Ooooh man.
I just read
THIS article.... in which a wedding guest shares the completely horrible text messages that he received from a couple in response his wedding gift to them.
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I want to thank you for coming to the wedding Friday. I'm not sure if it's the first wedding you have been to, but for your next wedding... People give envelopes [of cash]. I lost out on $200 covering you and your date's plate... And got fluffy whip and sour patch kids in return. Just a heads up for the future
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I am dying to hear all of your responses to this!
Re: Bride shames Guest for giving picnic basket of food-items
Weddings aren't fundraisers, people! FI has a boorish uncle who, when he heard we were inviting some family friends, said "Why? They won't give a good gift." Ummmm, because they helped raise FI and are very dear to him? Seriously, it makes me mad. I feel like lots of the recent zombie posts have dealt with this same basic issue, too.
That was seriously appalling. Disgusting. I'm even more appalled (but not surprised) that the writer said there were comments agreeing with the brides (though I couldn't find comments anywhere?).
I bet those brides were regulars on a few other sites I know...
After 6 years and 2 boys, finally tying the knot on October 27th, 2013!
DESPITE her reasoning, it was still completely inappropriate to call out this guest for the gift. If someone bought me jello (the one food I absolutely refuse to eat) I would be a little miffed, but I'm not going to text them angrily about how awful they are. I'd donate it to the foodbank - how hard is that? You save face, you don't get on the front page of two Canadian newspapers about being a bad bride, and you are still "using" the gift.
Gahhh
I just don't understand that mindset.
Yes, at my wedding and reception, I'm paying X amount of money for you to be there, have dinner, etc., but it's because I WANT you to be there, not to get gifts. FI and I aren't registered anywhere, we're having no shower, and we don't expect gifts. If someone, out of the kindness of his/her heart, gives us so much as a $5 candle, we'll be grateful to get it.
Officially hitched as of 10/25/13
I would love a gift basket for any occasion. When I closed on my home, my dad's friend who helped out during the process (my dad had surgery and couldn't drive back and forth 200 miles one day) gave us a gift basket like that. OMG seriously, it was so so helpful the first few weeks of getting adjusted to a new life (new home, moving in with BF, etc). These two are twits.
FWIW, a lot of people where I live (Connecticut) have the mentality of "you'll make your money back from envelopes". My friend is getting married, her BM who purposely took down her registry on BB&B before her wedding so people couldn't bring gifts complained to my friend that a wedding with 50 people would be "boring" and to invite "whoever would bring money, since obviously, they're going to pay for their dinner". Um, not really. We usually bring $200 for a wedding, this time only $100 since she's having a cash bar. I'm sure we'll be called out on it, I don't give a fuck. I still think it's rude to think of a wedding as a fundraising event. Bring a jar of peanut butter as a gift, I don't care, as long as you're there with me.
Dude, bride, you hosted a wedding. Host does not mean what you apparently think it means.
Here is the full story (from the gift-giver's POV) if anyone is interested: http://m.thespec.com/news-story/3845206-have-your-say-about-the-wedding-gift-firestorm/
We had several guests who didn't give a gift, not even a card. Big whoop.
I can only imagine how they would have reacted to that.