Is there a way to politely uninvite someone to be a bridesmaid?

Kate61487

aphrodite0869 said:

Honestly, all you can do is try to talk to her.  If she doesn't want to talk to you then there is nothing you can do.  Inform her of dress fittings and get together s and if she doesn't come or decide to be a part of it then she is taking herself out, you do not have to do it yourself.  Make sure you haven't missed something.  I would personally ask if I did something wrong and if I haven't there is absolutely NOTHING you can do.  Kicking someone out of the WP will ruin the friendship because no matter what someone is not going to understand even if they are acting in the wrong. I am kind of on the same page.  I have a BM who moved 7 hours away and I can not get in touch with her to save my life.  I have called and text, left messages and nothing.  Now my wedding is still 14 months away (so there is plenty of time like with yours) and I am still going to let her know when things are going on but if she doesn't respond, there is nothing I can do about it.  Even though I feel stressed (b/c I need budgets for dresses to find a good one they can afford) it is what it is and now I just have to wait and see what happens and be prepared if she choose not to be apart of our wedding.  Hope everything works for you.

I feel like most of your advice is spot on, but the bolded is off.  She doesn't have to go to dress fittings or get togethers.  The only way she eliminates herself from the wedding party is if she doesn't buy the dress or show up on the wedding day.  Those are the only two requirements.