First off, I'm on my phone so I apologize for wonky formatting. I am attempting paragraphs, I swear. Secondly, this is obviously a dummy account because my old one would probably be very easy to identify me through, and I have a feeling this bridesmaid is on this site.
I don't feel I ask a lot of my bridesmaids. I don't ask them to make center pieces, or help with invitations, or accompany me to bridal expos. I let them pick their own black dress, no restrictions on length, style, neckline, fabric, anything. If there's an accent color on it, fine. If it's made of glitter, go for it. Black pantsuit? Just as good, go nuts. I don't care what their hair looks like, if they opt to do their nails, what jewelry they wear.
To make a long story short, I have one bridesmaid that is being a bit of a handful. They threw me a bachelorette party (which was amazing of them, I love them for all the work they put into this) and until the day of, this bridesmaid insisted she wasn't coming. That's fine, everyone has their own lives, no big deal.
Except she did come. From start to finish, it was nonstop whining and complaining about not liking the drinks, not feeling pretty enough, not liking the locations, not wanting to dance and she even said to me before we left the house, "I don't even want to go do this." And if she wasn't whining, she was sermonizing to everyone else present about every minute detail of HER wedding...she is not engaged. But it was so over the top negativity coming from her, that I welcomed the topic, because it was the only time she wasn't moping or crying about everything. During a weekend long party.
This is already exceedingly long and I apologize. I'm heavily editing because this is basically just a post to vent and let myself say (type, I guess) that if this is how she behaves on the wedding day, I have no problem asking her to leave and accepting the friendship as dead.
Re: Bridesmaid Vent
Her victim mentality is unparalleled, so if I bring it up, it's sure to be her (very sweet and accommodating) sister's fault, or her mother's for not giving her more spending money, or her boyfriend's fault for not packing her bags for her. Reality and responsibility are foreign words to her.