Do all children "count" on a guest list?

gone2tx

Friends and my fiance say I do not have to "count" children on my guest list for my reception-only event. One said "only older kids count." My thinking is if they need a plate and a chair, they count! Am I wrong? This would be a significant number of kids we are talking about.....

kmbryant2413

If they're taking up a chair, yes they count. I'm not sure what the confusion is even about. They are a guest, they count on the guest list.

harper0813

You are right. Even babies count - no parent is going to hold their baby all night, so you'd need to provide a chair for the baby's carrier.

Not all parents will have you provide a meal to their child, though. We have three 2-month-olds attending the wedding that only need a boob.

Kate61487

they count for seats, they may not count for meals (check with your venue).  We did family style so our venue did kids under 5 free (they still of course had a plate and could eat) and kids under 13 half price.  There was also a 'kids meal' option of chicken fingers that could be selected regardless of whether they were half price or free.

MayDay513

Some places will do like half price for kids 3-5. and kids 2 and under are free. We are doing a buffet

lyndausvi

They count as far as chairs and fire codes go.   As far as payment is a different story.

The boat I worked on had a 49 person limit.  The Coast Guard does not care if the person is 1 day old or 100 years old.  A person is a person.  Sometimes we had to turn away a family because they assumed that their infant didn't count even when ask how many people were in the party and we were at capacity.

Point of the story its never a good idea to assume.  Asking the question takes a whole 20 seconds.

chattychiqa

Anyone who is sitting and eating counts. Check with your venue and see if they get a discount, but kids count for sure.

kerbohl

Are you having a separate room for the children or are they all seated with their respective families?  I talked to a few venues that had discounts for children under a certain age, and some had a separate room for the children to eat and play, which is what I will be doing (not that I don't love all the children who will be there, but I know that their parents will have to be running after them and I want them to be able to enjoy their meal, so I'm getting a babysitter). 

ZiggyZos

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[QUOTE]Friends and my fiance say I do not have to "count" children on my guest list for my reception-only event. One said "only older kids count." My thinking is if they need a plate and a chair, they count! Am I wrong? This would be a significant number of kids we are talking about.....
Posted by gone2tx[/QUOTE]

How did no one catch the "reception-only" part of this? Why aren't people invited to the ceremony? Was it a private, immediate family only ceremony?

minskat30

They count.  And some venues don't offer a discounted meal for kids (mine didn't, they just didn't charge me for the bar package for the kids).

tigersgirlgv

RetreadBride said:

Please consider ages and maturity when ordering "kid's meals."  All children are not created equal when it comes to food, either. Consider whether your nine-year-old niece eats turkey with the adults at holiday meals, or macaroni and cheese.  If she does, save the chicken fingers and chocolate pudding for the toddlers.  Some venues offer to serve "kid's meals" to anyone 12 or under - but how many tweens are happy to eat "baby food" at your wedding, or will get enough to fill up?

I agree. I was invited to a cousin's wedding as a middle schooler. All of the "kids" were sat in a separate room and fed chicken fingers and hamburgers. I was not a happy camper as I was old enough to sit at a table with grown-ups and eat a regular meal.

Jen4948

I'd say every human being there counts, and that includes all kids.

Sierra524

I agree with PPs...you should account for them but check with your venue to see if there is a discount or something for kids of a certain age.

NerdyLucy

Definitely ask your venue. For mine, kids 5 and under don't count regarding payment and food; however, seating will still be provided, so in that regard, they count.

loca4pook

yes, they need to count as they need a chair.

 

Also, check with your venue about child rates

Kate61487

How are there no zombie gifs on this yet? I'd do it myself, but I'm on mobile :-(