My best friend's mom decided that she wants to throw me a bridal shower, pretty much before my FI and I were even engaged (she knew about it because my FI had called my best friend who is also my MOH for proposal ideas, so she told her mom we'd be getting engaged, and her mom said she wants to throw a shower). This is my second marriage, and we're having a very small wedding, just our parents, our siblings and their families, 3 of my aunts, 1 cousin, 2 of each of our friends as our wedding party (and my MOH's husband), and one more friend who is marrying us. We're taking our guests out to dinner afterwards at one of our favorite restaurants as our reception. So, very small. I know traditional etiquette states that guests invited to the bridal shower should be invited to the wedding, and since we're inviting so few people to the wedding, do I really need to have a bridal shower? I don't really want one, especially since I did all that the first time around and I don't want to seem like I'm just digging for gifts, but I don't want to hurt my MOH's mom's feelings. She's known me since I was 11, so we're pretty much family. Would it be ok if I tell her I would rather her just take me, my best friend and my mom out for lunch as a sort of bridal luncheon? I understand that she just wants to do something nice for me, and I appreciate it so much, but I just feel uncomfortable having a shower since we're having such a small wedding and since I've been married before. Thoughts?
