I do have some real drama if your interested in giving some honest opinions.
My sister is 22 and has always been a little out there. She wants to be a bridesmaid. I was ok with it but last month she shaved her hair down to a buzz cut with stars in it, peirced her eyebrows, quit taking showers and constantly scratches herself in private areas. Is it ok to tell her that she can't be a bridesmaid? And if so how would you go about it?
I am guessing this is MUD also, but just in case it isn't. If you already asked her to be a BM (or accepted her offer to be a BM), then you can't kick her out. It's rude. I wouldn't worry about her hair or piercing, but if she is not staying clean and scratching her junk, you might want to talk to her about finding a therapist.
Websites/blogs where our wedding has been featured:
It is 100% not okay to kick her out of your wedding because you don't like her hair.
This is true.
That said it is also 100% okay to not include her if the only reason you were going to in the first place is because she wanted to be in the wedding... but if you've already made the commitment to letting her in there's no backing out now.
It's not just her hair. My sister has tendencies (spelling?) to do just outrageous things (Ex. she loves to go up and hump or grab your breast) out of the blue....Completely somber. I didn't even ask her to be a bridesmaid. She kind of assumed and my mom said ok so then I felt obligated. I am going to have to pay everything (dress, shoes, jewelry) because she always quits her jobs after a couple weeks. Me and my fiance are paying for everything but the bridesmaids and groomsmen clothing. So we are on a very strict budget. I was ok with it before she started acting extra odd and my mom was going to kick in on her gown and stuff. But now my mom has backed out.
Here is the newest one I have of her. She has now shaved it shorter.
Her hair is fine. She doesn't look dirty. If you were going to invite her as a guest, she still could hump your guests legs. You agreed to have her in the wedding. There is no way to kick her out without you looking like the asshole.
Websites/blogs where our wedding has been featured:
No I wasn't trying to start a ruckus with the post about my sister. I was just asking for some honest opinions from people who weren't close to the situation.
I would just like to point out the my MOH asked me last night if i cared if her hair was 6 different colors on my wedding and i just looked at her and was like "I dont give a fuck. do what makes you happy." my moh has piercings and tattoos and I could care less! I don't want perfection at my wedding. I want my family.
Re: Bridesmaids
I am guessing this is MUD also, but just in case it isn't. If you already asked her to be a BM (or accepted her offer to be a BM), then you can't kick her out. It's rude. I wouldn't worry about her hair or piercing, but if she is not staying clean and scratching her junk, you might want to talk to her about finding a therapist.
Websites/blogs where our wedding has been featured:
http://www.dapperq.com/2013/11/a-very-dapper-wedding/
http://www.onabicyclebuiltfortwo.com/2013/10/wedding-christina-g.html
http://4realequalityweddings.com/2014/05/16/g-christina/
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Her hair is fine. She doesn't look dirty. If you were going to invite her as a guest, she still could hump your guests legs. You agreed to have her in the wedding. There is no way to kick her out without you looking like the asshole.
Websites/blogs where our wedding has been featured:
http://www.dapperq.com/2013/11/a-very-dapper-wedding/
http://www.onabicyclebuiltfortwo.com/2013/10/wedding-christina-g.html
http://4realequalityweddings.com/2014/05/16/g-christina/
No I wasn't trying to start a ruckus with the post about my sister. I was just asking for some honest opinions from people who weren't close to the situation.
I would just like to point out the my MOH asked me last night if i cared if her hair was 6 different colors on my wedding and i just looked at her and was like "I dont give a fuck. do what makes you happy." my moh has piercings and tattoos and I could care less! I don't want perfection at my wedding. I want my family.