Is it tacky to register for furniture?

CALEO

I keep hearing no (and it looks like emily post says no) but I'm feeling a little weird about it.

Would you side eye it?

I.E.  A lamp, mirror, end table, wall art, etc.  The pricing is $65-250 for the furniture items but I have a ton of less expensive stuff on there already and have already had a lot of expensive stuff ($550, etc) go....

TIA

itzMS

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[QUOTE]I keep hearing no (and it looks like emily post says no) but I'm feeling a little weird about it. Would you side eye it? I.E.<strong>  A lamp, mirror, end table, wall art</strong>, etc.  The pricing is $65-250 for the furniture items but I have a ton of less expensive stuff on there already and have already had a lot of expensive stuff ($550, etc) go.... TIA
Posted by CALEO[/QUOTE]

If it's things exactly like the bolded, nope. And I'd probably buy you that set of lamps or artwork.

If it's your mattress, bedframe, sofa, dining room table, bedroom set, etc, then yes I'd side-eye

MuppetFan

I wouldn't put anything more than the $250 on there.

Ella and Pedro

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[QUOTE]I wouldn't put anything more than the $250 on there.
Posted by MuppetFan[/QUOTE]

I agree with Muppet.  In fact, we didn't register for anything over $175.00. or maybe it was $180.00, and only 2 or 3 over $150.00. 

You could register for gift cards from a store that sells what you want, such as J. C. Penny, Sears, Pottery Barn, or Crate and Barrel.  If you put down that you want a number of $30-40-50-75 -$100 gift cards, you'd probably get enough to get what you wanted.

Some people also consider it tacky to do gift cards.  But, that in my opinion, is not nearly as tacky as asking for really expensive stuff.  You know your crowd best. Maybe in your circle, over $150 gifts is not 'really expensive.'

CALEO

Thanks ladies.  All the furniture is under $250.  However, I did put some larger items on because I know what our families nomally spend on wedding gifts. 

As I said above, some of the larger items (3 of 5) are already taken. 

Would you still limit to $250?  I could remove the remaining 2 over priced items...

CALEO

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[QUOTE]In Response to Is it tacky to register for furniture? : If it's things exactly like the bolded, nope. And I'd probably buy you that set of lamps or artwork. If it's your mattress, bedframe, sofa, dining room table, bedroom set, etc, then yes I'd side-eye
Posted by itzMS[/QUOTE]


Lol no I didn't register for any of the stuff at the bottom.

I did register for bed SHEETS but I think those are pretty traditional.

itzMS

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Is it tacky to register for furniture? : I agree with Muppet.  In fact, we didn't register for anything over $175.00. or maybe it was $180.00, and only 2 or 3 over $150.00.  <strong>You could register for gift cards from a store that sells what you want, such as J. C. Penny, Sears, Pottery Barn, or Crate and Barrel.  If you put down that you want a number of $30-40-50-75 -$100 gift cards, you'd probably get enough to get what you wanted. Some people also consider it tacky to do gift cards.</strong>  But, that in my opinion, is not nearly as tacky as asking for really expensive stuff.  You know your crowd best. Maybe in your circle, over $150 gifts is not 'really expensive.'
Posted by Ella and Pedro[/QUOTE]

It's fine if this is your opinion, but this is the etiquette board so try not to give poor advice. Registering for gift cards is the same as asking for cash, which is traditionally against etiquette.

s-aries8990

Ditto ItzMs.

Those are more "decor" items than "Furniture" in my opinion. Furniture, IMO, is a bed, sofa, coffee table, dining chairs, etc.

misshart00

In Response to Re:Is it tacky to register for furniture?:[QUOTE]I wouldn't put anything more than the 250 on there. Posted by MuppetFan[/QUOTE]

I disagree with this. While I wouldn't put high dollar furniture on there, I think it's okay to register for a few items over that amount. Like a kitchen aid mixer or a nice vacuum.

MayDay513

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Is it tacky to register for furniture?: I disagree with this. While I wouldn't put high dollar furniture on there, I think it's okay to register for a few items over that amount. Like a kitchen aid mixer or a nice vacuum.
Posted by misshart00[/QUOTE]

I have a Calphalon(not sure if that is spelled right) pot and pan set that is like $350, should I take it off my registry? (it's like a 14 piece set).

STARMOON44

I think what you're doing is fine. I also dint think there can be an across the board maximum price. I've attended several weddings where the couple has registered for silver flatware, the 1300 for a spoon kind, and gotten it all. Obviously okay with there crowd, and they also had plenty of sub100 options for the rest of us.

misshart00

In Response to Re:Is it tacky to register for furniture?:[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Is it tacky to register for furniture?:In Response to Re:Is it tacky to register for furniture?: I disagree with this. While I wouldn't put high dollar furniture on there, I think it's okay to register for a few items over that amount. Like a kitchen aid mixer or a nice vacuum.Posted by misshart00I have a Calphalonnot sure if that is spelled right pot and pan set that is like 350, should I take it off my registry? it's like a 14 piece set. Posted by huynhette[/QUOTE]

I think that's fine. It sounds like the same one I had on mine.

misssunshine17

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[QUOTE]<strong>Ditto ItzMs. Those are more "decor" items than "Furniture" in my opinion. Furniture, IMO, is a bed, sofa, coffee table, dining chairs, etc.</strong>
Posted by sydaries[/QUOTE]

<div>This. Also, for higher ticket items, I might go in with my parents and get something. I think if you have plenty of things in smaller ranges, a couple (and I really mean a couple) $250+ items are okay. I personally, won't be having anything that high because I think some guests would roll their eyes. </div>

kmbryant2413

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Is it tacky to register for furniture?: Bed frame? Really? We had one on ours and it was less than 100. Why would that be bad?
Posted by Sleeper2013[/QUOTE]

<div>I think this was said because it's very easy to get a bed frame that is absurdly expensive. It's also easy to get a cheap one. I imagine she was thinking more about the hella expensive ones..</div>

winelover123

I have a few things that are in the $200 range - mostly bedding (comforter) and pans and a vaccum. IMO, as long as you have plenty of options in every price range, having a few that are above $250 are fine.

daveANDkristen

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Is it tacky to register for furniture? : I have a Calphalon(not sure if that is spelled right) pot and pan set that is like $350, should I take it off my registry? (it's like a 14 piece set).
Posted by huynhette[/QUOTE]

It's fine, but you might consider registering for the pieces in that set separately.  You might have a better chance of several people spending $30 on a pan than someone (or a group of people) spending $350 on the set.  Often times (at BBB for example) you could exchange all of the individual pans you receive and possibly have enough credit to buy the set (maybe even with some credit left over).

NYCBride2013

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[QUOTE]I wouldn't put anything more than the $250 on there.
Posted by MuppetFan[/QUOTE]

I disagree with this.  If you know your crowd, you should have an estimate of what you expect them to spend.  Some people may want to chip in for high dollar value items too.  If I was planning to spend $250 on a gift I would prefer you have an item at that price range rather than me choosing an assortment of items.

ETA: OP- I personally don't think it's tacky to register for furniture.  I didn't but I wouldn't side eye someone for doing it.  My grandparents and my FI's grandparents are purchasing our bedroom and living room furniture as our shower gift.  We didn't need to put it on our registry because they just asked what we would like, but if you have family members who would like to purchase it, why not?

scubamaniac

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Is it tacky to register for furniture? : It's fine, but you might consider registering for the pieces in that set separately.  You might have a better chance of several people spending $30 on a pan than someone (or a group of people) spending $350 on the set.  Often times (at BBB for example) you could exchange all of the individual pans you receive and possibly have enough credit to buy the set (maybe even with some credit left over).
Posted by daveANDkristen[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>So you are suggesting to register for items with the intent on just exchanging them for something else?  I'm not sure I feel that is okay...what if someone asks you how you like the item they bought off your registry?  Or how do you write a thank you card for something they bought off the registry but you then exchanged for store credit?</div>

monkeysip

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Is it tacky to register for furniture? : I disagree with this.  For one, you get a better deal buying the whole set.  I also think it's always poor form to register for anything with the intention of returning it (recognizing, of course, that sometimes mistakes happen and you end up returning something, but don't plan on it).  Nothing wrong with registering for the $350 set. Worst case scenario, no one buys it for them. It's also a cookware set, which is a pretty standard wedding gift.  If it was $350 for a pair of high heels or something, I'd side eye, but not for a gift that's legitimately associated with having a home together.
Posted by kwitherington[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>This.  It was far more expensive and more trouble to register for each individual cookware piece.  So we just registered for a set (I think the one we registered for is $200).  If no one buys it, no big deal.  That's the point of a registry, to say, "This is what we like," not "You must buy us this!!!"</div><div>
</div><div>I think some smaller furniture is fine.  I think registering is really about a balance.  Nothing wrong with having some pricier items as long as you have lots of cheaper items.  Nothing wrong with putting a couple furniture items as long as most of the items on your registry are more traditional items (dinnerware, cookware, linens, etc.).  And obviously, all of the items should be for the COUPLE, not just bride or groom.

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Peledreamsofrain

I wouldn't say it's against etiquette to register for a couch or table, just kinda futile.  People are going to be looking for easily shippable items or items easy to travel with, for the most part.

That, and most people don't drop 500 on wedding gifts.

lauralaur

One or two larger or more expensive pieces I really don't side-eye because I know from registering myself that the couple is likely planning to use their completion discount plus whatever gift cards that may come their way to buy it. We registered for a $400 cookware set that no one bought for us, and quite frankly I wasn't expecting anyone to buy for us, but was sorely needed in our home, and by the time the completion discount and gift cards were processed it only ended up costing us about $200. Score.

libby2483

I think it is fine to leave the higher priced items on your list.  No one is obligated to buy them for you, and as long as you don't have a lot of super high-priced stuff, it isn't gift grabby.  In addition, sometimes people like to go together on gifts.

My aunts and uncles on my mom's side all gave us wedding gifts/cash over $500.  Some of the relatives actually complained we didn't have enough big ticket items on our registry.  My uncle asked my mom, "What am I supposed to do, buy them every stupid little item on their Target registry?"  Point being, some people are looking to spend more on weddings and appreciate having a few big ticket items to choose from.

speedyblazer11

We used our registry like a christmas list.  We didn't register for anything over $400 but if we wanted it and thought someone might actually consider buying it for us we scanned it.  We kept it to housewares, kitchen, and bathroom stuff for the most part.  We did include a new recliner, a tv (for our spare bedroom), and even an easy bake oven (that one is kind of a family joke, my FI always wanted on as a kid and never got one so now he asks for one for every holiday) Register for what you really want, someone is always going to complain about something.  You know your family and friends best after all.

aprilpeter12

I personally think that registries are wish list So we can add anything we wish to have. There is no problem with registering for furniture. If your guests also find it a nice gift option they can buy it for you.

southernbelle0915

Ditto PPs on the distinction between actual furniture pieces and items that are more home decor.

As far as more costly items on your registry, this is totally a social circle thing. You should always have lots of less costly items so anyone can buy something off your registry. However if you have a wealthier social circle or one that typically spends a lot on wedding gifts, you make shopping easier for them by having several expensive items so they don't feel like they have to piece together a gift from several less expensive items. Also, I know in my circle cousins like to go in together and get a nice knife set or pots and pans set from all of them.

efmcc67

huynhette said:

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Posted by misshart00

I have a Calphalon(not sure if that is spelled right) pot and pan set that is like $350, should I take it off my registry? (it's like a 14 piece set).

@huyhnette I think your fine from an etiquette perspective. However, you might want to remove it for a couple of reasons. First, you might be less likely to get it, since the whole set it $350. Some people may choose to go in on it together, but I think you're more likely to get individual pieces.

Second (and this is just a personal opinion), I'm just not a fan of pan sets. The pieces aren't of uniform quality. They usually include some pieces you don't need, and probably omit some that you do need. Overall, you might want to just register for the individual pieces that you want, instead of registering for a set. When I was registering, I got an online membership to Cook's Illustrated. They have tons of equipment reviews, which helped me identify quality items that wouldn't break the bank.

Just my $0.02. 

HisGirlFriday13

I don't think there's an across-the-board maximum price. Our registry has some stuff that's more than $300 (our KitchenAid mixer, our pots and pans set), and I suspect that people will go in together and buy that. My parents and I went in together and bought a KitchenAid mixer when my cousin got married; that's very normal in my circle.

I also don't think "household items" -- like artwork, lamps, picture frames, mirrors, etc. -- are inappropriate for a wedding registry. I would probably buy something from that group for you, actually. I like going outside the box for wedding gifts. 

I think BIG furniture -- chairs, sofas, love seats, dining room sets, etc. -- would be too much, although I know a lot of couples put those on their registries with the intent to buy them with wedding money after the wedding because places like Pottery Barn and Bed, Bath & Beyond offer discounts to people to "complete" their registries.

And to the poster who suggested registering for gift cards? That's hella tacky. You may think it's OK, but please don't come on an etiquette board and spew tacky-ass ideas. Keep the tacky to yourself, kaythanks.

3DAnimator

So, my fiance and I registered for a super expensive Kitchenaid Mixer.  Do we expect anyone to purchase it?  Probably not.  Maybe we'll luck out and a group of people will all wan to chip in.  The reason we put it on (and it's the token expensive item (over $200)) is because we get a BIG discount on items on our registry that people don't buy.  I wouldn't overload your list with expensive stuff, but I don't see an issue with listing one or two price items.

Ajuliana

Peledreamsofrain said:

I wouldn't say it's against etiquette to register for a couch or table, just kinda futile.  People are going to be looking for easily shippable items or items easy to travel with, for the most part.

That, and most people don't drop 500 on wedding gifts.

Well, if they don't intend to cover their plates, do we really want them attending the wedding in the first place??

cmclaire

I don't think it's tacky at all - I bought a lamp set for a friend's wedding list last year and it's lovely to see them being used in their home!

Jen4948

I wouldn't register for big furniture or appliances, like sofas, desks, beds, dining tables, breakfronts, sideboards, recliners, etc., but I don't see why you can't register for end tables, mirrors, artwork, lamps, etc.