Drunk at wedding

cmelliott

This is pretty much an opinion question but I was just thinking, do you guys think it's tacky for the bride and/or groom to get drunk at their own wedding?

harper0813

I find it shocking - I don't know how a bride and/or groom are able to make it to the bar enough to get drunk. I was only able to drink one beer and a glass of water at the wedding. I was so dehydrated by the end of the night. People kept stopping me to talk.

banana468

cmelliott said:

This is pretty much an opinion question but I was just thinking, do you guys think it's tacky for the bride and/or groom to get drunk at their own wedding?

Yes.

Your guests want to be able to talk to you and not be faced with a stumbling, speech-slurring person in fancy attire.

I also don't get WHY the bride and groom do this. You plan that event for months. Don't you want to remember it the best way possible?

STARMOON44

Yes. lol.

southernbelle0915

Buzzed, no. Drunk, yes.

lol

Jen4948

Yes.  People who get drunk are not cute, clever, or funny.

simplykayla

I just don't care much for drunk people in general haha, especially at weddings, and especially the bride and groom.

My opinion on this probably came from my aunt's wedding. Her husband got smashed and she had to practically carry him to the honeymoon sweet. My grandpa (the bride's dad) also got pretty wasted and wandered around the reception all evening asking people for gum. When he finally got some, he felt that it was necessary to breathe into everyone's faces saying "I got gum!". It was funny in retrospect, but also horribly embarrassing for him.

cmelliott

simplykayla said:

I just don't care much for drunk people in general haha, especially at weddings, and especially the bride and groom.

My opinion on this probably came from my aunt's wedding. Her husband got smashed and she had to practically carry him to the honeymoon sweet. My grandpa (the bride's dad) also got pretty wasted and wandered around the reception all evening asking people for gum. When he finally got some, he felt that it was necessary to breathe into everyone's faces saying "I got gum!". It was funny in retrospect, but also horribly embarrassing for him.

Yea I got a chuckle out of that but definitely embarrassing for the person I can assume! I normally don't drink a lot but was thinking about letting my wedding be an opportunity to "let loose" and I was just wondering everyone's opinion on this topic.

SKPM

cmelliott said:

simplykayla said:

I just don't care much for drunk people in general haha, especially at weddings, and especially the bride and groom.

My opinion on this probably came from my aunt's wedding. Her husband got smashed and she had to practically carry him to the honeymoon sweet. My grandpa (the bride's dad) also got pretty wasted and wandered around the reception all evening asking people for gum. When he finally got some, he felt that it was necessary to breathe into everyone's faces saying "I got gum!". It was funny in retrospect, but also horribly embarrassing for him.

Yea I got a chuckle out of that but definitely embarrassing for the person I can assume! I normally don't drink a lot but was thinking about letting my wedding be an opportunity to "let loose" and I was just wondering everyone's opinion on this topic.

I don't understand why you would decide to use your wedding as "an opportunity to let loose." You are the hostess of what is likely the biggest social event you will ever host. Why would you want to be sloppy and drunk and risk not remembering the evening? There are plenty of opportunities to let loose, including anyone else's wedding.

cmelliott

SKPM said:

cmelliott said:

simplykayla said:

I just don't care much for drunk people in general haha, especially at weddings, and especially the bride and groom.

My opinion on this probably came from my aunt's wedding. Her husband got smashed and she had to practically carry him to the honeymoon sweet. My grandpa (the bride's dad) also got pretty wasted and wandered around the reception all evening asking people for gum. When he finally got some, he felt that it was necessary to breathe into everyone's faces saying "I got gum!". It was funny in retrospect, but also horribly embarrassing for him.

Yea I got a chuckle out of that but definitely embarrassing for the person I can assume! I normally don't drink a lot but was thinking about letting my wedding be an opportunity to "let loose" and I was just wondering everyone's opinion on this topic.

I don't understand why you would decide to use your wedding as "an opportunity to let loose." You are the hostess of what is likely the biggest social event you will ever host. Why would you want to be sloppy and drunk and risk not remembering the evening? There are plenty of opportunities to let loose, including anyone else's wedding.

Our families are more of drinkers so it's something we come from. And I've never been drunk enough to not remember an evening and I wouldn't plan on doing that.

misssunshine17

I think there's a fine line. Buzzed and having the time of your life? Fabulous. Slurring speech and falling over? Not cute. 

APDSS22

Yes, it is super tacky when the bride and/or groom are smashed.  Feel free to use your honeymoon as an opportunity to "let loose".

MrsLillyG

I think its funny.

mommapizano

I think it's embarrassing when the bride or groom is super drunk. I went to a wedding where the groom was trashed and ended up fighting the cook in the back because he thought the food was bad and cold. 

grumbledore

Fine line for me. Drunk and acting trashy - ew. Drinking and having fun, awesome.

cruffino

Meh. It's one of those things that can end badly. Sloppy or belligerent drunks are never cute. But some people can hold their liquor.

phira

I wouldn't call it tacky. I'd think it would be inappropriate. To me, tacky is more of a taste issue and is a bit more loaded in terms of how it's related to class. In this case, getting shitfaced at a wedding, especially you own wedding, just seems inappropriate.

laylasaurus

Depends on how they handle their liquor.  I know some people that can drink a ton and while they certainly shouldn't and couldn't do anything like drive a car,  they don't become belligerent or sloppy messes.  They just get very..jolly.  There is certainly a line.  A friend of mine got drunk enough that she passed out next to the bonfire at her wedding.  But it's a know your crowd and atmosphere time.   We had all been celebrating from 5pm till 4am by that point.  All the older people had left and it was just all the couples closest friends camping out by the fire.  Someone running off into the woods to puke wasn't exactly out of  place.  Had we been in a fancy venue then sure, that kind of drinking would have seemed way less appropriate.  It was the only time I've ever seen her dad really drunk, and it was hilarious, he was dancing with everyone and randomly singing and playing folk songs on his guitar (this was after the band left). 

I don't plan on drinking much while our families are around, but I know our friends are going to want to keep partying late into the night, so yeah, we are probably going to get pretty drunk.  To the point of throwing up and stumbling around and forgetting the whole night...no, not that hammered.  There is definitely a line between drinking heavily and keeping it fun and drinking too heavily and it not being fun.     

daria24

Falling down sloppy drunk? I side-eye anyone in any situation that is behaving like that. However if the b+g is intoxicated and having a lot of fun, it's towards the end of the night when many of the older guests have gone home and it's just "party time" whatever, have fun. I only managed to have about 3/4 of a drink at my own wedding.

southernbelle0915

Jen4948 said:

Yes.  People who get drunk are not cute, clever, or funny.

Speak for yourself, Jen. When I am drunk, I know for a fact that I am more cute, more clever, and more funny. /*sarcasm

When I am drunk, I also generally believe I am sexier than normal, that I am whispering when I am indeed yelling, that I'm a really good dancer, and that I can win any bet. I also make sure everyone has drinks (often by running my bar tab more than I should) and that my friends know how much I love them.

bullfrogmama

I agree with everyone who said there is a difference between drunk and obliterated. I was definitely drunk at my wedding, but I did not black out, fall down or in any other way act a fool. Except for during the electric slide... But that was before I was drunk and would have happened stone cold sober.

For those who are shocked at how anyone had time to get drunk at their wedding... Clearly you don't have the right friends. (Kidding!) but I never had an empty glass all night bc people were bringing me drinks constantly.

WonderRed

IT'S MY WEDDING!  I'LL DO WHAT I WANT!!

WonderRed

Sarcasm aside, I'm almost afraid to drink at mine because I sometimes have weird reactions when I drink under stress and, now and then, drinks sneak up on me and kick my ass when I don't realize it.   I'm ok with buzzed but hammered is just tacky and rude.

cmelliott

I'm going to try to find that right amount of drunk without being over the top sloppy.

winelover123

I plan on remembering my wedding and not puking that night. Buzzed is fine, in my book, but drunk is not cool.

melbelleup

I find it completely rude/tacky. I'm all for having a good time, but do it AFTER the wedding reception. Get buzzed before hand and drunk after if that's what you desire. I've only witnessed it once (in october) and it was obvious she was drunk as hell, but so was the wedding party and her family.

ashleyep

bullfrogmama said:

I agree with everyone who said there is a difference between drunk and obliterated. I was definitely drunk at my wedding, but I did not black out, fall down or in any other way act a fool. Except for during the electric slide... But that was before I was drunk and would have happened stone cold sober. For those who are shocked at how anyone had time to get drunk at their wedding... Clearly you don't have the right friends. (Kidding!) but I never had an empty glass all night bc people were bringing me drinks constantly.

At my cousin's wedding, she had her own personal waiter who kept bringing her drinks. And everyone else kept getting drinks for her.

I don't go to *any* wedding with the intention of getting drunk, but if I have a drink in my hand for 5 hours, it's going to happen, and tends to happen (NOT fall down, puking drunk btw!). I'm hoping that that won't happen at my wedding - that I'll be too busy with photos during cocktail hour and visiting tables during dinner. I also have a bad habit of not eating when I'm stressed, so that makes for a bad combination. I've already warned my sister that she has to force me to eat haha.

Maggie0829

H got incredibly drunk at our wedding.  But he held it together well.  I and pretty much everyone else thought that he just had a good buzz.  That is until all the guests had left and we were getting ready to leave ourselves.  I think once he stepped outside and got some fresh air it all hit him at once and it was down hill from there.  But I didn't care.  He had a great time with his family and friends and that is all that mattered.

Come to think of it a lot of people (including my parents) got quite buzzed or drunk at our wedding. But our family and friends are big time party people so it was pretty much expected.  We wanted our reception to be a huge party and that is exactly what happened.

I know I had a good buzz going.  H and I never did not have a drink in our hands.  Our friends would go to the bar and refill our drinks whenever they saw we were getting low.  I don't think I went to the bar and asked for a drink all night.

All the weddings that I have attended I have never gone to with the intention to get drunk.  The one's where I did get pretty wasted were one's that were boring as hell so the only thing that there was to do was drink.  I also got drunk at one wedding and didn't even realize I was headed that way because the pour at the bar was so small that I was going through glasses of wine like they were water.  I had no idea that I had pretty much drank a bottle and a half of wine because it was served in itty bitty glasses.  But I will say that I do keep my composure (I tend to get tired and then just sit and talk to H and close friends) and have never once been "that girl" falling all over the place and looking sloppy...I hold that in until I have to make the walk to my front door.

harper0813

You should drink heavily every other night in the weeks leading up to your wedding so you can build up your tolerance and handle your liquor better at your wedding.

grumbledore

zobird said:

You should drink heavily every other night in the weeks leading up to your wedding so you can build up your tolerance and handle your liquor better at your wedding.

Lmao

SunriseAmber

I obviously have an unpop opinion. I really don't care if the bride and groom get drunk. If you already had the ceremony, already talked to all your guest and now it's time for dancing and laughing and having a party then why not? I don't drink much and neither does FI so we won't be drunk at our wedding but if someone else does it, who cares? Have fun and let loose!