I'm stuck with a dilemma... first I have two maid of honors both of them are living a great distance away from me so they aren't as involved as I would like. Second I found dresses that I really liked and had everyone order them because they compliment everyone's figure but now I'm unsure of how to have them 'stand out' from the other bridesmaids. What should I do my wedding is in September and I'm stressed to the Max!! Oh I'm also planning my own bridal shower...(a whole other story in itself)
Re: MOH Issues
I don't see any dilemmas. Your bridesmaid/mohs don't need to do anything until the ceremony except get a dress. The don't need special attire to stand out (if that's very important to you, get them a sash, or special bouquets). You really shouldn't throw yourself a shower.
You are officially problem free.
And also, maids of honor don't need to stand out among the other bridesmaids. In fact, I prefer when they don't. So that should save you some stress right there.
2. I think a dress in everyone's budget that is flattering to all is a great choice. The MOHs don't need to stand out. If you really want them to stand out, you can do something that has nothing to do with the dress...like make their bouquets slightly different or fuller than the BMs.
3. Please don't plan your own shower. You will look gift grabby and rude. If your MOHs don't offer, then maybe someone in your family or FI's family will.
I just feel like I should have support at this important time, maybe I'm overreacting. My mother said she would give me a shower but I thought that was against etiquette too...at this point its not about anything other than me and my future husband I just want to enjoy my time planning and enjoying myself and do away with the stress
I'm new to this so excuse me if it doesn't appear on the screen right... I don't really need support so I guess I worded it wrong probably just in my feelings a little, I'm the baby of the family so I'm used to attention. I just want them to be more involved I have financial and emotional support I just want my girlfriends to help me with things that I'm doing on my own ,my budget isn't huge so a lot of things I'm doing myself I know they have their own lives and I appreciate them just being a part of our day. Maybe I'm overreacting a little: (
I think the flowers are a great way to have your MOHs stand out without it being too obvious. I know someone who got married and had two MOHs. Her bouquet was all white, the BMs were all yellow, and the MOHs were a mix of white and yellow. It was very tasteful.
How much support you get in your life won't increase just because you're getting married. It stays the same. People who care about you will stand by you for the big things, but not all the little things that you'd like. However, we're here! Don't hesitate to come here with questions! I've learned to love this community and have gotten a lot of great advice and support here. People here are generally eager to help!