FFF/LFF

kmbryant2413

..What the eff? I show up LATE to work and it's still not up? Well, Ladies, per KI's request, let's try to dial down anything that might be misconstrued as a 'personal attack'.

That being said,

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_how-to-say-we-are-registered-at-target-but-we-also-accept-cash-money

Just the words 'cash money' seem tacky to me, so I flame catnippers for asking for MOOLAH. And the amazing, beautiful, poetry that this thread created.

My love still goes out to Courtania and NYCMercedes for the loss of their loved ones last week.

You go.

AddieCake

I flame anyone who finds it frustrating to have to deal with guest comfort and anyone who has their fiance come to their "rescue" on a message board.  http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_sitting-or-standing

misshart00

I flame the idea that the grooms family not hosting the RD would be a 'red flag.' I'm mobile so I can't post links. Rehearsal dinner yay or may thread a few down from here.

Edit: http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_rehearsal-dinner-yay-or-nay

kmbryant2413

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-108?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:7b8fd8f1-3c56-4a7b-9528-f7b31c25b538Post:ca3c6555-9a85-4dec-8abe-30addcd2380b">Re: FFF/LFF</a>:
[QUOTE]I flame anyone who finds it frustrating to have to deal with guest comfort and anyone who has their fiance come to their "rescue" on a message board.  <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_sitting-or-standing">http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_sitting-or-standing</a>
Posted by AddieL73[/QUOTE]

<div>What. The. Eff. Wow. I missed that one this week.</div>

wittykitty14

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridesmaid-suddenly-backing-out

THIS.  The bride who was mad that one of her BM's refused to alter her nails, because she plays guitar for a living and couldn't risk tampering with them.  The bride posted for a while, and refused to understand why everyone said she was being unreasonable.

Also, LFF to all the commenters who turned it into a Muppet conversation!  It was awesome!

kmbryant2413

Ooh kitty that might have been the best one of the week. It legitimately got me riled up.

harper0813

I was worried that FFF/LFF was against the new Knot rules! Whew.

I flame citing TK's wedding party "duties" and brides saying that since she went through crap as a bridesmaid for her friends, her friends would go through crap for her. Oh, and saying that friends with crazy busy/traveling work schedules SHOULD make time for wedding planning.

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_will-i-have-a-mia-bm-on-my-big-day

Love to katietodd88 - her parents are going through a rough divorce and they each refuse to go to the wedding if the other is there. And love to Stage, who had 1/3 of her guests not show up to her wedding (?!).

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_parents-started-brutal-divorce-4-weeks-before-my-wedding-what-do-i-do-now

itzMS

My FFF goes out to this post, and any post that asks how much to spend on (insert wedding item here).

It frustrates me that grown women can't sit down with their FI (or bridesmaids in this scenario) and talk about money and budgets. I just don't get the reasoning behind post like these. Ffs, yeah, a bunch of internet strangers can tell you how much to spend on something...*insert sarcasm*

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_would-you-pay-305-for-a-bridemaid-dress

AddieCake

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-108?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:7b8fd8f1-3c56-4a7b-9528-f7b31c25b538Post:6c6b40b6-43d3-4343-ace0-410e4597d9a7">Re:FFF/LFF</a>:
[QUOTE]I flame the idea that the grooms family not hosting the RD would be a 'red flag.' I'm mobile so I can't post links. Rehearsal dinner yay or may thread a few down from here. Edit: <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_rehearsal-dinner-yay-or-nay">http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_rehearsal-dinner-yay-or-nay</a>
Posted by misshart00[/QUOTE]


Yeah. My husband and I paid for our own RD. That's in no way a red flag.

[Deleted User]

Can I flame a person who isn't on the boards? Because I'd love to do that to this poor woman's FMIL and her FI who doesn't see a problem with this absolutely insane behavior:
http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_fmil-vent-5

Also LFF for her as well. I feel so bad for her...

[Deleted User]

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-108?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:7b8fd8f1-3c56-4a7b-9528-f7b31c25b538Post:6c6b40b6-43d3-4343-ace0-410e4597d9a7">Re:FFF/LFF</a>:
[QUOTE]I flame the idea that the grooms family not hosting the RD would be a 'red flag.' I'm mobile so I can't post links. Rehearsal dinner yay or may thread a few down from here. Edit: <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_rehearsal-dinner-yay-or-nay">http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_rehearsal-dinner-yay-or-nay</a>
Posted by misshart00[/QUOTE]

Ok, I'm glad I'm not the only one who found that odd. I mean, if they don't want to pay, they don't have to pay. I don't see how that's a sign of a bad relationship...

wittykitty14

Also, I didn't realize the rules had just changed, so now I'm skiddish after my PP.  If anyone thinks I violated anything, PLEASE let me know.  I don't want to get banned! Thanks!  

AddieCake

Yeah, that poor woman is in for years of MIL hell if they don't get some counseling.

rel1988

LFF to Muppet this week for her entertaining threads which have made my week much more enjoyable!

ladytori

I flame brides who treat their bridesmaids terribly. For the last time, your bridemaids' responsibilities are to buy a dress (within their budgets) and show up.

(1) Your bridesmaids do not have to throw a shower or a bach party. These are gifts.
(2) Your bridesmaids are not required to get their hair, makeup and nails done professionally.
(3) Your bridesmaids are not responsible for writing invitations, arranging centerpieces, putting favors together, etc.
(4) Your bridesmaids(bridesman) are people who are very special to you and should be treated with the utmost respect.

misshart00

I also flame the idea of calling your mother "dead weight" because she won't pay for your wedding even though you've been engaged for 2 years.

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_budget-weddings_i-am-so-lost

GoofyAssChick

So happy that LFF/FFF is still on for today.  I didn't know if it was going to stop per request or whether it was just slow to start due to Good Friday. 

FFF:

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_fmil-vent-5

I just don't understand how he nor his mother get it that her behavior is intrusive.  And what sane parent would go into her son and FDIL's home unannouced and begin cleaning, grocery shopping and cooking meals?  And a father that digs up the yard without asking either?  I really do hope this bride considers everything before walking down the aisle.  I couldn't and wouldn't live this way. 

kmbryant2413

I guess everyone was afraid that we'd get banned? Lol.. No one gave me the memo. So if KI steps in and says 'No no' then I guess that's what it is. I just reminded everyone that we can flame bad ideas without calling people names. Perhaps we should just post threads, and not even individual usernames?

KnotIrene

You are all awesome!! 

Thanks so very much for doing the thread this way...I hope it works well and that you guys have a wonderful weekend.

GoofyAssChick

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-108?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:7b8fd8f1-3c56-4a7b-9528-f7b31c25b538Post:0008d473-fbf8-4916-bd5e-ab71b4bd9138">Re: FFF/LFF</a>:
[QUOTE]You are all awesome!!  Thanks so very much for doing the thread this way...I hope it works well and that you guys have a wonderful weekend.
Posted by Knot Irene[/QUOTE]

The Knot needs a like button. 
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s-aries8990

Ditto the nail thread. It's like ok, you asked - the bride WAS within her right to simply ask the BM to do her nails; and I say she was still in the clear when she offered several alternate options. She stepped over the line when the BM said no-way twice.

I'm always under the idea that a person won't know unless they ask, but if you get the same answer more than once you're just risking the relationship.

LFF to Muppet too. I want Miss Piggy nails now. I actually have an OPI polish called "Meep Meep Meep" from their Muppet collection a few years back.

kmbryant2413

Grrr, cash bars some more. The very end of this thread really, really pissed me off.

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_trying-to-understand-the-why-behind-the-bar-issue

AddieCake

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-108?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:7b8fd8f1-3c56-4a7b-9528-f7b31c25b538Post:f599d792-0bf5-4e34-a330-7fa211fe9547">Re: FFF/LFF</a>:
[QUOTE]I also flame the idea of calling your mother "dead weight" because she won't pay for your wedding even though you've been engaged for 2 years. <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_budget-weddings_i-am-so-lost">http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_budget-weddings_i-am-so-lost</a>
Posted by misshart00[/QUOTE]


This situation has way more problems than a wedding. She needs to be more concerned about her mental health, having a job, place to live, etc. If her story is true, my heart goes out, but a wedding would be the last thing on my mind in her case, so I find it curious that she is even trying to plan one.

KnotIrene

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-108?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:7b8fd8f1-3c56-4a7b-9528-f7b31c25b538Post:04742552-bd94-43b1-a78a-50c1a3cb54bd">Re: FFF/LFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF/LFF : The Knot needs a like button. 
Posted by GoofyAssChick[/QUOTE]

<div>Working on it!  </div>

Jessa617

I haven't been around much this week, so I'll have to catch up on what I missed.

LFF for my fellow April bride adawn for getting some exciting news this morning that she's expecting!

misshart00

In Response to Re:FFF/LFF:[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF/LFF:I also flame the idea of calling your mother "dead weight" because she won't pay for your wedding even though you've been engaged for 2 years. <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/weddingboards_budgetweddings_iamsolostPosted">http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/weddingboards_budgetweddings_iamsolostPosted</a> by misshart00
This situation has way more problems than a wedding. She needs to be more concerned about her mental health, having a job, place to live, etc. If her story is true, my heart goes out, but a wedding would be the last thing on my mind in her case, so I find it curious that she is even trying to plan one. Posted by AddieL73[/QUOTE]

I completely agree. I was just annoyed that she kept blaming all if her problems on her mom. She seriously needs to seek counseling and I hope she does.

lyndausvi

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-108?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:7b8fd8f1-3c56-4a7b-9528-f7b31c25b538Post:6c6b40b6-43d3-4343-ace0-410e4597d9a7">Re:FFF/LFF</a>:
[QUOTE]I flame the idea that the grooms family not hosting the RD would be a 'red flag.' I'm mobile so I can't post links. Rehearsal dinner yay or may thread a few down from here. Edit: <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_rehearsal-dinner-yay-or-nay">http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_rehearsal-dinner-yay-or-nay</a>
Posted by misshart00[/QUOTE]

<div>Come on..... consider the source of that comment.  That is her standard comment on the subject for years now.   She also claims all of FL feels the same way.  I have yet to actually see that confirmed though.</div>

misshart00

In Response to Re:FFF/LFF:[QUOTE]In Response to Re:FFF/LFF:I flame the idea that the grooms family not hosting the RD would be a 'red flag.' I'm mobile so I can't post links. Rehearsal dinner yay or may thread a few down from here. Edit: <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/weddingboards_etiquette_rehearsaldinneryayornayPosted">http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/weddingboards_etiquette_rehearsaldinneryayornayPosted</a> by misshart00Come on..... consider the source of that comment. nbsp;That is her standard comment on the subject for years now. nbsp; She also claims all of FL feels the same way. nbsp;I have yet to actually see that confirmed though. Posted by lyndausvi[/QUOTE]

I know her very traditional views, but I never actually heard her say something was a red flag. I'm still kind of curious how its a red flag though. How does them not paying for the RD affect the bride and grooms relationship?

GoodLuckBear14

I flame Kristin Numbers for still after all these years insisting that it is the bride's family's responsibility to host the wedding, the groom's family's responsibility to host the RD, etc.

MuppetFan

I am getting context clues here for the gist but what is FFF/LFF?

I've been googling to no avail , though amused by possibilities

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/FFF Fluffy Friendly Federation?
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/LFF Liberals for forests anyone?

My guesses:
Flame Fest Friday
Love Fest Friday?

lyndausvi

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fff-108?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:7b8fd8f1-3c56-4a7b-9528-f7b31c25b538Post:6583f10c-2026-4cd0-a83b-e4026ab1710a">Re:FFF/LFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:FFF/LFF: I know her very traditional views, but I never actually heard her say something was a red flag. I'm still kind of curious how its a red flag though. How does them not paying for the RD affect the bride and grooms relationship?
Posted by misshart00[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>She says that kind of stuff all the time.  Actually, when I read the comment here I knew exactly who wrote the reply before I even looked at the orignal thread.  She is that consistent in her replies.</div><div>
</div><div>I'm not actually sure why them hosting affects the b/g? According to her by them not hosting means its sends a message that they do not approve of the union.  Which I guess indirectly could affect the b/g relationship?  IDK?    </div><div>
</div><div>She also thinks you should NEVER have ANY need to talk to your MIL/FMIL.  Like ever.</div><div>
</div><div>
</div><div>Kristen### just provides me entertainment.</div><div>
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