But if they offer to help out before the wedding or on the day is it OK to accept that?
I have a situation with my venue (one of MANY) where they don't set up the tables until an hour before the ceremony and they won't set up any decorations unless I assign someone to oversee it and be 100% responsible for how it looks. I can't be that person because that is right in the middle of our first look photos. I was telling a friend about it (just venting) and she offered to oversee it because she likes that kind of thing.
I would never ask a friend to do work at my wedding, but is it OK to have her do this job since she offered?