My fiancé and I have been dating for 8 years. We have been engaged for 2 months and still haven't set a date. I want to get married next year and says two years. When I ask why all he can say is he doesn't see the point in rushing it. I don't see how it is rushing, especially considering the fact for how long we have been together. How can I convince him to do it next year?
Re: My fiancé wants to wait two years to get married
My fiancé and I will be engaged just shy of two years when we get married. I've actually enjoyed the long engagement. It's made planning so much more leisurely.
While you shouldn't try to convince your FI to get married sooner, I think it would be useful for you both to sit down and discuss timelines, and to hear each other out about the reasons behind each other's preferred timeline. You should not rush to get married if both of you aren't 100% ready yet. And just because he proposed doesn't necessarily mean he's ready to be married right now.
So in short, you need to recognize and discuss why you want to have the wedding sooner and why he wants it later. If a compromise can be reached after those discussions, that's great! But don't go into it thinking about how to change his mind.
Wow, it he wants to wait 2 years to get married because of money (and planning time).... that's alright say your I'Do's at a court house and then have a cermony for family and friends 2 years for now. So you wait 2 years to get married so now you've been dating for 10 years what's the hold up.
OP do not listen to the rude and terrible advice.
When my FI proposed, I set a date probably about 10 mins later, after the initial excitement. He was a bit surprised I firmed up on a date so quickly after he proposed, but he agreed. ( I didn't want to give him no reign on the date setting, and I wasted no time, while we both were still "giddy") There was one time a couple months later he did suggest we postpone, so that we could save more money for the original wedding we were thinking of, but I said no way and immediately cut 40 ppl off our guest list. Yes I said 40. I didn't want to move the date, my mind was set! lol
I suggest you let him know how you feel about the timeframe, as you don't want resentment building up, especially as you feel it could definitely happen sooner. There maybe a bit of compromise on your dream wedding, whether you decide on less guests or cheaper venue etc. Act like you're a salesperson making a presentation on why the wedding could happen on a date you have in mind. Make it sweet and hard to resist. If he's still reluctant, don't force the issue, but my thinking is why in the world would a man ask to marry you, and then say "why rush?" when you looking to set a date? That's like seeing a product you like in a store, you tell the sales cashier you promise to come back and buy, so don't sell it..... the longer you take to come back, cashier will eventually decide to move on and sell, or you might see another product you like better and buy.......so you and the original product don't even cross paths again....
Refer to my first paragraph above and you and your man sort that out.....quickly. You not getting any younger, cold hard fact.