Since when did selling tickets to attend a wedding become reasonable?

zantster

This website has comments with the oddest posts about Etiquette and what is acceptable to do for the sake of saving money.  But the post below really made me smh and thank my lucky stars I got my advice from here instead.

http://moneyning.com/money-beliefs/my-friends-are-spending-30k-on-their-wedding-—-and-im-keeping-my-mouth-shut/

"Think of things like where you first met- have the ceremony there- was on a bus, in a cab, at a stop light, or a party, a friends house, etc. All low cost. Have only your immediate family and friends as the ceremony and the others at the reception. Have a Cabaret style reception, everyone brings their own liquor, hire a band or DJ and charge $15 for tickets and rent a hall to help with costs- have a raffle too make them happy. The wedding is about sharing your love and commitment with those close to you not seeing how many banks you can break on the way to the poor house. Rule of thumb, you should NOT still be paying for your wedding an paying for the kids to go to college 18 years later."

What if you met in a unisex bathroom?  Should you have the ceremony there and charge money?

itzMS

We met at a dive bar with a leaky roof and no soap in the restrooms. I guess that would've made for an interesting ceremony space.

While I agree with not having a wedding you can't afford, I still want to hold out hope that marriage should still be taken seriously.

lyndausvi

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[QUOTE]This website has comments with the oddest posts about Etiquette and what is acceptable to do for the sake of saving money.  But the post below really made me smh and thank my lucky stars I got my advice from here instead. <a href="http://moneyning.com/money-beliefs/my-friends-are-spending-30k-on-their-wedding-%E2%80%94-and-im-keeping-my-mouth-shut/" rel="nofollow">http://moneyning.com/money-beliefs/my-friends-are-spending-30k-on-their-wedding-%E2%80%94-and-im-keeping-my-mouth-shut/</a> "Think of things like where you first met- have the ceremony there- was on a bus, in a cab, at a stop light, or a party, a friends house, etc. All low cost. Have only your immediate family and friends as the ceremony and the others at the reception. Have a Cabaret style reception, everyone brings their own liquor, hire a band or DJ and charge $15 for tickets and rent a hall to help with costs- have a raffle too make them happy. The wedding is about sharing your love and commitment with those close to you not seeing how many banks you can break on the way to the poor house. <strong>Rule of thumb, you should NOT still be paying for your wedding an paying for the kids to go to college 18 years later.</strong>" What if you met in a unisex bathroom?  Should you have the ceremony there and charge money?
Posted by zantster[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>That is the only line that makes sense.  However,there are ways to accomplish that without charging your guests.

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kerbohl

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_since-when-did-selling-tickets-to-attend-a-wedding-become-reasonable?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:e30f0990-d5ba-4765-9a0b-4a90f88085a5Post:7fb7cf5b-cdc4-4eb4-b6a0-c203fd110ff0">Since when did selling tickets to attend a wedding become reasonable?</a>:
[QUOTE]This website has comments with the oddest posts about Etiquette and what is acceptable to do for the sake of saving money.  But the post below really made me smh and thank my lucky stars I got my advice from here instead. <a href="http://moneyning.com/money-beliefs/my-friends-are-spending-30k-on-their-wedding-%E2%80%94-and-im-keeping-my-mouth-shut/" rel="nofollow">http://moneyning.com/money-beliefs/my-friends-are-spending-30k-on-their-wedding-%E2%80%94-and-im-keeping-my-mouth-shut/</a> "Think of things like where you first met- have the ceremony there- was on a bus, in a cab, at a stop light, or a party, a friends house, etc. All low cost. Have only your immediate family and friends as the ceremony and the others at the reception. Have a Cabaret style reception, everyone brings their own liquor, hire a band or DJ and charge $15 for tickets and rent a hall to help with costs- have a raffle too make them happy. The wedding is about sharing your love and commitment with those close to you not seeing how many banks you can break on the way to the poor house. Rule of thumb, you should NOT still be paying for your wedding an paying for the kids to go to college 18 years later." <strong>What if you met in a unisex bathroom? </strong> Should you have the ceremony there and charge money?
Posted by zantster[/QUOTE]

That would be a very interesting wedding indeed . . .
But I agree, charging for your wedding is really, really weird.  I can't understand where this advice is coming from . . .  This sounds more like a fundraiser than a wedding.  And what's with the raffle to keep guests happy? 

harper0813

We met on Missed Connections. Maybe we should have our wedding on Craigslist.

I don't like the author's judginess. It's a big assumption on his/her part that people are going into debt to pay for the wedding.

kerbohl

Also, OP, your ring is absolutely gorgeous.  Completely unrelated to your post, but I love your pic!

FizzySips

OMG. Appalling. Why is it all or nothing? Charge to get in or be in debt for 18 years to pay off your wedding? This is how bad ideas (RUDE ideas) get traction and people think they're okay. Sigh.

s-aries8990

Yeah, I can't have mine on Myspace either....

misshart00

In Response to Re:Since when did selling tickets to attend a wedding become reasonable?:[QUOTE]OMG. Appalling. Why is it all or nothing? Charge to get in or be in debt for 18 years to pay off your wedding? This is how bad ideas RUDE ideas get traction and people think they're okay.

Sigh. Posted by Rachaellennon[/QUOTE]

This. There is such a range of wedding types. You can do a backyard BBQ or cake and punch for pretty cheap if that's all you can afford.

Fancypantsamy

Also, rudeness aside, how many people are you inviting if $15 a head will take over 18 years to pay off? That's $3000 for 200 guests if you pay for those people yourself... if you can't pay down $3000 worth of debt in 18 years, you're really not trying.

(Not that I think people should go into debt for their wedding, but why is someone who can't do basic math writing articles about budgeting a wedding?)

Pookieson

Wow.  That is all.

AdeleDazeem

I really want this awesome vacation.  It's at a luxury resort but I can't afford the plane tickets, the price of the room, or for food.

What should I do?

ASK MY FRIENDS TO PAY FOR IT!  VOILA!

Oh wait - that's not okay because my friends have their own lives and their own vacations?  I'm confused.  I thought all these people existed to give me stuff?  Why else are they here?

krizzo17

I (foolishly) went to a birthday party where admission was charged. In advance, too. I think I just stood there the whole night thinking "I can't believe she thought this was ok!"

banana468

To a certain degree I could see that being lovely. DH and I met in college woo hoo UCONN women last night! so if it logistically made sense, getting married in the college Catholic Church would have been great. The rest? Not so much.

zantster

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[QUOTE]Also, OP, your ring is absolutely gorgeous.  Completely unrelated to your post, but I love your pic!
Posted by kerbohl[/QUOTE]

Thanks!  FH did a good job.  Sapphire is my birthstone and my main wedding color so I love it as well.  You and your FI look so cute together in your pic!  Yup, if you ever go to that link you will read some other very interesting opinions on weddings that I never knew people had.  The open bar vs. cash bar argument on the thread is brutal.