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Bridesmaids Gifts

rkborkbo member
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We are paying for our 2 bridesmaids dresses. We picked the color and let them choose whichever dress they liked most/felt comfortable in. They were approx. 150 ea.

What would the etiquette be in also buying them bridesmaids gifts? Is that something that we should also do? We are not requiring them to pay for their makeup or hair to get done either.

One is traveling from out of state and the other lives in town.
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Re: Bridesmaids Gifts

  • calliopeia2013calliopeia2013 member
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    I would still get them bridesmaids gifts- the dresses aren't really gifts since they're wearing in them in the wedding (or, at least, they're as a much a gift to yourself as they are to your BMs).  You don't have to go all out or anything, given that you've already paid for the dresses, but I think etiquette would dictate at least getting them something small.
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    BM gifts should have nothing to do with your wedding whatsoever.  The gift is a way of thanking them for taking the time out to be in your wedding.  Buy something for them like it was their birthday or Christmas.  The gift in no way should be something that has to be used in your wedding because then it really isn't a gift.

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  • rkborkbo member
    Sixth Anniversary 100 Comments 25 Love Its Name Dropper
    sweet, thanks for the info ladies. I've never done this stuff before :) I don't want to look like a dummy!
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  • PeledreamsofrainPeledreamsofrain member
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    The dresses, hair, and makeup are for you on your day for your wedding.  No they are not a gift.  It was exceedingly nice of you to pay, but you are still the primary person who benefits from their purchase.

    Get your bridal party gifts.  They don't have to be extravagent or anything.  Keep it simple, and shop like you would for their birthdays (no wedding props like jewelry, again, that's for YOU).
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  • amsta911amsta911
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    Im giving my girls things I know they like. Nothing huge or expensive. Just give them something to show that your appreciative. :)
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  • annathy03annathy03 member
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    I've only been a BM once so far, but the bride got us small beach-like bags with our names on them with a note inside detailing her favorite memory of our friendship and something silly that was related to the story.  Not super expensive, but super heartwarming (and keep in mind there might be tears, it was good she gave us them at the end of the RD)!  Not sure what I'll put my notes in, but I know I'll be doing them!
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  • annathy03annathy03 member
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    Agreed on the bags being cliche, I just loved the note and story-related gifts in them.  Sorry if that didn't come across as my point.
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