Hello - my fiance and I are getting married November 2nd and ever since we got engaged it seems there has been drama. The one issue that hurts us the most is my fiance's mother. She is very opinionated and can have a bad temper. She was so happy for us when we got engaged, but when we asked her for her guest list it started to go sour. She wanted to invite her daughter's husband's brother's son to the wedding, and I explained we are not inviting kids unless they are in the bridal party. I explained that if we invited him, we would have to invite my family's nephews and nieces and the numbers will just get to high. She was very mad at this. So we ended up having 94 guests from his side for the wedding, which to me seems fair, especially since my family is paying for the wedding. She made complaints to my parents saying I told her that she could only invite 30 people, which is a lie. We went back and asked her if she had any other people she wanted to invite and she said no, that she actually wanted to take 2 people off. We later let her even invite the kid to smooth some of the drama.She keeps stating at every opportunity how simple our wedding is to the point of where it becomes offensive, because she brags about a cousin's wedding being posh. She also takes no interest in our plans, but we still tell her the details so she is aware. She then causes fights stating how she is the grooms mother and cant discuss anything. We are at a loss on how to handle the situation, because we are telling her things. She is just not meeting with the vendors, because she is not paying, which is fair in my opinion. We cannot even have our reheresal the night before because she said we are selfish to do that. She also told me it doesnt matter if my friends in the bridal party go to the reheresal. They are just concerned with the gift they will get at the dinner. How she approaches things is just very hurtful and I hate seeing my fiance this upset...
My Maid of Honor is causing problems too especially with my Mom and other bridesmaids. She doesnt answer email or show up when she is supposed to meet my Mom to go over the shower. She doesnt even call to say she cannot make it. Our shower is in a month and she has not planned anything. My other bridesmaids are and I feel bad, because the MOH is supposed to handle. They complained to me all the time about her lack of input and responses. It is to the point that they dont care what she wants. I am just hurt about that too, because she has been standing me up to. She doesnt work and I am always the one calling her to see how she is doing etc.
I just hate that all this drama is affecting this time for our family and my fiance. I am at a loss on how to resolve it though...
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