Ok, so I know that the correct etiquette is to send a separate invitation for every household but I am in a unique situation. I have a very large extended family (90 cousins on my mothers side) who have a strong sense of the importance of family and so could get offended if they are not invited, but for whom it would be extremely difficult to find all of their manes addresses, and living situations, not to mention the added expense of printing and sending out all those extra invites. I've discussed this with one of my aunts who is very conscious both of correct etiquette and the dynamics of my particular family and she agrees that it is best in my particular situation to send out invites to the main families (all my aunts and uncles) and just be sure to make it clear that their entire family, even those not currently living with them, are included in the invitation. My question is what is the best way for me to word the invitation to ensure it is clear that it includes those not living in the same house? If you just say "and family" that normally only refers to family within the same house and I would not want them to mistakenly assume their older children are not invited. Thoughts? Advice?