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southernbelle0915

This week was objectively a shit show. I feel this is necessary. I FLAME the following:

1) Pretty princess days in general. I feel like I fail every time a special snowflake rejects our advice and does it anyway. Are we not being clear? Have the fucking party. Do not have a fake ceremony. Why is that so hard to grasp?

2) Choreographed dances. Whether it's flamenco dancers or surprises for the groom... just no. Your wedding is not a performance or a talent show. Knock that shit off.

3) Requiring two years of WP participation and mandatory events. Can someone please explain to me how anyone could even think that's acceptable? The OP DD's and is probably never coming back. 

4) Bridesmaid =/= Brideslave. I will never understand how people think they can demand things of and fire their BMs for not pouring over them or throwing them a jack and jill fundraiser. Serious entitlement.

5) DD's. wth is going on this week?

6) Tiered receptions. If you have been on the etiquette board this week, you know.

I have almost felt like we are being punked. So much stupid in one week. 

Chipmunk415

OP, I agree, except for the choreographed dancers to a point. I'm a swing dancer (big band, jazz), and taught FI a lot of the basics. We decided to have one dance for the family (he's not a big dancer, but he knows I love it so he's making one sacrifice for me), and we're choreographing it 1) because he gets nervous being the center of attention and he doesn't want to drop/trip me and 2) I normally dance in flats and jeans- now I'll have on heels and a dress. We're more or less practicing just so he can get used to not being able to hold me as close due to the skirt of my dress and so I can get used to moving around in a nearly floor length dress by wearing the crinoline.

NYCBruin

@southernbelle0915 are you trying to get surprised banned?

That type of logic has no place on TK.

And we all know why this week was a shit-show....

NYCBruin

alisonmarie658 said:

I flame everyone with a thick head who can't understand that tradition =/= proper etiquette.

IRL, I want to flame labmate who hasn't showered in a week. 7 days until I'm free of him forever.

Especially when they are picking and choosing which "traditions" to follow.  I'm not saying it would be correct etiquette-wise to still do a rude tradition, but it would annoy me a lot less if the wedding included ALL the traditions of 1910 weddings.

MayDay513

southernbelle0915 said:

This week was objectively a shit show. I feel this is necessary. I FLAME the following:

1) Pretty princess days in general. I feel like I fail every time a special snowflake rejects our advice and does it anyway. Are we not being clear? Have the fucking party. Do not have a fake ceremony. Why is that so hard to grasp?

2) Choreographed dances. Whether it's flamenco dancers or surprises for the groom... just no. Your wedding is not a performance or a talent show. Knock that shit off.

3) Requiring two years of WP participation and mandatory events. Can someone please explain to me how anyone could even think that's acceptable? The OP DD's and is probably never coming back. 

4) Bridesmaid =/= Brideslave. I will never understand how people think they can demand things of and fire their BMs for not pouring over them or throwing them a jack and jill fundraiser. Serious entitlement.

5) DD's. wth is going on this week?

6) Tiered receptions. If you have been on the etiquette board this week, you know.

I have almost felt like we are being punked. So much stupid in one week. 

I ditto number 5 big time. And I missed one yesterday because no one quoted come on ladies.
I'm happy for the weekend. Would it be horrible if I posted all the stuff that went wrong at the wedding I went to yesterday?

KatWAG

I flame, DDs, blaming poor etiquette on being from Canada and disappearing threads.

IRL, I flame my friend who sent me an invite with a mason jar on it and twine. While I love her, i think her wedding is going to be my pinterest nightmare. Oh, did I mention I am part of her wedding "pack"

PrettyGirlLost

Chipmunk415 said:

OP, I agree, except for the choreographed dancers to a point. I'm a swing dancer (big band, jazz), and taught FI a lot of the basics. We decided to have one dance for the family (he's not a big dancer, but he knows I love it so he's making one sacrifice for me), and we're choreographing it 1) because he gets nervous being the center of attention and he doesn't want to drop/trip me and 2) I normally dance in flats and jeans- now I'll have on heels and a dress. We're more or less practicing just so he can get used to not being able to hold me as close due to the skirt of my dress and so I can get used to moving around in a nearly floor length dress by wearing the crinoline.

I think she is referring to choreographed WP dances, or hiring professional dancers to perform as a stage act during the reception.  I didn't take it to me choreographed 1st dances of the B&G.

PrettyGirlLost

KatWAG said:

I flame, DDs, blaming poor etiquette on being from Canada and disappearing threads.

IRL, I flame my friend who sent me an invite with a mason jar on it and twine. While I love her, i think her wedding is going to be my pinterest nightmare. Oh, did I mention I am part of her wedding "pack"

What the fuck is that?  Are you fucking Frank Sinatra or something?

@Southernbelle0915 what thread was this: 3) Requiring two years of WP participation and mandatory events. Can someone please explain to me how anyone could even think that's acceptable? The OP DD's and is probably never coming back.

southernbelle0915

@huynhette - of course you should post all the terribleness, how else can lurkers learn from others' mistakes? 

@prettygirllost - check your PMs for link

NYCMercedes

Thank you x 100 for starting this thread. Can't believe no one here has mentioned the shitstorm letter. I flame that.

KatWAG

PrettyGirlLost said:

KatWAG said:

I flame, DDs, blaming poor etiquette on being from Canada and disappearing threads.

IRL, I flame my friend who sent me an invite with a mason jar on it and twine. While I love her, i think her wedding is going to be my pinterest nightmare. Oh, did I mention I am part of her wedding "pack"

What the fuck is that?  Are you fucking Frank Sinatra or something?

@Southernbelle0915 what thread was this: 3) Requiring two years of WP participation and mandatory events. Can someone please explain to me how anyone could even think that's acceptable? The OP DD's and is probably never coming back.

Honestly, I dont know. Only siblings are standing up with them so I think I have to sit at the front of the church with the othe pack members. And I have to wear something purple and go to the rehearsal.

southernbelle0915

Oh and I flame one more thing: when people justify what they're doing because "the royals did it". 

If you're not (truly) a fucking princess, then you cannot compare your wedding to theirs. Are you marrying the heir to the British throne? No? Then STFU about "the royals" and go read a tabloid.

MayDay513

Ok I am back. I attended a wedding yesterday. It was a beautiful location. I am happy for the bride and groom. Beautiful day, and of course it was successful because they got married. I enjoyed the chocolate fountain and dessert bar. But there were a couple things I would have done differently.

Etiquette breaches

12 chairs -80-100 guests. for ceremony. 25 people got the memo about blankets to sit on the ground. Other guests stood, squatted, and walked around awkwardly. ONE CHAIR EVERY BUTT.

They told had someone telling everyone that chairs were reserved for elder 49 and up. 1. Elderly is not 49. 2. still not enough chairs.

Reception - Ran out of paper plates. Last 30 people had to eat off of multiple dessert plates.

Personal preferences - All my peeves are about communication...
If doing an outdoor ceremony, please figure out a way (good sound system etc) so that your guests can actually hear the ceremony. I know lots of brides are like I don't want people playing on their phones (I was one of them), well then make it so people can hear and engage in what is going on, straining to hear for 25 minutes is not fun, and people get bored/give up/ and will pull out their phones. I actually like hearing the ceremony.

If you will have tables released for lunch/dinner/ food buffet line, make sure people can actually hear this. 100 people in a room it gets a little loud.

Signage is helpful. Especially when at a giant state park, specific details on where to park is helpful.

As a wedding guest, I enjoy being able hear toasts, watch the cake cutting, watch the first dance. Please make an announcement if you are going to do these. B&Gs your guests love you and are happy for you and would like to participate too.

MayDay513

Lastly, I would like to flame all the people for not quoting who knows it may be a dd.
Also can we stop bringing back threads from 2012? PLEASE!?!

NYCBruin

huynhette said:

Lastly, I would like to flame all the people for not quoting who knows it may be a dd.
Also can we stop bringing back threads from 2012? PLEASE!?!

So much this!  I am so sick of newbs searching for something just to pull up a thread from years ago JUST to call everyone in that thread (who probably no longer post) bitches or some other horrible name.  Like if you want to call people bitches or bridezillas (I never understood how telling someone that they shouldn't be rude to their guests makes you a bridezilla, but whatever) for saying that asking for cash is rude, you can do so on one of the many recent threads on the topic.  No need to bring back a thread from 2010 just to say that people here are mean and "It's YOUR day, do what YOU want"

Also, because so many people have requested their accounts be deleted, may of the zombie threads make no fucking sense since have the posts no longer exist.  It's really annoying to read.

itzMS

huynhette said:

Lastly, I would like to flame all the people for not quoting who knows it may be a dd.
Also can we stop bringing back threads from 2012? PLEASE!?!

I don't think you can quote on the Mobile TK site yet (or I haven't figured out how when I'm on Mobile). They may WANT go quote...but can't. :-)

MayDay513

itzMS said:

huynhette said:

Lastly, I would like to flame all the people for not quoting who knows it may be a dd.
Also can we stop bringing back threads from 2012? PLEASE!?!

I don't think you can quote on the Mobile TK site yet (or I haven't figured out how when I'm on Mobile). They may WANT go quote...but can't. :-)

Ok fine! I forgive. JK. That makes sense.:)

Simply Fated

southernbelle0915 said:

This week was objectively a shit show. I feel this is necessary. I FLAME the following:

1) Pretty princess days in general. I feel like I fail every time a special snowflake rejects our advice and does it anyway. Are we not being clear? Have the fucking party. Do not have a fake ceremony. Why is that so hard to grasp?

2) Choreographed dances. Whether it's flamenco dancers or surprises for the groom... just no. Your wedding is not a performance or a talent show. Knock that shit off.

3) Requiring two years of WP participation and mandatory events. Can someone please explain to me how anyone could even think that's acceptable? The OP DD's and is probably never coming back. 

4) Bridesmaid =/= Brideslave. I will never understand how people think they can demand things of and fire their BMs for not pouring over them or throwing them a jack and jill fundraiser. Serious entitlement.

5) DD's. wth is going on this week?

6) Tiered receptions. If you have been on the etiquette board this week, you know.

I have almost felt like we are being punked. So much stupid in one week. 

  Something similar happened to me. They didn't plan on having a long engagement, but it lasted 2 years, about a year longer than they had wanted. Anyway, I attended so many bridal party events, it was silly. At least they were all nice people and I enjoyed spending time with them. But, yeah, if you missed to many events the bride and groom questioned your loyalty or what ever. I don't blame my friend, she was definitely given bad advice from other people. Insane.

KatWAG

I would also like to flame TK. I would like to be able to see who loved which posts.

PrettyGirlLost

NYCMercedes said:

Thank you x 100 for starting this thread. Can't believe no one here has mentioned the shitstorm letter. I flame that.

I must have missed that thread. . .

KatWAG said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

KatWAG said:

I flame, DDs, blaming poor etiquette on being from Canada and disappearing threads.

IRL, I flame my friend who sent me an invite with a mason jar on it and twine. While I love her, i think her wedding is going to be my pinterest nightmare. Oh, did I mention I am part of her wedding "pack"

What the fuck is that?  Are you fucking Frank Sinatra or something?

@Southernbelle0915 what thread was this: 3) Requiring two years of WP participation and mandatory events. Can someone please explain to me how anyone could even think that's acceptable? The OP DD's and is probably never coming back.

Honestly, I dont know. Only siblings are standing up with them so I think I have to sit at the front of the church with the othe pack members. And I have to wear something purple and go to the rehearsal.

Huh?!

So you are technically a guest, but they are trying to dictate your attire and they want you to go to the rehearsal and do what?

oh Honey, I have a feeling this is gonna be a rough one.  How do you feel about being required to wear something particular if you aren't in the WP?

shaylagirl

I also loved yours @KatWAG.  Dunno who the third anon person is.

MobKaz

First time flamer. I flame the influx of new posters who all, oddly enough, have made their first post a "hot topic post". Questions about the MOB wearing white, throwing their own showers, PPD's, kicking out BM's.....the list goes on. Is this some sort of test?

KatWAG

@alisonmarie658 @shaylagirlYou are making my blush

I am always so curious as to who likes the posts that promote really bad ideas. I also want to know who appreciates my snark

KatWAG

@prettygirllost I am not trying to justify waht they are doing. It is werid and I am rolling with it because I am close with both the B&G. Luckily I look fab in purple, so its not really a problem!

NYCMercedes

@prettygirllost, Carly's letter and the five page thread that followed.

Jessa617

I have to agree with everyone else here...what's with the massive DDs this week?? 

I flame the idea of people not being able to take constructive criticism when it comes to etiquette. 

allispain

huynhette said:

Lastly, I would like to flame all the people for not quoting who knows it may be a dd.
Also can we stop bringing back threads from 2012? PLEASE!?!

Ugh. Totally agree with this. I get so annoyed on the days when I'm not totally with it, and I see the name of a thread and think "Wow, this one really needs some help!" So I click on it and start reading, only to realize it's 2-3 years old. Waste of my valuable advice-giving time.

PrettyGirlLost

KatWAG said:

@prettygirllost I am not trying to justify waht they are doing. It is werid and I am rolling with it because I am close with both the B&G. Luckily I look fab in purple, so its not really a problem!

Oh I know you aren't trying to justify it!  I was just curious how you felt about it/what you wanted to do since they are your friends.

May I suggest this dress: http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/lauren-ralph-lauren-sequin-off-shoulder-mesh-sheath-dress-regular-petite/3548483?origin=related-3548483-0-1-1-2-Rich Relevence&PageCategoryId=PP

PrettyGirlLost

NYCMercedes said:

@prettygirllost, Carly's letter and the five page thread that followed.

Oh, hahahaha!  I thought you meant a wedding related letter ;-)

Simply Fated

NYCMercedes said:

@prettygirllost, Carly's letter and the five page thread that followed.

The what?

NYCMercedes

@simplyfated, I cannot link anymore so was being vague. Look at Knottie Tech Help.