Hello, Wife in Training!

soupmikesgirl

Hello, New to theknot.com and my boyfriend tells me that he wants to marry me and he knows what he wants and it's me.. and then he talks about having a short time frame in which to get married.. we've only been dating about 6 months.. the 20th of this month will be 6 months. People at his work dated for a short time before getting married and his co-workers ask him when he is getting married..

leia1979

1) Why do you need training to be a wife?

2) How old are you?

3) Why is there a "short time frame in which to get married"?

soupmikesgirl

In Response to Re: Hello, Wife in Training!:
[QUOTE]1) Why do you need training to be a wife? 2) How old are you? 3) Why is there a "short time frame in which to get married"?
Posted by leia1979[/QUOTE]

It's just what I put as the title... I am 29 years old and where he works he really can't talk mch about us... 

Stina51286

In Response to Re:Hello, Wife in Training!:[QUOTE]Hello, New to theknot.com and my boyfriend tells me that he wants to marry me and he knows what he wants and it's me.. and then he talks about having a short time frame in which to get married.. we've only been dating about 6 months.. the 20th of this month will be 6 months. People at his work dated for a short time before getting married and his coworkers ask him when he is getting married.. Posted by soupmikesgirl[/QUOTE] So this makes you a wife in training how? Also, how does one train to be a wife?

leia1979

In Response to Re: Hello, Wife in Training!:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Hello, Wife in Training! : It's just what I put as the title... I am 29 years old and where he works he really can't talk mch about us... 
Posted by soupmikesgirl[/QUOTE]

I'm sorry, I don't follow. How does that lead to having a short time frame for marriage?

Swazzle

Sounds like a job. What happens if you fail during training? Do you get a do-over?

kaitlynmichelle

This hurts my brain.

GoldenPenguin

My. Brain. It hurts. Commas. They're your friend. Punctuation in general, really.

thejucheidea

I... what.

ravenray

Ya...... The whole title is really not helping anything here.  I don't know about the other girls around here but personally, I see not being able to talk about his job much as a red flag.  Maybe it is legitimate but added with a short time frame?  Something smells fishy to me.   

[Deleted User]

I'm so confused. Does this mean he's a husband-in-training as well?

RenoSweeney24

Okay, come on.  The "Wife in training" was clearly just a phrase she thought would make a cute title.
She said that he can't talk much about their relationship at work (not that he can't talk about his job). 
Welcome to the forums! (I am also new here. )  Why is it that he can't talk about your relationship much?  And why the short time frame in which to get married?  Do you mean that he has a stated preference for not waiting a long time (and, instead, following in the footsteps of others who dated for a short time)?

cu97tiger

In Response to Re:Hello, Wife in Training!:[QUOTE]Hello, New to theknot.com and my boyfriend tells me that he wants to marry me and he knows what he wants and it's me.. and then he talks about having a short time frame in which to get married.. we've only been dating about 6 months.. the 20th of this month will be 6 months. People at his work dated for a short time before getting married and his coworkers ask him when he is getting married.. Posted by soupmikesgirl[/QUOTE] If the 20th of this month will be 6 months, then you haven't been dating 'about 6 months', you're just a little over 5. By stretching the truth like that, it makes me think that you are rushing things. Take some more time to get to know each other, especially if you both want a short engagement.

beanbot2002

Where's Prince?

buddysmom80

In Response to Re: Hello, Wife in Training!:
[QUOTE]Where's Prince?
Posted by beanbot2002[/QUOTE]

Here I am:

beanbot2002

In Response to Re: Hello, Wife in Training!:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Hello, Wife in Training! : Here I am:
Posted by buddysmom80[/QUOTE]

Ahhhh...much better!

Peaseblossom55

Yay Prince is back again!!!

CLoGreenEyes

Hi soupmikesgirl! The reactions you're getting here are because there is very little information to go on from your two posts. In case you're still reading, tell us a little bit about yourself! What brings you to TK and NEY? How do you feel about such a quick timeframe to get married? And who are you outside of your relationship - career, hobbies, etc.?

Folks here are very nice and great with giving honest advice, but you've got to be willing to introduce yourself, take an interest in everyone, and be willing to give more information or say, "Sorry, that's not what I meant to convey," and correct yourself. So I hope you will stick around and get to know the board a little more.

[Deleted User]

OP I'm really confused as to what you are trying to tell us through your post? Are his coworkers pressuring him to get engaged at 6 months because they did? 

thejucheidea

'Wife in training' just sounds so misogynistic...

kmbryant2413

..Did you have a question? Are you asking to hang out with us? 

Reno - We are all adults here, and can not only read but usually can read between the lines. Thank you for your Cliff Note contribution.

doubleSS07

Winner of most confusing post...at least for May.  I really hate when the OP never comes back to clarify or answer questions.  I guess it's worth it though since Prince got to come out and play.  I love Prince.

loves2shop4shoes

I'll ignore the title of this post...because saying you're a "Wife in Training" after 5 months of dating, and not being engaged, sounds ridiculous.

That being said...what's the rush?  Why do you need to get married after such a brief relationship?  You do not REALLY know anyone in 6 months.  Everyone is on their absolute best behavior during the Honeymoon phase of the relationship, which generally lasts up to a year.  After that, the gloves come off and you actually see a person for who he/she really is.  Rushing into a marriage so soon into a relationship is not wise and can only breed complications.

Also, the timelines of his coworkers' relationships have absolutely no bearing on the proper timeline for your relationship.

RenoSweeney24

Given the number of people who seemed to have  had difficulties (because of poor grammar and punctuation) and who had clearly misunderstood some of her statements (can't talk about his work vs. can't talk about them at work), I think not everyone here was able to read *her* writing.

I'm glad you can all read.  You're welcome.  I thoroughly enjoyed providing a cliff notes for this post.

In Response to Re: Hello, Wife in Training!:

[QUOTE]..Did you have a question? Are you asking to hang out with us?  Reno - We are all adults here, and can not only read but usually can read between the lines. Thank you for your Cliff Note contribution.
Posted by kmbryant2413[/QUOTE]

loves2shop4shoes

In Response to Re: Hello, Wife in Training!:
[QUOTE]Given the number of people who seemed to have  had difficulties (because of poor grammar and punctuation) and who had clearly misunderstood some of her statements (can't talk about his work vs. can't talk about them at work), I think not everyone here was able to read *her* writing. I'm glad you can all read.  You're welcome.  I thoroughly enjoyed providing a cliff notes for this post. In Response to Re: Hello, Wife in Training! :
Posted by RenoSweeney24[/QUOTE]

Uhhhh...new fish, I wouldn't start things out this way.  Won't end well for you.

Just friendly advice.

kmbryant2413

In Response to Re: Hello, Wife in Training!:
[QUOTE]Given the number of people who seemed to have  had difficulties (because of poor grammar and punctuation) and who had clearly misunderstood some of her statements (can't talk about his work vs. can't talk about them at work), I think not everyone here was able to read *her* writing. I'm glad you can all read.  You're welcome.  I thoroughly enjoyed providing a cliff notes for this post. In Response to Re: Hello, Wife in Training! :
Posted by RenoSweeney24[/QUOTE]

Bless your heart.

peekaboo2011

In Response to Re:Hello, Wife in Training!:[QUOTE]Given the number of people who seemed to have nbsp;had difficulties because of poor grammar and punctuation and who had clearly misunderstood some of her statements can't talk about his work vs. can't talk about them at work, I think not everyone here was able to read her writing.I'm glad you can all read. nbsp;You're welcome. nbsp;I thoroughly enjoyed providing a cliff notes for this post.In Response to Re: Hello, Wife in Training!:..Did you have a question? Are you asking to hang out with us?nbsp; Reno We are all adults here, and can not only read but usually can read between the lines. Thank you for your Cliff Note contribution.Posted by kmbryant2413 Posted by RenoSweeney24[/QUOTE] Just a heads up, quote comes before your comments.

peekaboo2011

In Response to Re:Hello, Wife in Training!:[QUOTE]Given the number of people who seemed to have nbsp;had difficulties because of poor grammar and punctuation and who had clearly misunderstood some of her statements can't talk about his work vs. can't talk about them at work, I think not everyone here was able to read her writing.I'm glad you can all read. nbsp;You're welcome. nbsp;I thoroughly enjoyed providing a cliff notes for this post.In Response to Re: Hello, Wife in Training!:..Did you have a question? Are you asking to hang out with us?nbsp; Reno We are all adults here, and can not only read but usually can read between the lines. Thank you for your Cliff Note contribution.Posted by kmbryant2413 Posted by RenoSweeney24[/QUOTE] Just a heads up, quote comes before your comments.

suzie211

In Response to Re: Hello, Wife in Training!:
[QUOTE]Sounds like a job. What happens if you fail during training? Do you get a do-over?
Posted by rdr716[/QUOTE]

In my line of work if you fail during training you get fired.  Do not pass go. Sure hope I don't get fired during my wifey training.

RenoSweeney24

In Response to Re:Hello, Wife in Training!:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Hello, Wife in Training!: Just a heads up, quote comes before your comments.
Posted by peekaboo2011[/QUOTE]

Ah okay. Woops.  Thanks

motoLyn

What's the smell?.... Oh yes..... I recognize it....sheer confusing craziness. OP wherever you are, if you actually are real.  Come back and play......