Our wedding is on Sep. 28th. We sent out out 240 invitations the last week of July, with a "reply by" date of Aug 23. We have only received 170 back! WHY???? IT TAKES AT THE MOST 30 SECONDS to write your name on the card, and drop it i the mail! Oh, and if that's too much trouble for you, we put our online RSVP option on the RSVP card as well. People are so stinkin rude!
What frustrates me the most is that my FMIL had a huge guest list. 99% of the list live out of state, so she made it clear that most wouldn't come, but that out of formality, we should invite them. Both her and my fiancé stressed how big of a deal it was for these people to receive invites, and that out of "respect" we should invite them, blah blah blah.....well if it was such a big deal for them to receive invites, then why can't they be mutually respectful?? Please keep in mind that including postage, each invitation came out to approx $3....at 240 invitations, do the math! I'm sick thinking about how much we spent on invites for rude people who can't reply.
To top all that, we received the room block list from the hotel yesterday, and several people who have not yet RSVP'd, have in fact booked their rooms. So, you can take the time to book your room, but not actually tell US you're coming? Thanks for only thinking of yourself people!!
In retrospect- I should have created 2 different versions of the invite, the nice version, and also one very basic version for the people who "we know are not coming". The basic version would still be pretty, but no pocket fold, no ribbon tied around it, and only an online RSVP requested....saving material and postage!
I won't do it, but I'm tempted to not even reach out to be the remaining RSVPs. I'm tempted to just not create escort cards for those who didn't reply! If you can't fill out an RSVP, then I don't have the to find you a seat a the reception.
I have asked my FMIL to call the folks from her list who have not RSVP'd...and my bridesmaids are calling the rest.
Sigh....I'm only venting.