy, no buffet or sit down meal, but there will be tons of food (bride works in event planning, caterers are all folks she's directed business to in the past, so lots of good food for a discount).
Couple has chosen to register at honeyfund.com. Indicates where they will travel to, what they plan on doing. Site does not show them registering for specific things such as plane tickets, wine and chocolate in hotel, etc. Just put in amount you want to give, then click whether you're sending a check or giving cash in person. I nearly threw up.
The kicker? The groom is my brother. I get a feeling giving him 50 bucks in the currency of the country they are going to with a note "For Cab Fare" will not go over well...
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: my friends commit ettiquete faux pas too :( : I didn't know there was anything wrong with using labels on invites. :(
Posted by gpeeples[/QUOTE]
<div>Yeah I think that one is a bit silly. I knew that it's techincally impolite, but I still used address labels for my invites. Maybe I will get ripped apart for saying this, but most people aren't going to care one way or the other, and the ones that do care are a bit too judgemental in my opinion. The envelope gets thrown away, anyway. Who cares if I didn't handwrite your name and address? Both FI and I basically have a 5-year-old's handwriting, so we're really doing them a favor. ;)</div>
Eh. I used clear labels for the return address. We printed the main address on our own printer. Got lots of compliments on how lovely they looked.
[QUOTE]Out of curiosity what is the etiquete around having a civil ceremony a few months before having a religious ceremony and reception? I was considering this earlier this year when it looked like I would be losing my job and health insurance. I wanted to just call off the "big" wedding, but the other option would have been doing the court house thing with just the two of us and keeping the current date to have a religious ceremony that involves signing Jewish marriage licence that requires a certain number of Jewish witnesses/signers with reception after.
Posted by lalans[/QUOTE]
The day you are legally joined as husband and wife (where you obtain benefits such as spousal health insurance) is your wedding. The other day would be a vow renewal and should be done without the traditional trappings of a wedding (no showers, no bach parties, no wedding party, no big formal white gown with a train and veil, etc.).
Just wait until the religious ceremony to be legally joined.