Should the bridal party get a +1?
I know my sister-in-law will be allowed to bring her boyfriend because they've been together at least seven years, and he is basically family for the same reason. But between four other people wedding party and other roles in the ceremony, the longest a person has been with their boyfriend or girlfriend has been a little over one year or less. Also, three or four others don't have someone so I don't really want to make them feel awkward.
Thoughts? Thanks!
Re: Bridal Party +1's?
Maybe this is just me,, but for the 'single' people who I had invited, (or people who I wasn't sure if they had a bf/gf) I always added a +1.. Just because I think usually people *do* bring dates and I would much rather have more food than not enough!
Hope that helps.
[QUOTE]Should the bridal party get a +1? I know my sister-in-law will be allowed to bring her boyfriend because they've been together at least seven years, and he is basically family for the same reason. But between four other people wedding party and other roles in the ceremony, the longest a person has been with their boyfriend or girlfriend has been a little over one year or less. Also, three or four others don't have someone so I don't really want to make them feel awkward. Thoughts? Thanks!
Posted by CSkahan148[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE]Should the bridal party get a +1? I know my sister-in-law will be allowed to bring her boyfriend because they've been together at least seven years, and he is basically family for the same reason. But between four other people wedding party and other roles in the ceremony, the longest a person has been with their boyfriend or girlfriend has been a little over one year or less. Also, three or four others don't have someone so I don't really want to make them feel awkward. Thoughts? Thanks!
Posted by CSkahan148[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE]I'm thinking of only allowing +1's to the bridal party because if we were to let EVERYONE bring someone we'll have far too many people for our taste, as we are trying to keep the numbers close to 100. Also, I know if a couple people were to bring someone they'd bring someone and then a short time later they'll break up, and I don't want to have some guy or girl we don't know in photos.
Posted by CSkahan148[/QUOTE]
You ARE being judgmental. What if people said that about you and your fiance? Seriously. What if they said, "Oh, I'm not going to their wedding b/c they will be divorced in a year." So you have a few photos...and by a few I mean A FEW......that have someone you don't know in them. Big deal. It's not like it's the photos you'll be ordering. It's absurd to be hung up on that and be rude to your guests b/c you don't want strangers in photos you might never look at again.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridal Party +1's? : You ARE being judgmental. What if people said that about you and your fiance? Seriously. What if they said, "Oh, I'm not going to their wedding b/c they will be divorced in a year." So you have a few photos...and by a few I mean A FEW......that have someone you don't know in them. Big deal. It's not like it's the photos you'll be ordering. It's absurd to be hung up on that and be rude to your guests b/c you don't want strangers in photos you might never look at again. I had never met some of the spouses of people I invited to my wedding. Should I have not invited them on the off chance they were in a couple random reception photos? See? Absurd.
Posted by AddieL73[/QUOTE]
DH and I knew each other for over 5 years before we started dating. It didn't take long for us to know that things were serious. I hadn't met his family except for his parents and brother but we attended his cousin's wedding as a couple when we were together under six months. His extended famly did the right thing by honoring our relationship regardless of some arbitrary timeline. We're now together for 9 years.
It isn't up to you to judge the merits of someone else's relationship.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridal Party +1's? : Okay, reading your post I realize that yes I did seem judgmental. By my comment about people I don't know, I meant that I wasn't comfortable with a significant number of individuals I wasn't familiar with. So yes, the bridal party and a few others who would benefit from bringing a guest will probably have the option to bring someone. But you're right in that a small handful of people with a +1 really isn't a huge deal. For someone's fiancé/fiancée or spouse, yeah I'm totally fine with letting a person bring him/her. For example, my cousin's soon-to-be husband will have an invite, as will two family friends' significant others even though I haven't met one and I've only met the other two a handful of times.
Posted by CSkahan148[/QUOTE]